These men have no idea how unhappy their women are, and how much they cheat and desire someone else.
You are there JUST so she can say she has a man. So she doesn’t look like there is something wrong with her, because Society puts pressure on women to have a man.
Why? Are black men out looking for women to split bills with them they would already have?
Are black men expecting to lead households, and not be providers?
Are black men avoiding responsibility?
Is the world easier from your mommas basement?
I would encourage this woman, and any woman with her mindset to date men of color from other parts of the African diaspora.
This...
“I’m too good to work a 9-5 job, but expect money and success to fall in my lap, but in the mean time imma get a woman to take care of me and “hold it down...”
is the culture of black AMERICAN men.
Which is why men from “other” communities don’t want y’all near their daughters.
this all truth
a wife/family is going to be a mans biggest financial expenditure in life.
if not he is fuccing up as a man
this whole im going to have a family and it aint going to cost me nothing is silly
So what is she bringing to the table? What benefits like this would the man be getting? She's basically living a free ride with all her bills paid while KEEPING her own money. I bet she'd think the house is hers too and she has part of the equity in it
A lot of these women truly live in a fantasy world. This is 2017. Feminist or not, we still on that equality wave and that equality comes with equally providing your share. So many women want to be with men but don't want to be on the same TEAM as their man and it makes no sense and it's no wonder she's damn near 40 and still single. She's get all this shyt wrong
No problem with that as long as I don't have to pay alimony to a broke bum bytch who needs to maintain a standard or living she never earned herself. If women are willing to accept prenups that bind them to nothing then it's a fair game. Leave with what you came with if you aren't willing to contribute in other words.Or the whole...
“I’m going to move in with my woman, or get married so someone can split these bills with me, because I can’t do it on my own...” is silly.
Because once again, even if you get a woman who does it...
(because she’s desperate, can’t do better, doesn’t think she can do better, or didn’t realize she could do better at the time she committed to it)
-Know that she is disappointed.
-Know that she has settled.
-Know that once y’all have kids, your incompetence will become magnified. Because it’s no longer about her security, but her children’s as well! And that’s when the resentment, disgust, not wanting sex and Letting herself go comes into play.
Who’s gonna fukk and stay in shape for a broke man who’s financially dependent on her?
A broke man is not worth inconveniencing herself for. She gonna eat what she want. Talk to you any kinda way. (And fukk other nikkas too)
#WomenDontRespectMenWhoCantTakeCareOfThem
Not true. The discussion of prenups is always very volatile and can be taken offensively often.
Y’all can laugh and refuse to read all you want. The facts, are still the facts.
Women need men to provide them with security. Period. If a woman has to work two jobs, or even one job she hates to split the rent with her “man”, that woman will not respect him. Period. And she’s not happy!
She may come home and smile in your face and tell you it’s okay, but it’s not! And 9 times outta 10. She’s cheating on you ! (Women really cheat. A lot. And men are oblivious.)
I see this right now with my home girls. I’m married and had a son several months ago. Currently staying at home. I’ve never been so happy and submissive in a relationship, and it’s because I have security. I married a man 11 years older than me. A single father who has a 9-5, and also owns a barbershop. Very hardworking. West Indian.
I see the envy from my friends. It doesn’t upset me, because I feel sorry for them. They are always Wishing they had a husband like mines. Telling me how much they hate their baby fathers, live in boyfriends & husbands. How they are disgusted with them, and don’t want to have sex with them. And it’s because of The lack of security. All they do is cry about how marrying/committing to that man is the biggest mistake they made, now they can’t leave cause it will hurt their kids. THEY ARE ALL CHEATING!
I blame my friends for not telling their men the truth & expecting them to read their minds. but never the less.. men should know.
Women do not respect men who cannot take care of them! And it’s not just black Women either! Women. Period!
The low emotional intelligence men have about this needs to stop being an excuse. Usually, women do at least 70% of the House work and child care... so if she’s working a full time job, and splitting the bills. Who’s doing more?
Don’t expect a woman living like that to be happy with you, and enjoy having sex with you. She doesn’t.
And let me say this again in case you missed it before.
SHES PROBABLY CHEATING ON YOU.
Why? Because women don’t respect men who NEED them financially. And if your asking you WIFE for her half of the rent...
Good Luck.
kudos to you. But the female writer wasn’t giving off being a homemaker. That was the main problem with her. 
Good job....make demands when you are past your prime brehettes..I can see a 24 year old woman having such demand. She is washed up.
Or the whole...
“I’m going to move in with my woman, or get married so someone can split these bills with me, because I can’t do it on my own...” is silly.
Because once again, even if you get a woman who does it...
(because she’s desperate, can’t do better, doesn’t think she can do better, or didn’t realize she could do better at the time she committed to it)
-Know that she is disappointed.
-Know that she has settled.
-Know that once y’all have kids, your incompetence will become magnified. Because it’s no longer about her security, but her children’s as well! And that’s when the resentment, disgust, not wanting sex and Letting herself go comes into play.
Who’s gonna fukk and stay in shape for a broke man who’s financially dependent on her?
A broke man is not worth inconveniencing herself for. She gonna eat what she want. Talk to you any kinda way. (And fukk other nikkas too)
#WomenDontRespectMenWhoCantTakeCareOfThem
