Technically aren't you just a single woman with a child and not a single mother? You co parent and it seems to be effectively. I Don't think That's what the coli is aghast by. Unless I'm wrong and it is.
Yes, I coparent currently. And my son’s father will actually get full custody of him in three years, since my son will be nearing that pre-teen age.
But I’m not sure that they differentiate between single-moms on here. I’ve gotten hate messages before, despite the circumstances of my situation.
I honestly believe that most people associate single mothers as anyone that has a child but is not with the father any longer(whether it’s through divorce, ltr ending, or that ons where y’all were never together to begin with). I don’t think they care as much about the circumstances.
Tbh its not ideal at all. I wish it wasn’t such an epidemic in our community. And i always hurt for the kids. Kids need both parents. They really do. I don’t think I ever thought deeply about it because I was raised in a two parent household. Now that I’m a parent, especially of a boy, I can see why it’s so important. He gets that nurturing and love from me. But it’s his dad that sets him right. Kids need that balance.
Even before I became a single mom I never had negative feelings toward single mothers. Now that I’m one, I feel empathy, because it’s hard doing it on your own. On the other hand I have a difficult time with shytty parenting regardless of their marital status. So I don’t like shytty single parents.
My issue I guess is that often the blame and anger is directed toward the person who is doing the role of two parents because the other parent is gone. Like people really hate the person that stuck around and really aren’t talking about the men that knew that woman wasn’t shyt, and impregnated her anyway and doesn’t even have the gall to rescue his child from the shytty mother.
I don’t get that... I see it all the time, “fatherless home” or “single moms ain’t shyt” and unfortunately i do believe a lot of issues in our community are because of fatherlessness. I get that anger. I just have a hard time understanding why it’s often only directed at the person that stuck around, instead of being directed at all these fathers that don’t even care enough to be in their child’s life.