If they aren't going to be the ones taking care of the child?
Are you askin', if the man has little to no visitation, why does he have a problem with child support? Because he's frustrated by his lack of forethought.
Assumin' the father is not a deadbeat, I think the problems are:
The system is outdated. Dudes havin' their kids half the time & still payin' is a problem.
And the penalty... when a man can't afford to care for his kid, he goes to jail. When a women can't afford it, she gets help from the state.
As for women spendin' the money on themselves, I don't know about that one. Hard to say what dollar went where. You have to be fairly wealthy to pay enough to notice a woman spendin' your kid's money.