Why is cheating on your significant other immoral?

[Kenny West]

Men think like this as well

No. Honesty and responsibility are manly. You're avoiding both. A man's thought process will force him to acknowledge the fact that he's deceiving his partner because he knows it's wrong and if YOU truly believed cheating to not be immoral you wouldn't bother lying. Where your thought process goes from there is your business but you would acknowledge that the fault here lies with YOU. I bet you never told your girl or any girl offline you thought cheating isn't immoral

A woman would rationalize their deception by saying the truth would hurt him too much (enough for him to dump me) so keep lying. Or by spinning the blame off on everything from their partner (women's go to) to human nature (unmanly men's go to). "It's not my fault I'm doing something everyone knows it's wrong, It's biology fault for making me desire other women! It's society that forced me to lie to my girl! it's women's fault for looking good! Committed relationships are the problem, they're too hard! "

just cut the obtuse bullshyt already. are you a troll or what

 

[Guru]

No. Honesty and responsibility are manly. You're avoiding both. A man's thought process will force him to acknowledge the fact that he's deceiving his partner because he knows it's wrong and if YOU truly believed cheating to not be immoral you wouldn't bother lying. Where your thought process goes from there is your business but you would acknowledge that the fault here lies with YOU. I bet you never told your girl or any girl offline you thought cheating isn't immoral

A woman would rationalize their deception by saying the truth would hurt him too much (enough for him to dump me) so keep lying. Or by spinning the blame off on everything from their partner (women's go to) to human nature (unmanly men's go to). "It's not my fault I'm doing something everyone knows it's wrong, It's biology fault for making me desire other women! It's society that forced me to lie to my girl! it's women's fault for looking good! Committed relationships are the problem, they're too hard! "

just cut the obtuse bullshyt already. are you a troll or what

You are not breaking that trust if she doesn't find out.

Everyone keeps saying, "breaking the trust is immoral".

The trust cannot be broken if she doesn't find out, thus, by y'alls reasoning, it is not immoral.

 

[Guru]

I've never cheated on any of my girlfriends (Didn't even have sex with the first two GF's to begin with) but, I had sex with a married woman while I was single just this year and that's still some scumbag shyt, I'll admit from my end and I strongly regret it even though her S/O doesn't know but, what makes cheating on your S/O so immoral, especially one you are married to, is the fact that you are breaking your word, your bond with the person you are involved with....Lying and being deceitful would be immoral in it's own....Especially to someone so close, someone so intimate...

How you breaking your bond and word if they don't find out? That's what I say. To me, the fact that I go through great lengths to make sure they do not discover my affair, means I actually do care.

I'm sure some of you are thinking, yeah right? You're a selfish person that actually doesn't care. Right? Well, that's fine, but I know me. If I didn't care I'd be sloppy and she would find out.

if she doesn't know it's a fabricated reality then what is the harm? Yes, she would rather know the truth if she could, but she can't, so no worries.

If she doesn't know she's living in a fabricated reality then she is not being hurt in any way.

 

[Raava]

I disagree but that is not the basis of this thread

If you engage in safe sexual practices and don't get emotional caught up in it and keep it discreet is there really a devastating effect to a relationship?Is it immoral?

You don't have to agree, if you polled people in a relationship I'm sure the majority expect faithfulness.

Yes, being deceitful in it self is immoral whether you get caught or not. You seem like you have little morals so I can see why it's so difficult for you to understand. Not being caught doesn't change what it is.

 

[Guru]

You don't have to agree, if you polled people in a relationship I'm sure the majority expect faithfulness.

Yes, being deceitful in it self is immoral whether you get caught or not. You seem like you have little morals so I can see why it's so difficult for you to understand. Not being caught doesn't change what it is.

Morality is completely subjective so no it wouldn't be immoral as long as you don't feel that it is.

Why do I have little morals?
"Because cheating is immoral"
Why is it immoral?
"Because, it just is, even if it's not hurting anyone, it just is"

k gotcha!

 

[Still Benefited]

Why is cheating a cardinal sin?because society said so basically op

Alot of things in relationships "hurt",why is where my dikk was at the worst?people talking about "bu bu but why not be single"....as if me breaking up with a chick to be with another chick wouldnt hurt her just as bad,but at least i didnt cheat right.?as if women respect you for breaking up with them because you want to fukk other women,yal giving women too much credit outchea,i know because Ive seen it....women dont handle honesty any better than cheating.


Not to mention many women out here take the "as long as i dont go looking for it,and dont find out" position.

