"Why I Do Not Want to Split Rent or Mortgage With My Man"

[Mr. Negative]

I've said it before on here

You start growing up, your parent pressure you to get job, pay bill, hold your own

You get your first place, you gotta get job, pay bill, hold your own

You meet somebody, they wanna shack up, they gotta get job, pay bill, hold your own

You have kids, they get old enough, they gotta get job, pay bills, hold their own (or leave)

YOU, though......

 

[Wild self]

This is why the institution of marriage will die to the non wealthy people. Selfishness and greed will doom humanity.

 

[Devil Plisken…CMS]

Living in NYC if you find a man agreeable to her terms he is either...

or

lol

 

[Wild self]

The institution of marriage will die. She will be the cause of it.

 

[philmonroe]

You make a sound argument.

For a lot of dudes but for people like me she sound like the lady in OP without being crazy. The things she bringing to the table aren't anything special to me because I can and do cook, clean, pay bills, etc so she isn't bringing nothing groundbreaking to the table. That's why we all gotta get someone who works for what we doing besides looks.

 

[mcdivit85]

Skimmed over. Few observations.

1. This woman seems to be a suspected Negro Bedwench

- she makes a note, several times, about dating interracially
- she seems to prize perceived better habits of non-blacks without compensating for the head start those groups have gotten over and above Black Americans

2. If a woman wants a man to be the financial leader, she needs to understand what that means

- she mentions wanting to the support role or number 2, which is fine
- but not sure if she mentioned all of the things she, as the woman, would bring to the table to make her man's life easier
- if a woman wants a man to make sure she doesn't have to worry about finance, then she needs to make sure that man has to worry about nothing else besides finance

3. This chick just seems lazy

- adding on to the second sub point under number 2, this chick is not seemingly looking for a partner, moreso a sponsor
- she does not seem to want to take responsibility within the relationship for anything serious
- not being the financial leader does not mean that she gets to "chill", she would have to be responsible for other areas, which seems to not want either

4. Something tells me these complaints are reserved for black men

- adding on to the first point, as a suspected Negro Bedwench, I assume that she has no problems stepping her game up when dating non-black, namely white, males
- unfortunately, some black women who would be considered Negro Bedwenches have one standard for black men and a completely different, and generally more lax, standard for non-black men

5. Never take the words of a perpetually single woman seriously when it comes to relationships

- Winners win, Losers lose
- women that have the type of men she desires have them because they generally bring a lot to the table outside of finance
- because she doesn't have this kind of man and can't seem to attract him, I would have to assume she's not that woman

Peace

 

[intruder]

Shes not totally off base but what she is seeking isnt easy to find in the United States.

In most Caribbean households, yes. The man brings home the bacon, pays the mortgage, the car note, electrical bill etc. Anything the woman brings home is stuff foe the house like furniture, linen, kids clothes, groceries.
I grew up in such household
But with the economics if the united syayes not many people can afford that lifestyle. I know because a friend of mine who is a serial monogamist tried that shyt and failed miserably while we all laugh at them. Dude was trying to live the life with his girlfriend (not wife) living at home not doing shyt. Thing is he hung on for close to 5 years doing that shyt but seems like by year 3 he was tired of it and wanted a change. But she had grown "accustomed" to not working and apparently wasnt tryng hard enoough to find work (for him) and it drove a wedge between them until they broke up

 

[International Playa]

If this chick was a dime & much younger she could make such demands.

This female is old & below average in looks. No man wants a 36 year old bride.

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

I swear, I don't know what it is about this article, but this shyt irked me.

In finance, we have these terms "front office" and "back office". Front office are the revenue generating roles, the roles that pay the bills. The back office is "operations" and the functions that support the front office. There is a clear separation between the two and it's very hard to make lateral moves from the back office to the front.

I would actually be the type of husband to take care of all our household expenditures. And if that is her expectation than fine. But you better believe, if I'm in that "revenue generating" role, my expectation is that she's in charge of "operations". Whether she wants to work or not is of no consequence to her primary role, running the operations of the house and providing support to the "revenue generator".

The author can

Talking about sharing expenses is contributing to black wealth disparity statistics. Let's talk about the single black woman statistic in which she is being an active participant.

That’s why we about that mid office life.

 

[Shadow King]

Money isn't everything yet it's a deal breaker for how your marriage will go

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

everything about this post is a struggle....from the post to the website URL name to the website design from 2008.

This is just all bad.

 

[Crude Abolitionist]

I am a well traveled person and I’ve been exposed to a lot of different cultures in my adventures and my dating life. Unfortunately, when I try to share the ways of life and mentalities that I learned from other cultures with my own culture, I am met with high resistance and hostility. It concerns me when grown men can’t afford the house note and expect their woman to be a “real one” and pick up the slack. Do you guys realize that this is something a bit isolated to our culture. Jews do not do this, nor did I grandmothers and grandfathers. I fear that the current attitudes of many Blacks reflect a poor value system and family structure in modern day. It does not mean I wish to “mooch” of a man or be on the market for a “sugar daddy” because I prefer my Head of Household to pay the darn house note”




but your broke ass cant afford it either?

/THREAD.

 

[Shadow King]

That's about 80% of women. Feminist by day, but none of the responsibilities.

Most women don't even want a traditional home role or else cooking and cleaning wouldn't be a problem.

 

[I Really Mean It]

Reads like the 'About Me' section of a POF profile.

 

[HE_Pennypacker]

I can't fathom being with someone like this, marriages like this came and come T&Cs that people like the woman in the OP don't want, on some a la carte shyt.

Take it all or don't.