Why Do So Many Women Walk Around W A Chip On Their Shoulder?

[Karb]

I think they get defensive because they think you have ulterior motives

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

It was learned over time like most human behaviors.

So there's no reason for you to continue doing it. Yet, you still do it. And as stated it enables the entitlement and expectation you have railed against in this thread. You are part of the problem in which you have laid out.

My point of view is that people should respond in whichever way they feel is best.

No they shouldn't.

I was raised or indoctrinated to respond to acts of kindness by expressing gratitude, I'm also aware that everyone isn't raised the same way which means, the way I might respond to a given situation might be radically different than how someone else might. The idea that everyone should respond the same way to the same situation deserves pushback.

Why? The general idea is that if someone holds a door for you a simple thank you should follow that act. You even live by this tenant. Why is that an unreasonable standard? Why does that deserve pushback? Because it is uniform? Are you advocating differences for the sheer sake of variety even if the response would make no sense in the context of the situation? If you held the door for me and I punched you in your face would you say that's a reasonable reaction and something that should be tolerated in society just for a variety of response?

If my mother gives me a card and I threw it away, I wouldn't be upset at her if that made her angry. She's my mother and she's largely responsible for indoctrinating me with my set of existing beliefs and throwing away a gift would be an aberration.

Would you think her reaction to be appropriate? As you've stated no one is entitled to gratitude and you've shown disdain towards those whom you feel hold that belief.

I personally believe it's better and more realistic to manage what's in our control as opposed to hoping other people become nicer. I have the power to do a better job of managing my expectations of people that I've never met before, I cannot however change the way those very same people interact in relation to other people.

Ah, the old circle of control. That's right out of the old middle management playbook. Yes, it sounds good in theory but society would come to a grinding halt if some standards of decency weren't imposed upon the greater world. The reason you hold yourself to certain standards is because those standards are societal norms. You may not be able to control the actions of others but it is also not good to excuse them or say society should just be accepting of any and all reactions no matter the cost to decency and courtesy.

 

[MaxPain]

That’s the thing tho breh. We cant expect shyt from anyone. We have these expectations and when people don’t meet them we feel some type of way

Thats exactly why I don’t do anything or go out of my way:DenzelWhatever: I expect too much. A thank you, a hi back or good morning is asking for too much.

I been watchin women struggle/get attacked and not helping them for a decade and I’m reminded why thanks to this thread.:DenzelReallllyyy:

 

[Wiles]

Maybe..because for the most part...

Men let women down...

Pick aint shyt men then blame the rest brehettes

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

I disagree with the assertion that not saying thank you to a person holding your door is somehow hostile.

If the slight is intentional what else would you consider it to be?

 

[Karb]

Who are y'all?

The coli narratives

Old people are the White people of the black community

 

[T'krm]

So the dusty dude who treats her like shyt but she still let him smash does he need threapy

Yup

Anytime you can treat someone like shyt, even if partially enabled, you need therapy, along with person allowing it.

 

[MaxPain]

Insert "black women" =plat thread

Actually white women are way worse at this lol

But ur on to something:DonaldSmirk:

 

[Exlurkernegro]

A lot of young women are only nice to you if they find you attractive.

 

[DraymondT]

They know what they look like without dollin up and the makeup

 

[MaxPain]

Women don't owe you any pleasantries, and they didn't ask you to hold the door open for them.

Ur right. Thats why I dont do anything decent for them. I’m too much of an entitled prick to expect a thank you so to save us both time I dont do it at all:Denzelcrackinup:

 

[AquaCityBoy]

Ur right. Thats why I dont do anything decent for them. I’m too much of an entitled prick to expect a thank you so to save us both time I dont do it at all:Denzelcrackinup:

I agree. I stopped holding the door for people (male and female) a while ago.

If the shyt slams in your face, that's your problem.

 

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this never happens to me

im always meet with thank you and a smile

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

I'm about to get in the shower but I will say even though I find some of @Matt504 's points worthy of eyerolls, once I engage him it is actually refreshing as I usually don't get to argue points to their bare bones with anyone these days. Most times it has degenerated into name calling and wishing of rapes long before then, sadly. I disagree with about 50% of his stances but even the points you disagree with will make you pause and consider. Steel sharpens steel.

 

[Entropy Fan]

I'm about to get in the shower but I will say even though I find some of @Matt504 's points worthy of eyerolls, once I engage him it is actually refreshing as I usually don't get to argue points to their bare bones with anyone these days. Most times it has degenerated into name calling and wishing of rapes long before then, sadly. I disagree with about 50% of his stances but even the points you disagree with will make you pause and consider. Steel sharpens steel.

Wth


To be fair he usually starts the insulting