Why are single moms the devil again?

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I agree wholeheartedly. Until the males get their shyt together it's best that the females use birth control.

I realize that males can use birth control too. The consequences for the female are more dire since the male can flee, so with the most to lose, females have to be more careful.

i agree but that still puts the onus completely on the woman, who then in turn is shamed for not walking away from the direct result of both of their actions.

i actually would suggest that women abstaining from sex is the best option.
[probably not the most realistic] but i completely believe it would be the most effective

birth control isnt 100% effective and men lie. as many self proclaimed "good guys" that we have on here, theres no shortage of "thats that bytches problem" "not my fault if her bc failed"
"she just needs to take care of it/ abort it" "she can make me pay child support but she cant make me be a father/ be involved" "im just tryna fukk, i will tell whatever lie i have to "

sex is great and wonderful, raw sex is great and wonderful. theres potential consequences for both.

and as much gnashing of teeth and wrending of garments that would happen if women stopped having premarital sex , men would get over it or get married.
or there would still always be prostitution and they could pay for having no responsibility at all.
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because a couple of dudes got their hearts broke in high school or cant get any p*ssy now
or
because they dislike their own momma for not pickin a better daddy for them
or
because the coli told them so
:yeshrug:

Single mothers aren't seen as the devil

Broken Families are seen as the devil and that is what she represents her fault or not

If a man doesn't marry the mother of his child then he is a coward

That's why women who have children with men who have multiple children are equally guilty

It is what it is

We are all selfish
 
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i agree but that still puts the onus completely on the woman, who then in turn is shamed for not walking away from the direct result of both of their actions.

i actually would suggest that women abstaining from sex is the best option.
[probably not the most realistic] but i completely believe it would be the most effective

birth control isnt 100% effective and men lie. as many self proclaimed "good guys" that we have on here, theres no shortage of "thats that bytches problem" "not my fault if her bc failed"
"she just needs to take care of it/ abort it" "she can make me pay child support but she cant make me be a father/ be involved" "im just tryna fukk, i will tell whatever lie i have to "

sex is great and wonderful, raw sex is great and wonderful. theres potential consequences for both.

and as much gnashing of teeth and wrending of garments that would happen if women stopped having premarital sex , men would get over it or get married.
or there would still always be prostitution and they could pay for having no responsibility at all.
:yeshrug:
U got to know what type of man u dealing with beforehand. Woman got the power to make the descion to give the cookie up
 

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i agree but that still puts the onus completely on the woman, who then in turn is shamed for not walking away from the direct result of both of their actions.

i actually would suggest that women abstaining from sex is the best option.
[probably not the most realistic] but i completely believe it would be the most effective

birth control isnt 100% effective and men lie. as many self proclaimed "good guys" that we have on here, theres no shortage of "thats that bytches problem" "not my fault if her bc failed"
"she just needs to take care of it/ abort it" "she can make me pay child support but she cant make me be a father/ be involved" "im just tryna fukk, i will tell whatever lie i have to "

sex is great and wonderful, raw sex is great and wonderful. theres potential consequences for both.

and as much gnashing of teeth and wrending of garments that would happen if women stopped having premarital sex , men would get over it or get married.
or there would still always be prostitution and they could pay for having no responsibility at all.
:yeshrug:

Why shouldn't the onus be put on women? It's their body, they are the people makers. And abstaining from sex is what our grand and great grand mothers tried when they were trying to lock down a husband. It's like people forget how the old folks did things. Being a single mom back in days was a no no. Women now forgot their roots, they try to be too much like men but fail at every attempt.
 

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Your mommy black analogy

somebody posted the stat upthread
but if 70% of black children are born out of wedlock
and most of yall claim to be black
a good portion should have been born out of wedlock no??

i mean i know everybody here is 6 ft 6 certs 6 figures etc
but you mean to tell me we only have in wedlock birth babies posting here too?

this site is amazing
:krs:
 

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Why shouldn't the onus be put on women? It's their body, they are the people makers. And abstaining from sex is what our grand and great grand mothers tried when they were trying to lock down a husband. It's like people forget how the old folks did things. Being a single mom back in days was a no no. Women now forgot their roots, they try to be too much like men but fail at every attempt.

so you agree with me then
women should abstain.

U got to know what type of man u dealing with beforehand. Woman got the power to make the descion to give the cookie up

you should absolutely know what kind of man youre dealing with beforehand, but we all know that people sometimes wait to show their true colors. how many of us have dated someone and then realized they werent at all what we though? hell at the very least me @BmoreGorilla and @General Mills have married someone who wasnt what we thought.
be particular and pick better should be the norm, its simply not foolproof.

i am positive that most of the loud "pick better!" camp on here [not you ] has been in a position where they have picked wrong also, they just may not have a child to show for it and that was most likely more from luck than careful planning.
 

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I know are our nemisis in TLR but can't remember why
Can someone remind me?
Not trying to start shyt :whoa:
Let me guess ... you found a single mom that you want to take seriously ...and you can't remember all the warnings that were posted about them ...or naw ...
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so you agree with me then
women should abstain.



you should absolutely know what kind of man youre dealing with beforehand, but we all know that people sometimes wait to show their true colors. how many of us have dated someone and then realized they werent at all what we though? hell at the very least me @BmoreGorilla and @General Mills have married someone who wasnt what we thought.
be particular and pick better should be the norm, its simply not foolproof.

i am positive that most of the loud "pick better!" camp on here [not you ] has been in a position where they have picked wrong also, they just may not have a child to show for it and that was most likely more from luck than careful planning.
Your right I hear u. But ijs some of these woman are out her procreating with men with multiple bm or have jail record or checkered past of non commitment. U got to talk to him his family people who know him investigate because men will play u
 
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