Why do men give up on love so fast?

[KinksandCoils]

i get you... maybe not approached... flirted with... stared at... ogled.. all up in the inbox, dm, text message


but i'm sure that's off too... we tend to have a warped sense of what happens to y'all cause of the way we think

Half of the men that approach us on social media are corny is fukk. Out of 75 messages from men it's probably 2 who are interested in more than just sex and are decent guys.

 

[Mugenight]

Got this from bodybuilding.com....

I will explain how ALL women are evil
In that they're only there until somebody comes and takes them from you or for as long as you have the resources to keep them. A woman doesn't feel any love or connection for you besides a fake bond her genetics create to keep her magnetized to the one providing for her. She's just happy to be your "possession" and only "loves you" because you fulfill her criteria and nobody better has come along.

If a better male comes along with more money and is famous etc she'll ditch you, and she won't feel bad about it WHATSOEVER. A woman's level of care and consideration towards you exists on a "what have you done for me lately?" level rather than any true affection built up between two people from spending time together.

A woman is your possession and a direct cause of the things you have. You have good looks, lots of money and fame? You will have a hot woman by your side as your possession. You are with her for 10 years, loving each other every day, then you lose EVERYTHING, your looks, your money, your fame? She's gone, just like everything else you owned, just like your Ferrarri it's only there as long as you have the resources to KEEP it there, because it's just an object it feels no "bond" with you.

You see it all the time. Soldiers get their arms blown off in war, their wives promise to love them still and be with them always, they push the guy around in a wheelchair for 2 months then leave him. And they don't feel bad about it at all. Because a woman cannot feel ANY responsibility or guilt for her actions, she can do that to her husband who fought in war for her and rationalize it as "oh, I was just way too young to deal with that, nobody could possibly expect me to stay, I'm too young for this!"... Then the soldier lives a lonely life forever more. The state desserts him in favour of immigrants. He fights for his country, for his family, and once he's injured neither the state nor his "loving wife" feel an ounce of loyalty towards him for what he's given to them. He'll be left homeless so Ackham Al-Munjabi can house his wife and 50 kids. He'll be left loveless forever more because he's no longer a strong male.

This is the reality of the world and the reality of women. Whilst men bond like brothers, like packs of wolves, women come and go, from shiny thing to shiny thing, whichever they believe suits them best. I guess that's why people compare women to cats and men more to dogs.

So there you go peasants, no such thing as love.

And when I say ALL women I mean it. My mother, sister, every female on earth.


Misc.

Another poster said some eye opening shyt...


"doesn't have to be just money. But you're giving women something. Emotionally or physically. If someone was to come a long and offer the same + something else to a woman chances are they'd make an excuse and go for that someone else. Now say that same woman was to leave you for that new someone else and found out that this new someone wasn't who she thought this new someone was, or that new someone really didn't offer what she thought he would.. who do you think the woman would come crawling back to"

Misc.

"Listen, Morty, I hate to break it to you but what people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed.
It hits hard, Morty, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. I did it. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle, Morty. Rise above. Focus on science."

This was interesting as well....


Haha what you guys fail to see is the real situation. 80/20 rule is not what you think. 80% of males are lying insecure desperate guys who phuck chicks to try and make themselves feel better, these guys will cheat on women if the right opportunity comes. They tell there bro friends about every chick they phuck they boast you know the guys, losers at heart use a slay count to try and prove something.

Same with women 80% are insecure whores who either need validation, oo being with the highest value male or are selfish and want a rich male, you get the picture.

Now the reason men end up with these girls is because they white knight, we all know white knighting is not natural and men won't do it once they lose interest in a bytch. This is when girls lose interest, there male isn't who they thought he was and they are a selfish insecure whore. She cheats, whatever.

Now if guys were actually themselves and didn't white knight and put there foot down immediately to the little test these chicks create, still showing interest in the girl without trying to sex her like some sloot. She would most probably just turn away if she isn't interested in a relationship with you as a person, if she doesn't turn away you might have a good girl.

