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Women are suffering from “Mankeeping”
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Some people aren't smart enough to fully grasp concepts; so they may unintentionally misuse those concepts/education, and that misuse leads to a worse outcome for everyone else that happens to fall under their new "discovery" or proposed model?
Sort of how certain words are constantly used over and over, for example, misogyny. Other people hear the word through their chosen medium and hear/see how its used but don't fully grasp it, and they repeat it as though they understand what it means. Same for narcissistic, and many other terms/concepts social media has adopted.
Researchers at Stanford have finally given a name to something many women have been dealing with for years. It’s called mankeeping. And it’s helping explain why so many women are stepping away from dating altogether.
Mankeeping describes the emotional labor women end up doing in heterosexual relationships. It goes beyond remembering birthdays or coordinating social plans. It means being your partner’s one-man support system. Managing his stress. Interpreting his moods. Holding his hand through feelings he won’t share with anyone else. All of it unpaid, unacknowledged, and often unreciprocated
The root of the issue is tied to what experts are calling the male loneliness epidemic. As more men report having fewer close friendships, romantic partners are expected to pick up the slack. Instead of processing with friends, many men offload everything onto the woman they’re dating. She becomes his entire emotional infrastructure.
MANKEEPING IS WHY MORE AND MORE WOMEN ARE DONE WITH DATING
Plenty of women are no longer interested in that dynamic. According to Pew Research, only 38 percent of single women in the US are currently looking for a relationship. Among single men, that number jumps to 61 percent. The gap says a lot. Women aren’t opting out of love. They’re opting out of being someone’s therapist with benefits.
The Guardian calls mankeeping a modern extension of emotional labor, one that turns a partner into a life coach. This isn’t about avoiding vulnerability. It’s about refusing to carry someone else’s emotional weight while getting little to nothing in return. And there’s nothing wrong with feeling that way.
Some men have started opening up more, which is good. But too often, that openness lands in the lap of the person they’re sleeping with instead of a friend or a therapist. Vulnerability without boundaries can feel more like a burden than a breakthrough.
What women want isn’t complicated. They want shared effort. Mutual support. Emotional responsibility that doesn’t get passed off like a group project. When that doesn’t happen, they’re choosing solitude over stress. And they’re not apologizing for it.
Some women are called bitter for stepping back from dating. Others are labeled cold. What they’re really doing is protecting their capacity. The choice to stay single rarely comes from defeat. It comes from knowing exactly how much energy they have left to give. Until that imbalance shifts, more women will keep walking away. Being alone is easier than managing someone else’s emotional life.
Unreciprocated?
Sure, who has ever heard of men being required to manage their wives or girlfriends stress and interpreting their moods
After all, the saying is "happy husband, happy life", because the only way woman get to enjoy peace and quite is if they constantly accomodate their mens mood changes and desires 
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Researchers at Stanford have finally given a name to something many women have been dealing with for years. It’s called mankeeping. And it’s helping explain why so many women are stepping away from dating altogether.
Mankeeping describes the emotional labor women end up doing in heterosexual relationships. It goes beyond remembering birthdays or coordinating social plans. It means being your partner’s one-man support system. Managing his stress. Interpreting his moods. Holding his hand through feelings he won’t share with anyone else. All of it unpaid, unacknowledged, and often unreciprocated
The root of the issue is tied to what experts are calling the male loneliness epidemic. As more men report having fewer close friendships, romantic partners are expected to pick up the slack. Instead of processing with friends, many men offload everything onto the woman they’re dating. She becomes his entire emotional infrastructure.
MANKEEPING IS WHY MORE AND MORE WOMEN ARE DONE WITH DATING
Plenty of women are no longer interested in that dynamic. According to Pew Research, only 38 percent of single women in the US are currently looking for a relationship. Among single men, that number jumps to 61 percent. The gap says a lot. Women aren’t opting out of love. They’re opting out of being someone’s therapist with benefits.
The Guardian calls mankeeping a modern extension of emotional labor, one that turns a partner into a life coach. This isn’t about avoiding vulnerability. It’s about refusing to carry someone else’s emotional weight while getting little to nothing in return. And there’s nothing wrong with feeling that way.