I will say its immoral because you feel bad about it,matter of fact you dont always feel bad,but when you do feel bad about it,its immoral.

Theres been times women incheated on thought i should feel bad but didnt,bytch we only been talking for 3 weeks,and never discussed being exclusive?but she was hurt by it.

And theres times i cheated and felt bad as shyt afterwards,so it was immoral those times

Then again i never felt guilty during the actual fukking,so maybe just the lying part is the immoral part,not the sex itself,i did that in good conscience.



It should be a case by case basis really.

 

[Raava]

Morality is completely subjective so no it wouldn't be immoral as long as you don't feel that it is.

Why do I have little morals?
"Because cheating is immoral"
Why is it immoral?
"Because, it just is, even if it's not hurting anyone, it just is"

k gotcha!

Morality is determined by your current culture and society. You can't just say I kill people and it's not immoral because I don't feel it is. Society feels it is and you will go to jail if caught. It doesn't make you not a murderer or not wrong if you don't get caught. Just say you have no morals and be done with it instead of trying to make up rules to say you have somes, you don't.

You keep trying to skip over the lies and deceit by just saying cheating like it doesn't mean anything. If, you are saying you are being faithful and they believe they are in a committed relationship.

Why do I have little morals?

Because you lie and deceive people with little to no regard. You don't care about their feelings, you don't love them.

Why is it immoral?

Because you choose to live in a society that has codes of decency. Just because you chose not to follow them doesn't mean they don't exist if you choose to be a part of the society they are there.

Sociopath.

 

[Guru]

Morality is determined by your current culture and society. You can't just say I kill people and it's not immoral because I don't feel it is. Society feels it is and you will go to jail if caught. It doesn't make you not a murderer or not wrong if you don't get caught. Just say you have no morals and be done with it instead of trying to make up rules to say you have somes, you don't.

You keep trying to skip over the lies and deceit by just saying cheating like it doesn't mean anything. If, you are saying you are being faithful and they believe they are in a committed relationship.

Why do I have little morals?

Because you lie and deceive people with little to no regard. You don't care about their feelings, you don't love them.

Why is it immoral?

Because you choose to live in a society that has codes of decency. Just because you chose not to follow them doesn't mean they don't exist if you choose to be a part of the society they are there.

Sociopath.

What if it's for the greater good? What if I didn't tell my gf I had cheated on her and she never found out?
If I told her I cheated she would be incredibly hurt and would never trust me.

I've been saying it's only immoral if you get caught. If had a girlfriend that cheated on me and I had no clue it wouldn't be immoral because her decision has cause me no pain in any way.

The foundation of trust is not broken if I don't know. I think shes faithful, therefore I still trusts her. I still trust her because I think she's faithful.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Is it because it could potentially cause anguish and emotional pain to your significant other?


Why? Someone tell me.

Are you asking for like... research purposes or do you genuinely not understand?

 

[Raava]

What if it's for the greater good? What if I didn't tell my gf I had cheated on her and she never found out?
If I told her I cheated she would be incredibly hurt and would never trust me.

I've been saying it's only immoral if you get caught. If had a girlfriend that cheated on me and I had no clue it wouldn't be immoral because her decision has cause me no pain in any way.

The foundation of trust is not broken if I don't know. I think shes faithful, therefore I still trusts her. I still trust her because I think she's faithful.

The greater good? "I lie to protect her" no you lie so you don't have to deal with the consequences. You lie because you know it's wrong and it would hurt them. You are just spineless and selfish. I hope you get cheated on and you find out

 

[iBrowse]

Yes, because I haven't found out, so my trust isn't betrayed because I don't know. What I don't know won't hurt me. I don't know her trust doesn't have a solid basis anymore.

Sorta like a "don't ask don't tell policy"

So when she passes along a STD or An Apartment In Delaware State I'm sure you'll understand.

 

[Guru]

The greater good? "I lie to protect her" no you lie so you don't have to deal with the consequences. You lie because you know it's wrong and it would hurt them. You are just spineless and selfish. I hope you get cheated on and you find out

If the only reason it's immoral is because it makes her feel bad, then is it moral if she doesn't find out? answer this for me but I'm sure you'll deflect with some bullshyt

 

[Guru]

So when she passes along a STD or An Apartment In Delaware State I'm sure you'll understand.

If she does that then she never loved or cared about me in the first place

 

[Guru]

Are you asking for like... research purposes or do you genuinely not understand?

both

 

[Matt504]

If she does that then she never loved or cared about me in the first place

what kind of dumb ass reasoning is this, do you get tested every time you have a sexual encounter with someone other than your significant other?