"Women can go weeks without seeing a man she finds attractive when she’s out in public."
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AquaCityBoy
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i be on tunnel vision when i'm out and about (if i'm on food then it's all about my plate, if we drinking... its all about the drank, etc.) so i might see someone that's objectively attractive but it does nothing until we start chopping it up and the personality comes through. that's when it hits like
Attraction has so many variables for me. I may see a man who is not physically appealing, but he has a vibe about him, so that would make him attractive to me. I really don't care as much about what a man looks like physically, it's more about his ways and personal philosophy, which can override a lack of attractiveness for a lot of women.
What is truly rare is a man who has personality, ambition, style and a team based mindset. That is a fine man, whether he is 5'6 or 6'6, chubby or thin.
What is truly rare is a man who has personality, ambition, style and a team based mindset. That is a fine man, whether he is 5'6 or 6'6, chubby or thin.
RaspberryFitted
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that post as well as this thread is based on physical attraction, so I am confused on why you went on a tangent about what’s inside.
I do agree with your post, as in my experience/out of their mouths/in my surroundings.. grown women appreciate a grown man who handles his even if he isn’t a beauty model.
NobodyReally
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The only reason why I think this is probably true is because we have been socialized not to stare at men when we are walking around in the city. Even when you interact with strangers like on the elevator, you have to give a polite glance and smile and keep your eyes forward, so as not to be seen as desperate or inviting flirtation. So conceivably, women may be passing by dudes they actually do find attractive or fukkable but they've been trained not to surf for them in those settings.
EDIT: Another situation where a woman may pass by a guy she finds attractive or fukkable is when she walks past a group of guys hanging out together. Staring at the whole group is generally frowned upon. We're taught that making eye contact with the entire group to scope out someone is inviting problems. So women will walk past, eyes forward, but note where they are in their peripherals.
EDIT: Another situation where a woman may pass by a guy she finds attractive or fukkable is when she walks past a group of guys hanging out together. Staring at the whole group is generally frowned upon. We're taught that making eye contact with the entire group to scope out someone is inviting problems. So women will walk past, eyes forward, but note where they are in their peripherals.
FeverPitch2
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Women are on the defensive when they're out in public doing day to day things.
Strange men represent danger and most aren't being looked at closely, if at all, during this time.
Their perspective differs depending on their situation.
How many times have you met a woman that didn't warm up to you until she ran into you a second time in a shared safe space?
Strange men represent danger and most aren't being looked at closely, if at all, during this time.
Their perspective differs depending on their situation.
How many times have you met a woman that didn't warm up to you until she ran into you a second time in a shared safe space?
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It's not based on physical attractiveness. I have spoken before about dating a man who was not attractive at all but he had other qualities that were rare.
RaspberryFitted
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…. The thread & OG post is about physical attraction. Attraction based on the sight & not the mind.
Again, I appreciate your opinion and can see your perspective, but it’s extra in regards to this topic.
Men and women really don't see eye to eye, according to a new study. Females are better at discriminating among colors, researchers say, while males excel at tracking fast-moving objects and discerning detail from a distance—evolutionary adaptations possibly linked to our hunter-gatherer past.
They don’t know what they’re looking at.
They don’t know what they’re looking at.
It's right on target. If op is saying most women don't see many attractive men, yet couples are still getting together, don't you think those women are looking at other factors?
A saying I say in my head: "Men look for reasons to say yes, women look for reasons to say no."
UncleTomFord15
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Most women think they are better looking than they really are. Most men realistically understand what range they fall in and act accordingly. Most women dont 
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You know what, I think this is on point. Maybe this has a lot to do with it. I usually only notice a man if he catches my eye—but if he doesn’t then it could be that I was just not paying attention/didn’t notice since I don’t tend to scope or stare at people when I’m out and about unless I’m at a club, party, or social situation.