"Why you fukking me but not helping"?....you see me doing bad but don't wanna help"

[Deafheaven]

This isn't the argument at all presented in the OP. These are the facts:

1. A woman and man have sex.
2. The man is doing well financially.
3. The woman is not doing well financially.
4. The man is obligated to help the woman out in some way to better her situation due to the man and woman having sex.

This is entirely an entitled mindset. The very first question should be, why isn't the woman's affairs in order? Follow up question would be, why isn't she able to take care of herself like an adult?

How much of a loser would a man be to be broke and expect a woman to take care of him just because they are having sex? Woman are not excluded from this loser status.

To put the final nail in the coffin to your argument, just because someone spends money a person does not mean they care about them.

Exactly

I make enough where Ill go out and pay for a chicks drinks and meal without thinking twicr because youre essentially my entertainment budget atm. Doesnt mean I care about her at all. And some savvy evil nikkas use bread to manipulate and control broads. They don care, they just want control

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

This is deeper than just dikk. Out of all of the 3 men you deemed worthy, why did you not get married to them? You care moreso about solid connections but it still sounds like you were pumped and dumped at the end of it all. You will be astonished how long a man's long game to p*ssy can be.

You so incensed by the mere HINT OF sexual restraint that you would try to insult the messenger by alleging that normal human break ups and relationship issues equal=Me being a buss down.

That shyt really offended you that much! Two marriage proposals, two long term relationships, and to try and convince a chick to give up p*ssy easily you’ve a.) tried the ole “Youse gon be alone” tactic and b.) “you must be a bird”.

What’s next? You gon try the ole “yo p*ssy must be wack”
shyt didn’t work out. That’s life. Timing, insecurities, distance. That’s it. And how u know I didn’t dump them?

But all of that is irrelevant. The truth of the matter is a smart woman, with a good self-esteem has zero incentive to let men use her body, have her risking pregnancy, STDs, and bodily harm with dudes who doesn’t care about her.

Men tell women this all the time when they wanna absolve themselves of blame if a pregnancy occurs, but when women say it proactively all of a sudden you in your feelings?! Why? Make it make sense pimpin!

I ain’t even mad at you but you know exactly what I’m talking about.

 

[NinoBrown]

Maybe if these broads got some work skills instead of p*ssy skills, then they would be in a better situation.

If you have to rely on p*ssy to try to trap a breh in order for him to pay rent and feed your kids then you lost at life...

 

[Deuterion]

You've never spent a single dime on them in any way?

No, I never said that. But your initial post stated that you will always have to spend money to have sex with a woman and that’s not true. I have women in my phone right now that will spend money to have sex with me. You speaking as if regular relationships operate just like prostitution.

 

[Eternally Jaded]

By give up everything you mean p*ssy.....

Only thing offered is p*ssy.. Interesting

To be fair, what she's saying is that her gooch don't work if she doesn't think you rate her as a human being.

If everything that @Booksnrain is in life, can be encapsulated into "goodass punani" in your eyes, she doesn't want any part of you.

I respect it.

Our communities sexual intimacy issues these days can largely be laid at the feet of the "it was just a nut" mentality.

That's surface level deflection, masking real deepset problems imo.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

This isn't the argument at all presented in the OP. These are the facts:

1. A woman and man have sex.
2. The man is doing well financially.
3. The woman is not doing well financially.
4. The man is obligated to help the woman out in some way to better her situation due to the man and woman having sex.

This is entirely an entitled mindset. The very first question should be, why isn't the woman's affairs in order? Follow up question would be, why isn't she able to take care of herself like an adult?

How much of a loser would a man be to be broke and expect a woman to take care of him just because they are having sex? Woman are not excluded from this loser status.

To put the final nail in the coffin to your argument, just because someone spends money on a person does not mean they care about them.

You wrote all of that for nothing because this is about what each partner wants from this situation.

He just wants to fukk.
She doesn’t want just his dikk. She wants an experience. She wants to be loved. Cared for. Helped by the person she is sharing her body with.

There is nothing wrong with just wanting sex.

There is also nothing wrong with someone wanting deeper level of affection and connection from someone they have sex with.

If she wants the latter, then she should not have sex with men who don’t give a damn about her. The problem is her low self-esteem won’t allow her to communicate her needs and say NOPE to dudes who can’t or won’t see to her needs.

