Why do men give up on love so fast?

[Indiglow Meta (R$G)]

It's kinda like this.

Most, not all, but most men were raised to believe women were these angelic, flawless creatures. And we believed we had to be on top of our shyt, basically be the best man we could be in order to attract the best woman.
When that first inevitable betrayal comes, it literally shakes the foundation of a man. You learn that everything you thought women were is a lie. You learn how selfish and cold and callous a woman can be when you no longer have her favor.
Then, the rules change.
You learn that you don't have to be the best man or really even be a good man. All you have to do is be a little bit more exciting and a little bit flashier than the dude she's with now. That's it. There's no honor or depth to it.
You learn that women are as simple as we are.
So we adapt.
We stop giving our all, because it wasn't going to matter anyway.
We stop being honest, because we learn that ya'll don't covet honesty.
We look out for ourselves, because it's what you would do in our situation.

That one woman who got the best of us, well she'll never know, nor would she care.

I'm 31, breh. SHE KNOWS...she cares NOW...and it's too late.

 

[Kane1]

That real love makes you feel like you aren't in control......most men hate not being in control


I ran from love a few times..... Not gonna lie, when I was 19 I was out there killing these chickensSlanging that wood like a MLB player. Ran into this thick young thang.....this girl turned out to be my perfect match Loved my soul....gave me everything I wanted and more. When I started talking about sitting up a business she would hit me with 'so how much WE NEED TO SET ASIDE to get this thing popping!'

Everything was 'WE'......never put anything or anyone before me

I ran.....it was too real for me

 

[Crayola Coyote]

(1) "Love"? Love doesn't exist. Women don't love men, they lust men. there's a difference. A woman only stays with a man as long as she can benefit from him. Whether that be great sex or financial security. That's why she only chases after pretty boys or successful men with money. If you're not in one of those categories then you're invisible to them.

(2) One shytty woman? I've had multiple bad experiences, so as a result i stay to myself and will focus on me.

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THIS. Women ain't shyt and totally useless.

 

[Crayola Coyote]

That real love makes you feel like you aren't in control......most men hate not being in control


I ran from love a few times..... Not gonna lie, when I was 19 I was out there killing these chickensSlanging that wood like a MLB player. Ran into this thick young thang.....this girl turned out to be my perfect match Loved my soul....gave me everything I wanted and more. When I started talking about sitting up a business she would hit me with 'so how much WE NEED TO SET ASIDE to get this thing popping!'

Everything was 'WE'......never put anything or anyone before me

I ran.....it was too real for me

Nah, you missed a bullet. Cause when she is tired of you she gonna take all or half of what you guys built. Women ain't slick.

 

[EffYou]

Fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me

 

[MalikReloaded]

It's funny when you think about it, we do all this for women. Build ourselves up, even if its all a subconscious thing, to get a woman, to attract her to us, to hopefully have children (again subconsciously), so we can procreate and spread our genes to the next generation. I'm at the point where i don't really care about love or kids or a family. I kinda just want to spend my life fulfilling my goals. I'm sure I'll meet a woman or several women along the way for companionship but, the whole idea of purposely finding a woman, getting married, settling down into a 3 bedroom house, having 2 kids and a nice life doesn't appeal to me anymore. I know half of my dreams would die with a woman anyway because women are dream killers. It's the women that have you stuck in a career you hate in an office you can't stand because you can't take risks with your life when you have a woman that demands the nice house in a beautiful suburb with 2 minivans and private school tuition for the kids. If it was up to the man, he would have been happy running his own bar or becoming a writer or traveling across the world teaching or whatever a man wanted to do. I have a lot of goals I want to accomplish in life, and I can see myself spending my life accomplishing them all and not even thinking about a serious relationship. I might really end up being that 45 year old bachelor but, fukk it I might really not have any kids but, fukk it

 

[DaHNIC82]

Men unless they have stature or Equipped with Game lack rebound options whereas a attractive chick would still have her inboxes from social media full the moment she goes through a breakup and options from where she go out regularly available.

 

[Scott Larock]

this sums it up perfectly...

...in my opinion......a lot of men do not care to look at a woman in a light that is beyond the superficial....that is why it's so easy to make generalizations


There's a song by bruce springsteen called secret garden.....and i think it's one of the most beautiful songs i ever heard....because,to me, it talks about a man's lack of concern in truly appreciating a woman's heart and soul....and the result of that being...his inability to reach the very essence of a woman...cause of the woman's self consciousness about showing her "secret garden" to the man

the song reminds me of the saying ..."a woman's heart is as fragile as a man's ego"

I think men just want a decent good looking chick, I don't think k men care about most of the other stuff.

truth is most women have tons of options and most men according to data and stats are just regular dudes with small pipes and little bread so a woman who is attractive may or may not want to settle for that. it depends on the girl bit for the average guy before you typed all thst out a woman has to see him for something more than basic. I don't think k true love is complicated it's just made quite superficial and based on looks money and stats these days.

the real thing here is we know alot of men have a fragile mentality and I think that's because they're not in a situation of authority or St least had a period of time where they were on top of their game. like a lawyer or doctor, having people gravitate towards you for your stats I think is something post men have to achieve St least once. you can't deal with a attractive rove woman if you've never been in a position of strength and I think this is a lot of the issue with men. lots of basic dudes out of their league trying to date up and these women mess with men out of their league and try to date up. result is a bunch of single women with high body counts messing with bitter dudes who never had a position of power in their life, gravitate towards hood stuff or anything to make them feel masculine.

