Yeah, slightly generalizing but not trying to be all encompassing about the military thing. Just a lot of family members joined and wasn't the same after. TBH, they weren't really fukkups before joining, but mentally weak and selfish. So it just gave those negative traits a superiority complex.
I know a few who were actual fukkups and came out responsible men, who are like you, driven and motivated (albeit a bit more Republican). I probably should've joined to work the system more for education and have my mind the way it is now a lot quicker.
It's hard to weigh the current generation. I think it's information overload for them, and they're dealing with the effects of high PC, anti PC, recession spending, media disinformation, permanent war footing, and xenophobia. Plus the rise of Christian fundamentalism wanting to seize more of their schools. I think they just rebel inside of electronics, the one thing they can control.
When they get motivated from that, I feel they'll really move, like I did later on. The ones that had families that could afford decent supplemental education early have been world beaters. Again, more of them should be mentors, and if rich, just have some kids shadow them for pocket money.
We give up on them too quick. They'll be okay. Not to dismiss your point as it is valid, and what I've observed too. I just listen to them talk on subways and it's a mix. Some sound like they have great priorities and mixed friendships, while you can tell where others are headed.