So she needs to work on that before she lays down with other men, instead of taking Ls like this and thinking sex=love/affection/connection/care.

 

[Cobalt Sire]

Most women know a guy who can help them out when they need it, but they won't have sex with them. The woman in the op is most likely spending more money on the guys she's dating than vice versa, and she's tide of it, but she ain't about to stop, because women have to keep their foot on nice guys' neck. They got something to prove I guess.

 

[HARLEM AL]

To be fair, what she's saying is that her gooch don't work if she doesn't think you rate her as a human being.

If everything that @Booksnrain is in life, can be encapsulated into "goodass punani" in your eyes, she doesn't want any part of you.

I respect it.

Our communities sexual intimacy issues these days can largely be laid at the feet of the "it was just a nut" mentality.

That's surface level deflection, masking real deepset problems imo.

 

[CHICAGO]

LMAO

CHICO WENT IN ON THAT HOE
AND SHUT ALL THAT BABBLE DOWN.

​

 

[Deafheaven]

Confuse me if wrong but wasnt this about a women thinking she deserves to be taken care of becauase she gave up her cooter? What is this woman in her talking about

Im legit confused, shes all over the place.

 

[Coco Loco]

I have done it.

 

[Eternally Jaded]

You laugh breh but it's the truth, the way I live.

How can a man refer to a woman as a hoe, unless all he sees her as, is a tool to be used?

I'm not a captain type but how can I resent someone for saying that they're not gonna deal with you unless they feel respected in turn?

As a black man in America?

Respect is the bare minimum.

 

[The Realist Perspective]

You so incensed by the mere HINT OF sexual restraint that you would try to insult the messenger by alleging that normal human break ups and relationship issues equal=Me being a buss down.

That shyt really offended you that much! Two marriage proposals, two long term relationships, and to try and convince a chick to give up p*ssy easily you’ve a.) tried the ole “Youse gon be alone” tactic and b.) “you must be a bird”.

What’s next? You gon try the ole “yo p*ssy must be wack”
shyt didn’t work out. That’s life. Timing, insecurities, distance. That’s it. And how u know I didn’t dump them?

But all of that is irrelevant. The truth of the matter is a smart woman, with a good self-esteem has zero incentive to let men use her body, have her risking pregnancy, STDs, and bodily harm with dudes who doesn’t care about her.

Men tell women this all the time when they wanna absolve themselves of blame if a pregnancy occurs, but when women say it proactively all of a sudden you in your feelings?! Why? Make it make sense pimpin!

I ain’t even mad at you but you know exactly what I’m talking about.

What was the point of this deep connection is the ultimate point I'm getting at. You place such a high value on these genuine connections, you would think you would be married by now. You had 3 separate chances, apparently. Maybe you don't want to be married I don't know but something is not adding up with what you're telling me. 3 solid connections with 3 different men that opened the gates to your soul mate sensitive walls, yet they fell apart due to timing, insecurities and distance. Not to mention, you may have possibly broken up with 1 or all 3 of them. Something definitely isn't adding up at all.

How did you do any better than a woman that knows a man for a week, has sex, it doesn't work out, then she moves on? Trying to shame a woman that "gives it up easily" is silly because both of you ended up in the same boat. You have/had dikk but the man wasn't entirely attached. Your connection meant nothing.

 

[Scientific]

Commoditze it. Expect some form of monetary compensation. Then act like you're not charging a price? The mental gymnastics

This kind of thing used to be shunned. Now its expected. As long as there's simps out there tricking.

 

[Numpsay]

She wants love, respect, a support system and a man who wants to help and be there for her.

That’s what everybody wants but people like to desensitize themselves to perfectly normal human wants when we wanna get something from somebody without giving anything in return.

The way we talk about poor people is disgusting. The way we justify trying to exploit them is disgusting. She needs to love herself and get some self-esteem but that doesn’t justify sorry nikkas using and kicking her while she down.

And when the stats on our community hit and everybody going nobody wants to connect dots. As unstable as she is, that’s a future baby mama that dozens of sorry dudes will go to for easy p*ssy.
People need to stop.

If that's what she wants then that's the type of energy she needs to start putting out. No self respecting man will give her that when she out here whoring herself out. Her IG is basically an ad for the highest bidder.