How do you get attracted to ugly/unspectacular girls?

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Grow a personality

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And there are literally a million sources/books that can help you with that.

Acne and other things can make you feel very uncomfortable about interaction with beautiful women, but it's time you learn something:

beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Our definition of beauty as men is often very physical (fat azz, cute face etc.)

But women (and many men) look way more at how a person dresses, carries themselves, what they are doing with their lives, how independent they are, their focus on their own hobbies/interests. The breh @Turbulent explained this very well.

You can't just magically have the best skin ever, and that's fine.
You can't just magically look how you have let society tell you what 'attractive' is.

BUT you have 24 hours every day to shape your life, to work on yourself, to eat right, to dress well, to learn how to do the things you don't know how to do, to hustle, to build your career, to be knowledgeable about subjects that interest you. Your looks have ZERO influence on these things, but they can have 100% influence on how a girl feels about you.

Don't worry about the whole 'I can't approach girls'. Be sociable, make friends, hang out with friends and acquaintances - people love people who are sociable.

It's totally normal to think 'I wish I was more attractive' because society breeds insecurity. But your personality, is yours to sculpt and improve daily, and with the right personality no woman is out of reach (not saying you can get any woman, I'm saying 'the concept of you can't date a 10 is false')

Do you breh

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I drink and usually watch a movie with an attractive female lead. I don't know why but wine does it more so than beer. I think its the carbonation and gas it causes but after 2 big glasses of wine I no longer give a fukk what she looks like. If she smells good and I take my glasses off its on.
 

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It's simple you just gotta focus on what's attractive about her instead of what's unnattractive. It might sound simple but if it was well you wouldn't be asking lol

This is what happens when you stop fapping anyway. Soon everyone starts to look good then u realize most chicks ain't even unattractive they're just of AVERAGE attractiveness, like most people. Which means there's usually something on her that's sexy. It might just be 1 thing. No one has a roster full of dimes. All the player types I knew had average looking women most of the time but had the ability to pull 8s and 9s. As long as u get p*ssy you won't even be mad. Women become more attractive after u hit anyway
 

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Ok brehs, I'm trying to come to grips with myself about the reality of my situation. I'm just not good looking. I have DeMar Derozan acne & a Tracy McGrady eye but no NBA money. People say to stop punching above your weight class, so I'm think I'm gonna start trying to approach unattractive girls.

The problem is, I can't get turned on:picard: I understand I should date within my league, but the girls within my league are either physically repulsive or they're average af, average face, A cup boobs, minimal booty, they have nothing that attracts me. Wtf should I do? I like fine girls like every other dude, but I'm trying to sober up to my reality.


You gotta change your mind set b4 anything . Work on your self esteem/ confidence. Learn how to dress(if u cant)wear cologne, groom your self, keep a fresh cut or line up. Hit the gym to work on your body/have hobbies. Socialize even with the 'Ugly chicks" it a show you how to deal/interact with women.plus you become attracted to certain people once you get to know them. Work on your personality and develop a sense of humor. When I was getting over looked one of my OG's told me this : "You gotta examine your approach homie. Make sure you’re not doing too much. Or not doing enough. One thing about women. They like a confident respectful man who knows how to carry himself. If you move a certain way they’ll come to you. Or they’ll let you know through their actions that it’s ok for you to go to them"
 
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If you're already smacked, hitting smacked jawns shouldn't be an issue, that's where you should start off.
Ugly and short nikkas both get hoes due to things like having a positive attitude and sense of humor.
I've seen it.
Do not take my alcohol advice, btw. It will mess you up with regular women who may not be as nasty and desperate. I had to quit drinking years ago to regain sanity.
 
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