Why is being a hoe seen as empowering?

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U have a point, but I disagree only in the sense that women don’t have the capacity to not be controlled by men. The safety nets that women have, in society are enforced by men. Without men enforcing it, I’m not sure what women would do. Just saying.
It’s funny you said this. It’s sounds reminiscent of something a professor used to say. He said men are both the biggest threat to females and the greatest form of protection for them too. That’s just biological reality.

This won’t change but there’s plenty we can do instead of expecting women to fit into unhealthy conceptions of human sexuality to reduce their vulnerability.

I think it’s starts with cultural shifts. Many of these values can be taught.
I used to see it in my high school boys. Just a few teachers talking to them about disrespect had them checking each other over a couple of violations to girls in schools. I lie to you not.

It won’t catch everyone but we could definitely do a better job worldwide addressing gender issues for both men and women to be healthier.

In the meantime, I just want women to stop internalizing nonsense. You aren’t a whore or tainted for having sex even if it’s with more than one person. But BUT the idea that sex is inherently a source of real power ain’t it either. Instead they need to figure out who they are and be true to that. B/c right now they all fukked up. Some chicks who are stone cold freaks tryin to cosplay as Virgin Mary, while other chicks are outchea fukking and not even enjoying themselves taking nut to the face for free.:picard:

Apart of being a woman is knowing who you are and standing in that no matter what an ignorant a$$hole wants you to be. That’s the only way a woman will truly be happy but it’s rare that they grow up in environments that allow them the freedom to figure that out, and so ya’ll men end up dealing with fake, fractured, crazy ass, chicks in victim mode not realizing that the world contributes heavily to that “bytches be crazy” energy and then blames them whether they try to play by the rules or break em.

So women gotta stop caring so much about what people say and start doing what’s right for them.

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The U.S. and the 'black community' are fine?

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Keep in mind that sexuality and the expression of it encompasses more than dikk meets vagina, the same way 'hoe' does.

I read it wrong. I actually don’t fully know what u even meant, my bad :russ:.​
 
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@neotheflyingone you’d have to see the previous comments in that thread to see how I came to that conclusion.

Promoting casual sex doesn’t benefit women nor is it empowering - not even to men. (Pregnancy scares, STD’s, etc).

It just so happens that men are biologically wired to separate emotion from sex whereas a woman is wired to pair-bond, so a man will always come out on top (no pun) in these arrangements 99% of the time.

The media promotes what is most profitable to the masses irrespective to the destruction it causes to society because it’s a shameful beast that has to be fed.

If hip-hop is allegedly destructive to young, impressionable males what do you think promoting promiscuity does to young, impressionable females?
 

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Because women usually shamed into not having casual sex/"hoeing" despite sex being enjoyable

Because men spent thousands of years making a big deal out of something that all humans do, for 1/2 of the world’s population b/c they have a scarcity mindset when it comes to p*ssy and other weird hang ups.:mjlol:

The whore/Madonna complex, the silly ideas men believe about female sexuality, the way they tried to lock women down and shame them to the point that a lotta chicks barely know where their clit is.

When you grow with your own body as a woman and realize it’s all just hang ups that men and society have about female sexuality projected onto to you, you become healthy and well adjusted and learn who you are sexually. That takes time and growth.

Women have to slug off years of conditioning and bro babble that tries to drag them in the direction of being huge sluts and sexually permissive

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Slut-shamed holier-than-thou prudes.

Im so glad my parents weren’t weirdos about sex growing up.

I was taught that sex is beautiful. That I have the gift of life in my body, so if I act on my hormones, I need to protect myself and also be sure of who I’m with. I thank god for them everyday.:wow:

There are some chicks who internalized either extreme of the fukkery female sexuality spectrum and they either out there getting trains ran on them for “empowerment” or they can’t even open up with their partners because they been so henpecked about sex that they think it dirty.

Doesn’t help that some men will judge even their partners if they wanna be freaky b/c they think they supposed to do kinky nasty stuff with side chicks and boring shyt with wives.

Imagine how fukked up that is. It’s just a big ole mess. And until we learn how to have healthier attitudes towards female sexuality as a society, the fukkery will continue.
Grand opening grand closing.

Men are praised for their body counts because the underlying assumption is that he needed to negotiate sex out of a woman through effort to look good, and be charming and interesting. Most women THINK they are interesting because men who have tried to finesse the draws off them made them think they were so smart and worldly. If you want to laugh just look at the dating 'advice' women are given. Most women ive met don't know how to make men laugh, they don't know how to tell stories in an engaging way, they don't know how to dance, they dont have interesting jobs, and in general they don't have what we recognize as 'game' or 'mouthpiece'. You can't even use the argument of 'yeah but they have to wear makeup and special outfits' because they do that shyt for themselves and to impress each other.

