Because woman have no accountability. Hence, when they are miserable, somebody else has to be responsible. So when they fukk up every relationship they are in, it's not their fault, because their bad ex is to blame.I feel like alot women would feel happier heading into new relationships if they just LEARN TO LET shyt GO , I mean wassup with all this holding bad memories like trophies?
Why do women have to make everything a "retaliation, revenge and get back" situation when everything could've just ended smoothly...you know who hurts in the end?
The new man trying to be YOUR MAN.
Just sayingI mean there are men who be on that shyt also but most times on average we let that shyt die, once a new woman arrives
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Why is it harder for women to let go of the past from bad relationships?
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i dont think is a gender thing. its a hurt person thing. lots of men out there who get their heart broken once and turn into absolute a$$holes.... but there are women like that too.
men either dont like or dont feel allowed to stop and reassess the heartbreak.
men either dont like or dont feel allowed to stop and reassess the heartbreak.
not on thecoli its notthis is people in general.
BaldingSoHard
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The serious answer is because women tend not to take time off between relationships to reflect on what went wrong and grow from it. So they end up carrying the same mindset and feelings into the next relationship. So a woman could theoretically still be carrying around emotional baggage from 3 relationships ago, because she never sat down and took a breath.
Antwon Mitchell
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Nah I know men and women both have their tirades after bad relationships, but I believe a man is more likely to quickly move on from the bad and think about the good possibilities heading into the future.
In regards to the bolded I think that's because most men on average after a breakup is looking forward to finding another woman as quickly as possible...instead of sitting around in gloom.
yeah thats the problem. any one who jumps from relationship to relationship usually did not assess the problems and hurt they dealt with in the last one and they bring that negativity to the new one. i dont think men are more prone to move on from the bad quickly.
is it sitting around in gloom or is it being responsible and and figuring yourself out? depends on who you ask. i dont think women or men or any better at this.
Antwon Mitchell
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Fair enough I guess
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Elle Driver
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False.
Only when female are tired of the black eyes and broken noses and some still hang in there
Json
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It’s easier to move on when you are the one lacking the empathy that allows you to hurt someone.
I wouldn’t say men are “better” I just think men are more capable of suppressing emotion, which can either be or a good OR bad thing depending on the mindstate of the man.
a man who thinks logically can say “Damn. I was really feeling her, but it didn’t work out so she must not be the one for me. Oh well plenty of fish in the sea” and then start the rat race again. He may ACTUALLY be feeling pretty upset about the situation but, as alot of men are physically creatures, we find another attractive woman who has the traits we desire and we’re “back in the game again”
i will say to your point, that a man who is TRULY in love very VERRYYYYY rarely thinks rationally. I’ve seen strong men, some of my best friends, fall apart when a woman they truly loved broke their hearts. I’m talking about brothers going for days not eating, depressed, fukking heartsick. Stalking the exes social media, obsessing over which new nikka who liked her pics is blowing her back out. Sad stuff.
So in conclusion, really the only advantage men have over women when it comes to breakups is the POTENTIAL for emotional suppression. And thats a slippery slope depending on the man
Elle Driver
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Falso.
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facts. women will move on quicker from a dude because there's always a new dude but going from one relationship to the next fukks with their head. The problem is they don't know how to enjoy life without being in a relationship. Men got a lot more hobbies let's be honest.