 

[Fatboi1]

Fuc these bytches, meng

 

[HE_Pennypacker]

I don't think it's about giving up on love, per se. There are a number of things;
-unrealistic expectations of women at a young age. I was lucky not to fall into this nonsensical trap, but so many guys I know used to place women on this pedestal of being perfect that nobody can ever live up to. They get so jarred, but they were never going to win with this attitude.
-early 20s is a time when most guys I know are struggling in the dating world, so they fall back. When you hit your mid 20s and women are rushing to settle down, a guy now knows he's in a market that favours him. He's gonna be extra picky because he can. Others are part of the group up top and are mistreating women because they're bitter.

On a side note, I see far more dating world bitterness from women. "Nikkas ain't shyt", "all men are pigs/dogs", "men are nothing but fukkboys", etc.

As I see it, if you've been out with 15 people and they're all losers/thots, then you need to be making better decisions. You're the common denominator here.

 

[Ronnie Macho]

This was interesting as well....


Haha what you guys fail to see is the real situation. 80/20 rule is not what you think. 80% of males are lying insecure desperate guys who phuck chicks to try and make themselves feel better, these guys will cheat on women if the right opportunity comes. They tell there bro friends about every chick they phuck they boast you know the guys, losers at heart use a slay count to try and prove something.

Same with women 80% are insecure whores who either need validation, oo being with the highest value male or are selfish and want a rich male, you get the picture.

Now the reason men end up with these girls is because they white knight, we all know white knighting is not natural and men won't do it once they lose interest in a bytch. This is when girls lose interest, there male isn't who they thought he was and they are a selfish insecure whore. She cheats, whatever.

Now if guys were actually themselves and didn't white knight and put there foot down immediately to the little test these chicks create, still showing interest in the girl without trying to sex her like some sloot. She would most probably just turn away if she isn't interested in a relationship with you as a person, if she doesn't turn away you might have a good girl.

Interesting it is...human nature is something else...relationships are transient and put on a timer...best to focus on goals and smash on the go or when convenient...never fall in love...its just an oxytocin release in the brain...never get married unless u get a prenup but really marriage today is obsolete...marry your goals and remember the only love you'll ever get from women will be from the women in your family and thats only because you're family...it's a cold world brehs...

 

[Peak]

This is probably the best post in this thread. Beyond men just having shytty taste in the women they choose to be in relationships with, only with experience/age does a man understand how important it is to cultivate cherish and care for a good woman's heart. No man should ever take for granted a woman giving her all to him. It's the greatest gift she can give.

Young men generally don't understand this tho and its not till we've broken a heart of a woman we care about do we realize how crucial it is to put in 100% with a woman who loves you. Women thrive on our confidence in love but many times men are scared of everything that comes with being in love. We'll let outside and worldly thoughts ruin the most genuine emotion God created out of fear. This generation is highly affected by it and the mentalities on this site are prime examples.

Young fellas, don't play with a woman that truly loves you. Especially if you also love her too. Figure out how to navigate this world and keep that love. It'll possibly be the best decision of your life.

Breh, I'm going through this right now. Don't wanna lose her but I'm emotionally cut off.

 

[richaveli83]

This is a tough topic for me. It's been a year since my engagement with my ex-fiance. I'm 32 and she was the first woman I really loved. I've dated women in the past and liked a lot and had feelings but love? Nope. She was the woman I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. Have my children. My mother loved her and called her her daughter. Her family loved me. Then the breakup happened. Whenever I feel like I moved on it hits. I even tried to jump on #HOH and #GMB but I can't commit like that

 

[Peak]

This is a tough topic for me. It's been a year since my engagement with my ex-fiance. I'm 32 and she was the first woman I really loved. I've dated women in the past and liked a lot and had feelings but love? Nope. She was the woman I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. Have my children. My mother loved her and called her her daughter. Her family loved me. Then the breakup happened. Whenever I feel like I moved on it hits. I even tried to jump on #HOH and #GMB but I can't commit like that

Sorry breh. Why did y'all break up?

 

[Penny 95]

When men are treated wrong or can't solve a problem we shut down or move on. Most men want to get love right on the first try. Most women have no problem searching love again as society kind of teaches them to be hopelessly and eternally optimistic about romance.

 

[StickStickly]

1. There's cognitive dissonance between the monogamy that goes along with being in love and the desire to sleep with multiple women. Since once doesn't usually match the other, they reason love is stupid and move on. It's easier that way.
2. They buy into the Disney fantasy, too. They believe there is one soulmate and millions of sluts. Once that soulmate displeases them , if they ever find her, they assume there's no one left and love will never be what it once was. This standard is self imposed and indefinitely sets them up to be gmb.
3. Instead of believing in something rational like humans will let you down as a fact of life that isn't bad or good, they assume women will let them down because they are evil. It's the pedestal thing. Men mess up because they are human. Women mess up because they are evil. How easy is it to give up on love when your views on half the population are that black and white?