If youre a woman, you know where you stand with the opposite sex while exercising little to no effort. Women aren't cold approaching men and sparking up conversations and expressing unambiguous romantic interest. Thus being a hoe is not an achievement, its extremely easy since you could throw a rock into the street and hit a man who will say anything to smash.


I'm addition, it's also cause men are attracted to a larger range of women than women are to men.

Even among "hoes", they still have a narrow range of men they'd actually like to fukk.

There's a reason why men have lower rates of sexlessness than women. Women just don't find the average man sexually attractive the way men find the average women attractive. A decent amount of women would low key rather be rich man's mistress than a average man's wife.

Not all or most women are like that of course - despite what people say online - of course. There are a lot of women who will genuinely reject a guy because he's condescending, doesn't help out in the house, is immature, and is a jerk, etc.

But... there are women who, you could give them a perfect husband... that listens to them, respects them, does his fair share of chores, etc. But doesn't give them that sex she wants :mjlit:

Because lets be honest, a lot of "good men" don't really turn on women. A lot of these women - even the ones that appear to be fine with loving an average guy - still have a time in their life when they wish they had a demon to fukk them :mjlit: whether it's a dominant personality, a big dikk, or height, not every guy has that.

This is probably why some societies go ham and restrict women's rights: create a socially enforced division along gender lines to raise the value of the average and below average guy.

I don't think that's necessary: you could just raise most men to have those dominant traits.

But it's tough. A lot of this is the result of what we find attractive in each other. Men value women's appearances, and women value men just flat out being better than them (stronger, braver, richer, taller, etc.).
 

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I'm sayin!!! No sex until marriage so you can have a freaky ass happily ever after. Mfs be in relationships for 6 years, engaged for 5, and 2 years into the marriage, sexless af!! Yall did too much pre-marriage fukking and now you bored.

I absolutely agree with the bold!! Be the type of woman you want and need to be, based on your life and circumstances. And if you want to gobble knob, go ahead because it's men that will eat stripper ass fresh off the pole. LOL not saying do it because men do it, but just don't give a fukk like they do and you'll be fine.
Yup, a lot of men are in denial about this.

A good amount of dudes are fine marrying "hoes" provided they don't feel like they are being used/tricked on.

Hell some will willingly let themselves be tricked if she's hot enough :mjgrin:
 

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It really is though. A real woman if there are any on here will let you know maybe........not me

a "real" woman :dead:


Unless that real woman is related to you by blood - then she probably not gonna keep it 100 with you anyway.

If you feel insulted by a chick jumpin on your dikk.... thats on you bro.... its 2021... I'm not here to put handcuffs and limitations on these women.... I prefer them to exercise their alleged power .... we live in America..... the land of money & sex..... this is not the land of virtuous women.
 

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a "real" woman :dead:


Unless that real woman is related to you by blood - then she probably not gonna keep it 100 with you anyway.

If you feel insulted by a chick jumpin on your dikk.... thats on you bro.... its 2021... I'm not here to put handcuffs and limitations on these women.... I prefer them to exercise their alleged power .... we live in America..... the land of money & sex..... this is not the land of virtuous women.
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Doesn't anyone realize this? Yeah for us it requires effort but in the long run it's not giving us anything.

Expressing authentic emotion is the easiest way to build a bond yet no one wants to do it out of fear of looking weak to the other party.

I’ll give you an example of the subtle power women have over men when it comes to this.

My uncle does security.

6’4, big, long locs, abysmal temper.

He was with his partner walking out of the train station and some drunk white rugby players intentionally barged into him.

They’re 20 deep; he’s solo.

They get into it and he takes off his vest like he’s ready to take on all 20 cacs.

His partner walks up to him, puts her hand on his chest and says, “I know this is important to you, I know you’re pent up right now, but I NEED YOU to come home with me tonight.”

He looks at her, looks at them, looks back at her and says, “let’s go.” :ehh:

Sounds basic right?

Now imagine how many lives would’ve been in prison or a casket had she encouraged him to give in to his ego in that moment?

Women’s power rests in our ability to show vulnerability. Men’s rests in leadership.

We have issues when we forget this.
 
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My moms born in the 40s. For a woman to get a scarlet letter you was shunned in those small rural towns.

Like that was recent and in some cultures and in some towns, its still like that. You better get married to whoever knocked you up. So many women back in the day sleeping around and all the kids look different but they were married. Ot was a facade to a certain degree. They HAD to put on the front of being together under God
How old are you?
 
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