Why do men give up on love so fast?

[Elle Driver]

Even tho women are the ones made of emotions, men are the most unrealistic when it comes to the opposite sex. Most women know love=work. We know the nitty gritty ins and outs.

But men reside in a world of fantasy when it comes to women. For some their only teachers in intimacy is porn. So when faced with the reality that women are, oh I dunno, human, some can't handle it.

Not to mention the choices some are making in women. Oftentimes, men resent women so much for their initial choice in a chick, that they can't emotionally bounce back.

Then they go around trying to punish all women for their impaired judgement...

The fantasy is sold to them from childhood so when they find out that women are human beings and we have our own faults and flaws, it crushes them and they can't handle it.

 

[MikelArteta]

Notice only women dap this foolishness.

A man does everything, he has to be funny good looking, good job, love and respect her, chase her, get down on one knee ask for marriage, be a provider, make her feel secure and all for what?

No one works harder in relationships then men.

Men aren't the ones abandoning relationships at 75% a clip

Even tho women are the ones made of emotions, men are the most unrealistic when it comes to the opposite sex. Most women know love=work. We know the nitty gritty ins and outs.

But men reside in a world of fantasy when it comes to women. For some their only teachers in intimacy is porn. So when faced with the reality that women are, oh I dunno, human, some can't handle it.

Not to mention the choices some are making in women. Oftentimes, men resent women so much for their initial choice in a chick, that they can't emotionally bounce back.

Then they go around trying to punish all women for their impaired judgement...

 

[The Maverick]

Even tho women are the ones made of emotions, men are the most unrealistic when it comes to the opposite sex. Most women know love=work. We know the nitty gritty ins and outs.

But men reside in a world of fantasy when it comes to women. For some their only teachers in intimacy is porn. So when faced with the reality that women are, oh I dunno, human, some can't handle it.

Not to mention the choices some are making in women. Oftentimes, men resent women so much for their initial choice in a chick, that they can't emotionally bounce back.

Then they go around trying to punish all women for their impaired judgement...

I gotta disagree with this post on multiple levels. I feel like once women see the nitty gritty of being in a relationship, their resolve starts to wane. They've been sold the big wedding, prince charming, etc since grade school. Once a dude loses his job, loses a family member, or falls on hard times in general, it's deuces. Because the dynamic is different, women get approached and offered romance. Men are the ones doing the offering. So a lot of men are weary of love just based on the fact that we have a lot more to lose.

A woman loses almost nothing if she finds a guy better than the one she has today and moves on. She probably wasn't the one doing the providing, paying for the dates, anything. As a matter of fact, a woman can make out with a lot if she leaves in the middle of a marriage. The same doesn't apply to men.

A wise man is going to be more cautious about opening up to love, and who he chooses to open up to. And rightfully so.

 

[Remote]

The fantasy is sold to them from childhood so when they find out that women are human beings and we have our own faults and flaws, it crushes them and they can't handle it.

You mean girls aren't sold that fairy tale of princes rescuing their princesses and living happily ever after?

Most women know that love = work?

Define that "work", tho.

Because some women only do certain "work" on "special occassions"





To be fair I should have just quoted @Booksnrain but meh...

@Emperor_ReinScarf

I'm just messing around tho.
Happy Easter, yall.

 

[MikelArteta]

I'd say though for both genders after being screwed around by some one you love your heart does harden.

 

[BlackManLiveFromLondon]

A lot of you females need to go back to The Salon now, playtimes over

 

[MikelArteta]

BTW I'll tell you about the last time I was in love.

Never cheated, lied, abused. Respected her, loved her, parents loved her. Mom called her , her other daughter. Went on family trips, family bbqs All of that. She lost her job and was facing homelessness allowed her to rent free , hell i even got her a job as she went from making 12 a hour to over 50k a year and how was I repaid being screwed over and infected with a treatable std.

And that took me years to get over, so miss me with that diving in head first into love. You can screen choose wisely and all that but people change.

Not saying I'll never love again but she will Have to be special as hell

 

[SheeBadd]

Most Males Egos Are Fragile

 

[SheeBadd]

BTW I'll tell you about the last time I was in love.