 

[The_Truth]

you bet not......
lies and deceit comes from a woman
as natural as web from a spider.

Classic quotable.

 

[ThugLife]

It takes one shytty woman for YALL to say fukk B****es! And basically YALL are in player status for yrs.

Explain Yourself

Shutup negged

 

[mbewane]

It's kinda like this.

Most, not all, but most men were raised to believe women were these angelic, flawless creatures. And we believed we had to be on top of our shyt, basically be the best man we could be in order to attract the best woman.
When that first inevitable betrayal comes, it literally shakes the foundation of a man. You learn that everything you thought women were is a lie. You learn how selfish and cold and callous a woman can be when you no longer have her favor.
Then, the rules change.
You learn that you don't have to be the best man or really even be a good man. All you have to do is be a little bit more exciting and a little bit flashier than the dude she's with now. That's it. There's no honor or depth to it.
You learn that women are as simple as we are.
So we adapt.
We stop giving our all, because it wasn't going to matter anyway.
We stop being honest, because we learn that ya'll don't covet honesty.
We look out for ourselves, because it's what you would do in our situation.

That one woman who got the best of us, well she'll never know, nor would she care.

I didn't say good men lol.

But y'all have to understand the mental effects of being approached by 1-5 people a day, everyday, since 13

Vs. a man who has to put his pride and confidence on the line each and every time he attempts to approach. Adding in that he's probably not been approached more than 25 times in his entire life


So yea it's kinda easier to get over that spilled milk when you have a farm full of cows

True. I just had this conversation with a female friend of mine this weekend who'se also 35 and she was like when I pointed the effort it is for men to approach women. All girls/women have to do is be pretty and sit there, and their ego will be boosted multiple times a day, totally regardless of their intellect or status. They are used to being able to choose, and they enjoy it and have no problem not calling back or whatever because they know someone else is waiting in line. On the other hand most boys/men only start getting ego boosts once they start to get established, which comes later. So they get to play this game later. At that point women have already been playing for years and want to settle down. Brehs just started so they're not on the same page, hence "Men are all dogs" when they were enjoying the ego boosts that those "dogs" were given them.

 

[Rayzah]

1. There's cognitive dissonance between the monogamy that goes along with being in love and the desire to sleep with multiple women. Since once doesn't usually match the other, they reason love is stupid and move on. It's easier that way.
2. They buy into the Disney fantasy, too. They believe there is one soulmate and millions of sluts. Once that soulmate displeases them , if they ever find her, they assume there's no one left and love will never be what it once was. This standard is self imposed and indefinitely sets them up to be gmb.
3. Instead of believing in something rational like humans will let you down as a fact of life that isn't bad or good, they assume women will let them down because they are evil. It's the pedestal thing. Men mess up because they are human. Women mess up because they are evil. How easy is it to give up on love when your views on half the population are that black and white?

I hate to agree with you but I have noticed this mentality from all the guys I have ever talked to that are against marriage or monogamy.. They are quick to point out all of the flaws of the opposite sex but are blind to the flaws and biases they have..

Its like a defense mechanism dudes would just rather not put there self in a position to be hurt again

 

[mbewane]

I hate to agree with you but I have noticed this mentality from all the guys I have ever talked to that are against marriage or monogamy.. They are quick to point out all of the flaws of the opposite sex but are blind to the flaws and biases they have..

Its like a defense mechanism dudes would just rather not put there self in a position to be hurt again

Interessingly I've always heard the opposite : Women say men are dogs/a$$holes/immature/whatever/machos all the time, and men will mostly say stuff like "Women don't know what they want/love to complain/are hard to understand/etc". Maybe it's the company I keep. I don't know any man in my environment who really thinks that all women are "bytches", while I know women who really think that all men are a$$holes. Even though both have been played. And most men I know have no problem admitting that they are attracted to other women even when they're in a relationship, while I only have ONE female friend who is honest enough to admit the same thing (even though she tells me that all her female friends are exactly the same, but would never admit it to any man)