Some men have started opening up more, which is good. But too often, that openness lands in the lap of the person they’re sleeping with instead of a friend or a therapist. Vulnerability without boundaries can feel more like a burden than a breakthrough.
What women want isn’t complicated. They want shared effort. Mutual support. Emotional responsibility that doesn’t get passed off like a group project. When that doesn’t happen, they’re choosing solitude over stress. And they’re not apologizing for it.
Some women are called bitter for stepping back from dating. Others are labeled cold. What they’re really doing is protecting their capacity. The choice to stay single rarely comes from defeat. It comes from knowing exactly how much energy they have left to give. Until that imbalance shifts, more women will keep walking away. Being alone is easier than managing someone else’s emotional life.
This whole thing of announcing to the world you out of the game. No one cares. Exit quietly.
This is funny coming from womanWait, you chose to ignore the rest of the sentence "All of it unpaid, unacknowledged, and often unreciprocated"... and now you wonder why there's a problem.
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The first thing I posted was acknowledged men have the same concern so idk why yall making it a gender war issue
It's an issue because woman comlain about having to do stuff that they themselves take for granted or call "the bare minimum" from their partners. You don't see men complaining about "womankeeping".
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I mean we kind of do. we just don't have a name for it.
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In a perfect world, yes. But humans are humans. And men can easily get set up, so to speak, by the vulnerability ploy. Where women don’t want a man to self isolate, don’t want men to keep things in, but when he gets comfortable to open up, and spills too much, it all of a sudden becomes too much of an emotional burden for her to bare. Even if he does reciprocate, and listen to all of her traumas, stressors, stories, daily frustrations, etc. As men, naturally we would rather be listeners, than to open up and potentially project a certain image that may put her off. Women don’t really provide a fine line, between men expressing vulnerability vs trauma dumping or manskeeping. So it puts us in a space, where we would much rather shut up and listen to the woman talk all day, rather than express something that may put her off, or make her step back from us and the relationship. And then these same women will interpret your lack of transparency/vulnerability as self isolation. “He’s self isolating and I hate that. Imma take a step back from him”. It’s a total mindfukk for men, when that happens. I’m basing this on a fairly recent breakup that has left me fukked up, distraught, and depressed.
In a perfect world, yes. But humans are humans. And men can easily get set up, so to speak, by the vulnerability ploy. Where women don’t want a man to self isolate, don’t want men to keep things in, but when he gets comfortable to open up, and spills too much, it all of a sudden becomes too much of an emotional burden for her to bare. Even if he does reciprocate, and listen to all of her traumas, stressors, stories, daily frustrations, etc. As men, naturally we would rather be listeners, than to open up and potentially project a certain image that may put her off. Women don’t really provide a fine line, between men expressing vulnerability vs trauma dumping or manskeeping. So it puts us in a space, where we would much rather shut up and listen to the woman talk all day, rather than express something that may put her off, or make her step back from us and the relationship. And then these same women will interpret your lack of transparency/vulnerability as self isolation. “He’s self isolating and I hate that. Imma take a step back from him”. It’s a total mindfukk for men, when that happens. I’m basing this on a fairly recent breakup that has left me fukked up and distraught.
The “ick”
Share too much = you’re becoming a woman
Share less = Nonchalant / too secretive
She can’t “conquer” you in both of these stages.
The truth is, women are always going to be a little emotional and all over the place. It's part of a man's job to be that rock and emotional regulator.
All of this new age "open up" and "be vulnerable" is the misguided, if often well intended, babble from people who have no experience being a husband, father and pillar of the community.
You can either be a leader, or you can bytch and moan. Pick one.
It is not a mans job to be an emotional regulator for woman. Especially not for a woman who thinks that him sharing emotions places too much of a burden on her.
All of it is UNPAIDMy goodness this country is fukk
Your woman has to be paid because you going through stress at your job, depression and anxiety because you’re parents are elderly and you going through it about it
And for your girl to feel sorry for you, u must give her 20 dollars a hour