I think most related to on ships won't work in general. I meet women ready to settle down with multiple kids ready to go to church and do family stuff and they expect me to tag along which is essentially what I call it and I refuse and I'm the one with the problem. idiotic but slot of women are just spoiled by the modern dating game.

 

[Scott Larock]

Men unless they have stature or Equipped with Game lack rebound options whereas a attractive chick would still have her inboxes from social media full the moment she goes through a breakup and options from where she go out regularly available.

exactly but I think men who'd been in the spotlight will adjust better to men thst never had a moment of success and attention, I think men need attention just like women do but much less and doesn't have to be consistent. just something to look back on to keep the mind sane. slot of dudes marry girls with kids from other men and then they try these dudes like kids and the man snaps, that's insecurity talking. my boy married a chick with three kids, he has none. got into a fight and she called the cops on him and he went to jail. how you gonna marry a woman withb3 kids and have her treat you light a child then get emotional when you get disrespected?

that's just bad judgement, I think smart women know this, they k ow the importance of man.

 

[CinnaSlim]

women don't love men, only what they can do for them at the time.

date down and focus on yourself. that's the key for a man to have true happiness

What is your definition of love?

 

[Incogno]

I think men just want a decent good looking chick, I don't think k men care about most of the other stuff.

a lot of men don't...and that's what my post was talking about...

if real relationships and marriages consist of a real connection beyond the superficial...how in the world can some men go on these "woe is me!" episodes...when they aren't even interested in forming a real connection with a woman...

how can a lot of men even bring up "love" ...when they aren't interested in forming real bonds with women...which is real love

it reeks of overly dramatic presentations....if these men are only interested in possessive relationships(relationships based on superficiality).....how can they be upset over superficiality displayed by women...

it's like the pot calling the kettle black....

it goes back to the song i brought up....bruce springsteen "secret garden"....a lot of women don't trust men enough to open up or give their all......because they know the man isn't interested in a real connection...the man isn't interested in their heart....just superficiality...

that's just the reality of the situation...

men who believe in true love...who believe in real connections are very rare....

 

[CinnaSlim]

Lessons I've learned about love.

We accept the love we think we deserve.

People tend to be "on their best behavior" in order to sell themselves into a relationship, instead of being themselves from the get go.

Don't look for a partner who is "going to make you happy" or solve all your problems. Make yourself happy and find someone who adds to your happiness. Relationships have to be mutually beneficial, not parasitic.

Don't try to save people who don't want to be saved (aka save-a-hoe or fixer uppers). If you end up doing all the work, they learn nothing.

Many people do acts of service, or buy flashy things, or give compliments, gifts, time, etc, in hopes of recieving love or the same in return. Many times it comes off as begging/thirst/desperation. Instead, it needs to be authentic, give attention, appreciation and affection because you feel they deserve it. Not looking for anything in return.

As always, when you can fulfill your material and emotional needs on your own, you won't look for someone to fill the void. Not saying that you need to be completely independent and shut off from others. But when there is something you need, you can ask for it instead of passively expecting people to just give it to you because you are "a nice guy" or feeling entitled to it.

Lastly, putting yourself first, loving yourself aka confidence and a focus on self-improvement will attract people to you.

 

[Trapperman Dave]

fukk love

 

[Scott Larock]

if real relationships and marriages consist of a real connection beyond the superficial...how in the world can some men go on these "woe is me!" episodes...when they aren't even interested in forming a real connection with a woman.....

Because most of the time a woman can tell within the first 5 minutes if she's interested in that guy, the rejection is usually before anything else.

it reeks of overly dramatic presentations....if these men are only interested in possessive relationships(relationships based on superficiality).....how can they be upset over superficiality displayed by women...

it's like the pot calling the kettle black....

it goes back to the song i brought up....bruce springsteen "secret garden"....a lot of women don't trust men enough to open up or give their all......because they know the man isn't interested in a real connection...the man isn't interested in their heart....just superficiality...

that's just the reality of the situation...

Not really... the only time you really had a high amount of sucessful marriages (60s) was when women's hands where tied in terms of what they could do, in other words, survival was meant getting married to a man or strave, women couldn't do anything on their own and that's the way conservative America always had it, a way to control women to keep them grounded.

Those days are over and as a result, much less sucessful marriages and much higher rates of children born out of wedlock, reality is, even with all the imbalance, women have a drastic advantage over men. I know guys who never had shyt or women till over 30 and as a result are living it up right now well past 30 years old, this is a result of male insecurity and envy towards the opposite gender imo.

I go to the bar, 50 year olds there showing out in Gators with old school Kangols on, old G's, nothing more, nothing less.

In order to make things work today, women will have to see things differently and look at the person, not the material, then again if I can't do anything to better your life, what's really my purpose? You got so many women outearning men, out educating men, what purpose do these dudes have? A nut and watch a couple kids and go home.

Doesn't solve the man's issue of attention and power.[/QUOTE]

 

[Gonzo]

It takes one shytty woman for YALL to say fukk B****es! And basically YALL are in player status for yrs.

Explain Yourself

It was definitely not one shytty woman. It was a constant stream of shytty bytches. You just don't understand the utter bullshyt the average guy has/had to go through with trying to even start an honest relationship. So we choose to not get emotionally invested in anything knowing it could change at any moment because girls are fickle as all fukk.