Never cheated, lied, abused. Respected her, loved her, parents loved her. Mom called her , her other daughter. Went on family trips, family bbqs All of that. She lost her job and was facing homelessness allowed her to rent free , hell i even got her a job as she went from making 12 a hour to over 50k a year and how was I repaid being screwed over and infected with a treatable std.

And that took me years to get over, so miss me with that diving in head first into love. You can screen choose wisely and all that but people change.

Not saying I'll never love again but she will Have to be special as hell

 

[Elle Driver]

You mean girls aren't sold that fairy tale of princes rescuing their princesses and living happily ever after?

Most women know that love = work?

Define that "work", tho.

Because some women only do certain "work" on "special occassions"





To be fair I should have just quoted @Booksnrain but meh...

@Emperor_ReinScarf

I'm just messing around tho.
Happy Easter, yall.

That doesn't apply to me although I will agree that we are sold a fantasy too.

 

[AquaCityBoy]

When youre in some good p*ssy and down the line, she cheats on you, it'd rip your heart out and have you considering men, or trannies at the very least.

Back me up on this, brehs

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

Man, I keep forgetting the average age of the cats in here is like 20.

Y'all have NO idea what awaits you later, so giving up now when you're just getting started in life is a bigger mistake than you realize right now.

With that said, Imma leave y'all with this........

Spoiler: LYRICS

If you're bleeding,
Then everyone can see you're bleeding
They can call for the doctor,
Who'll provide what the diagnosis says you're needing
Then he'll take away your pain
But if your heart,
Your heart has been broken
And you don't wear it on your sleeve
No one can tell,
Your hell goes unspoken
But there's one thing you must believe

Time heals the wounds no one can see
Time heals the wounds that no one can see

If you're crying
Then everyone can see you crying
And they all sympathize
But it just doesn't matter
Though they may be trying,
They can't feel the hurt inside
You can't go on,
You've gone to the limit
And your life seems to slip away
You're on your own
Alone you must face it
And tomorrow's so far away

You got to hold on baby
Got to give it time to heal
Time heals the wounds that no one can see
You must believe what they say is true
It do's wonders for ya, yeah, yeah

 

[DarkHorse23]

You know I had time to think about it, and as men we SHOULDN'T give up on love, but that doesn't mean we should entertain the MAJORITY of these american women(and speaking as a black man) the majority of these african american women either. We should seek out black women from other countries, or if we are going to deal with black women from north america ONLY deal with the ones that are about something and leave all the thots, rachets and self entitled ones ALONE. Infact we should start today acting like they don't exist. Stop going to clubs and bars and approaching them, buying drinks for them. Stop liking their photos on IG and other social media sites. Stop talking about them on the coli and making threads about them, simply put STOP GIVING THEM ANY ATTENTION OR ACKNOWLEDGEMENT. That's what men and specifically black men need to do in my opinion, and that's what i'm going to do.

 

[old_timer]

for many brehs, their first serious relationship is their first attempt at embracing emotions
due to their inexperience, it does not go well
they get embarrassed and retreat from further exposure

from around 10-11 years old i always tried to embrace reality
not what i wanted it to be,, but what it was
by nature i am very irrational, inconsistent, wishy-washy, and emotional
i knew this about myself
but i tried to let things unfold and not live in denial
i learned that i am often PREDICTABLY irrational
inconsistent on CERTAIN TOPICS
wishy-washy in CERTAIN SITUATIONS
emotional at SPECIFIC TIMES
that self-knowledge helped me realize when i was "reliable"
versus when i wasn't

when i have a more accurate understanding of what signals i broadcast
i have a better understanding of the feedback reactions i get back

compare that to a man just flat out denying his irrational and emotrional sides
pretending that he is by definition 100% reliable
well, he's gonna appear oblivious and unreasonable
and that exposure is gonna sting and he will run from the pain
and who's to blame- well, it can't be him or anything he did
because he is 100% reliable, right??

 

[Arithmetic]

lets let chaz do the talkin

So many great things in this scene homie

First, homie reverses all the way to his destination and it everything was normal. Boss

Second, that test is GOLD. If she's down, she's gonna unlock that door homie