Tribal Outkast
Veteran
We both work and we both do things at home. It’s not hard 
"Why women don't want to cook or clean for men anymore?"
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Been married for 17 years. 2 kids. We both work and make the same amount of money, but my wife does the cooking. I wish I knew how to cook like her. She’s an amazing cook. She enjoys it but sometimes is tired and annoyed that she does it all. I need to learn. I used to do the lawn work but I’d rather pay people for that now. I do a lot of cleaning and playing with the kids. Won’t lie, I need to do more for her with the cooking. I’ll grill but she does the seasoning and gets all the sides going. Couple of my guys do the cooking in their household. To each their own.
FeverPitch2
Superstar
Basically, any adult should be cooking and cleaning because a) you gotta eat everyday and b) if you don't clean, your place will be nasty as hell.
shyt, I'm cooking now.
When two adults get together, that shouldn't stop unless one person is heavy into cooking and insists on cooking everyday.
If you break up, are you gonna stop eating? You should know how to cook for your own sake.
When me and my lady lived together, we both worked of course and we divided cooking and cleaning duties according to a schedule.
It worked perfectly.
I understand the point ol boy at the bottom was tryna make, but he sounded like a whole hoe sayin it.
A cohabitative relationship requires team teamwork. There must be a division of domestic labor.
I personally don't think it's healthy for women to be full time homemakers. It's a 24/7 job and they almost always crack under the pressure.
I broke that down in my Eboni K. Williams post.
Crayola Coyote
Superstar
Simp dude response makes me want to put hands on him. 
I swear, black people, we're gonna evolved these relationship talks past college.
Like picking schools for our kids.
Home insurance.
How to pick who's parent's we visit for holidays.
Like picking schools for our kids.
Home insurance.
How to pick who's parent's we visit for holidays.
Crayola Coyote
Superstar
Yeah that what I’m saying. That passive aggressive nonsense
Ezekiel 25:17
Veteran
I'm thinking start cooking shyt in bulk. If you grill, cook up 3 days worth of barbecue. That shyt still be good if you steam it in some water.
Get a personal chef even if it's 2 days a week.
Sous vide. Crockpot.
Peachstate
Lady
Facts.
Let's just say I'd probably be slaving away in my house like Cinderella if I didn't look like I do.
We will definitely eat left overs. I grilled tuna, salmon and steak yesterday. I usually put water on a paper towel and put in the microwave.
I know a guy that has a catering business here that could cook but wifey is particular. I’d like to take a cooking class. We did this virtual mixology class for our anniversary that was dope, so I’m sure they have something like that I could do.
Peachstate
Lady
And glasses breh would be attractive if his attitude wasn't so nasty and if he was doing more with his time than ranting on a podcast. That's so bytchmade to me.
Mac Ten
Class of 97 !!!
Let's be real but the majority of women can't cook thèse days, let alone clean...period.
I remember at one point that was a basic skill that a woman had to learn how to cook and have the crib looking clean which was a skill from Big Momma.
The days of Big Momma passing wisdom down to the next in line are extinct nowadays and you wonder why the majority of these women have poor hygiene issues and can't keep a man. They say that the way through a man's heart is through his stomach.
I remember at one point that was a basic skill that a woman had to learn how to cook and have the crib looking clean which was a skill from Big Momma.
The days of Big Momma passing wisdom down to the next in line are extinct nowadays and you wonder why the majority of these women have poor hygiene issues and can't keep a man. They say that the way through a man's heart is through his stomach.
I really disagree that women should hold this responsibility. I know alot of brehs that can cook their asses off and I think we should start cooking more in general. & Meal prep with a cute girl be feeling like foreplay sometimes.
As for cleaning, i mean whatever.. seems like such a minor thing. I had to clean the garage out, put on some chunes and it was kinda fun. I don't mind cleaning.
Basically I'm saying this is a played out relationship trope, and I'm tired of hearing it on a date when a woman tells you what she likes to do. We can do that shyt ourselves brehs.
As for cleaning, i mean whatever.. seems like such a minor thing. I had to clean the garage out, put on some chunes and it was kinda fun. I don't mind cleaning.
Basically I'm saying this is a played out relationship trope, and I'm tired of hearing it on a date when a woman tells you what she likes to do. We can do that shyt ourselves brehs.
I think I did a good job of vetting so it might be less of an issue in our household.
A lot of these problems come from a mismatch of values between two people. So you end up trying to “convince” somebody to be what you want instead of dealing with what you want.
I personally didn’t want to be married to a man so doggedly attached to “roles” that he was essentially useless outside of them. Growing up I saw my parents do a lil bit of everything whenever it was needed to make sure shyt ran smoothly. They were egoless and the incessant need to overemphasize roles just wasn’t there in their dynamic. But no one felt deprived of power or respect either. When you move as one…it just works. Sometimes he followed her lead, sometimes she followed his lead. In the end what we saw growing up was them being fair to another. I loved watching them grow up together and when I see all the shyt people talk about these days I realize just how rare of a gift it was that they had.