There ain't no such thing as male "friends"

[KinksandCoils]

For the purposes of this thread that is the only relevant definition. What does it matter if you talk to a guy every so often and never spend any time alone and don't really have connection of any depth? Why would a boyfriend care about some dude that you chit chat with on occasion in the company of other friends? What the OP is referencing and what the "friendzone" is all about is the establishment of a level of intimacy where feelings could develop and something could happen.

I never read the whole thread. anyways a guy can be jealous just if u introduce a male to him. U can't determine what is worthy of being jealous or not to be jealous. Some guys aren't cool with a woman associating with any males unless they have to while the next man might only get jealous if she is giving a lot of time to him.

Another ex: If the guy thinks his woman's male friend is ugly as shyt and she would never like him he might not care. But if they guy is attractive he could care.

 

[Colicat]

But there's no way you know that for certain. Sounds like wishful thinking on your part. His words may indicate one thing but his thoughts and intentions might reveal another. Hell, maybe his actions are revealing something else.

I bet my bottom dollar that if his boys asked him in all confidence, he'd probably admit to being attracted to you. At the very least, he'd probably admit to being open to having sexual relations with you.

I highly doubt that.... But let's entertain your premise.... Even if that was the case how would him being willing to entertain the idea of sex = to him not being my friend?
He's my friend because it's a plutonic bond we've built for years....
When we were growing up I was the chubby tomboy.... In his mind, I am still the chubby tomboy...
I've had other male "friends" who came out the woodworks when I shed the chubby tomboy image who have said... "Nawl, you were always cute... I just never said anything... What's up now though".... Dem nikkas are dudes who keep women close for those moments of weakness...

I call it emtional raping...

How is it rape?.... It's two consenting adults?

 

[KinksandCoils]

First my mentality when it comes to women comes from a another planet . I dont wrap my ego around a women like they are possesions. I just let women know you cant CONTROL what i do either. If im in a exclusive realationship then im in it if not im chillin. I dont thrive on jealous woman im 30 yrs of age im beyound that i love myself too much to fall for the jealous shyt. You talkin to a nikka that gets up and walks out on DATES if a chic wanna play with her phone or is completely disrespectful...I anit the one

U say that but yet when I made a point of not being jealous u say a smart ass comment. So basically u wouldn't have said that if I was like oh hell no!


Bye Felecia

 

[Colicat]

And here lay's the underlying problem.


Females friend= any random person that talks with them from time to time and is cool.

Male friends= people they talk to or hang with regularly.

....Nobody said that.... Many friendships start out hanging out regularly but due to adult life, communication and socializing become irregular...


Devote all my time to my bestie brehs

 

[FTBS]

I never read the whole thread. anyways a guy can be jealous just if u introduce a male to him. U can't determine what is worthy of being jealous or not to be jealous. Some guys aren't cool with a woman associating with any males unless they have to while the next man might only get jealous if she is giving a lot of time to him.

Another ex: If the guy thinks his woman's male friend is ugly as shyt and she would never like him he might not care. But if they guy is attractive he could care.

Dude would be even more vigilant about the shyt. We all know ugly dudes try the hardest.

Some guys will get jealous over nothing. Some guys won't get jealous over anything (or at least won't acknowledge it). That has nothing to do with whether or not other guys intentions are true and that's really what I have been referencing this whole time.

 

[KinksandCoils]

Dude would be even more vigilant about the shyt. We all know ugly dudes try the hardest.

Some guys will get jealous over nothing. Some guys won't get jealous over anything (or at least won't acknowledge it). That has nothing to do with whether or not other guys intentions are true and that's really what I have been referencing this whole time.

Right I know it doesn't but I was talking about on the boyfriends side not the friends side that probably wants to fukk like y'all said..... I already stated I didn't disagree. Men and women most of the time can't be friends unless it's a certain situation.

 

[Ghost_In_A_Shell]

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So I can't have a wing-dude?
So damn, I can't play fukking destiny with my friends?
Ya'll suck.

 

[Youseenmywork]

U say that but yet when I made a point of not being jealous u say a smart ass comment. So basically u wouldn't have said that if I was like oh hell no!


Bye Felecia

That comment was a joke you took it there ...I didn't say YOU were jeleous it was off had comment ...whatever teedot. This is why I don't even answer toomany females on the coli.

 

[Youseenmywork]

I highly doubt that.... But let's entertain your premise.... Even if that was the case how would him being willing to entertain the idea of sex = to him not being my friend?
He's my friend because it's a plutonic bond we've built for years....
When we were growing up I was the chubby tomboy.... In his mind, I am still the chubby tomboy...
I've had other male "friends" who came out the woodworks when I shed the chubby tomboy image who have said... "Nawl, you were always cute... I just never said anything... What's up now though".... Dem nikkas are dudes who keep women close for those moments of weakness...



How is it rape?.... It's two consenting adults?

Let me dm you so I can explain ...

 

[KinksandCoils]

That comment was a joke you took it there ...I didn't say YOU were jeleous it was off had comment ...whatever teedot. This is why I don't even answer toomany females on the coli.

Unfunny Jokes don't transfer well through writing.

 

[Pifferry]

I don't agree.
I've had female friends that other people considered attractive or dated while we were friends but I wasn't into them sexually or emotionally.
I've also been friends with ugly chicks but that's self explanatory.
On the flip side there's been friendships that were the opposite of that and I stopped talking to them on good terms. Don't know why that's hard for some of you people to get. Females are people to.

 

[The Mad Titan]

I don't agree.
I've had female friends that other people considered attractive or dated while we were friends but I wasn't into them sexually or emotionally.
I've also been friends with ugly chicks but that's self explanatory.
On the flip side there's been friendships that were the opposite of that and I stopped talking to them on good terms. Don't know why that's hard for some of you people to get. Females are people to.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

It's always funny when people make statements like this when they arguing against something i.e. not seeing past their own experience . Females, especially attractive females, have no idea the lengths the men go to or the lies they tell...none at all. Sex is priority number 1 for the great majority of guys.

I don't think you even understand what is happening on the other end of this dialogue. You are arguing an absolute, and I am arguing a variation. Your statement does not even apply to what I'm saying. You guys are admitting that you are not friends to women and never will be. How can I argue your experience? I am just saying that my experience is different. You are the ones saying that my experience is not accurate and that no one will ever have an experience unlike your own. You argument is silly. How you deal with women is not the end all be all.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Females are people to.

That's what it pretty much comes down to. They see women as things to stick their dikks in so that's why they can't fathom being around one for any other purpose. If someone has respect for women as people they wouldn't have any problem seeing how men and women could be friends even if they had no female friends themselves.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

They see women as things to stick their dikks in so that's why they can't fatom being around one for any other purpose.

Not at all. Again though, it's simple... an S/O would not be out of line to question their S/O spending a lot of time alone with someone of the opposite sex. Why? Because of human biology. So the notion that men and women being completely plutonic friends is normal is ridiculous. Its a pipe dream women cling to to rationalize stringing men along.