There ain't no such thing as male "friends"

[Atlrocafella]

I have female friends that I wouldn't even try like that because I'm not attracted to them in anyway even tho they are attractive. I've just known them far too long to even think like that.

I know a girl who's dude got her locked down on some she can't be friends with any male, past, present, future, except for the ones in her family Lmao. Facebook can't even have a dude on there.

 

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

Just because 2 people of the opposite sex are cordial/social with each other doesn't mean they're friends.

 

[William F. Russell]

First, he's married. Second, he has a child. Third, he's shorter than me. Fourth, he drinks, A LOT. Fifth, he's irresponsible. All of which I could careless about when he are friends. None of which I want in a man of my own. Get it now? Cute and fun to be around are not enough to make a romantic relationship dear. Again I am not a child. I am not ruled my hormones.

...so if you could "careless" about those things, how are y'all friends?

Real friends care how much/badly other friends drink. Real friends care how irresponsible their friends are.

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Sounds more like he's fun for you to be around.

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But that doesn't mean y'all are friends in the genuine sense.

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And WHAT THE F*CK is your stripper a** doing befriending a married man?

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[Atlrocafella]

if your girl going to cheat, she's going to cheat, so all that extra "she can't have no male friends" is insecurity. charge her to the game if it happens.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

I have female friends that I wouldn't even try like that because I'm not attracted to them in anyway even tho they are attractive. I've just known them far too long to even think like that.

I know a girl who's dude got her locked down on some she can't be friends with any male, past, present, future, except for the ones in her family Lmao. Facebook can't even have a dude on there.

watch her cheat and smash

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Not at all. Again though, it's simple... an S/O would not be out of line to question their S/O spending a lot of time alone with someone of the opposite sex. Why? Because of human biology. So the notion that men and women being completely plutonic friends is normal is ridiculous. Its a pipe dream women cling to to rationalize stringing men along.

That very thought has been admitted several times in this thread already. If it was pure biology then everyone in this thread would feel the same way. But several man and several women have said that they have friends of the opposite sex that they feel are genuine. So there must be something else at hand Umm I wonder what could it be...

 

[William F. Russell]

I highly doubt that.... But let's entertain your premise.... Even if that was the case how would him being willing to entertain the idea of sex = to him not being my friend?
He's my friend because it's a plutonic bond we've built for years....
When we were growing up I was the chubby tomboy.... In his mind, I am still the chubby tomboy...
I've had other male "friends" who came out the woodworks when I shed the chubby tomboy image who have said... "Nawl, you were always cute... I just never said anything... What's up now though".... Dem nikkas are dudes who keep women close for those moments of weakness...?

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All you can do is doubt. You don't know for certain.

Between a straight male and a straight female, any "plutonic" bond can be broken in an instance one y'all are drunk/horny enough.

If a supposedly "plutonic" friend is willing to have sex with you, then y'all are not friends. It's a relationship based on dude's patience. He's biding his time for your panties to come off.

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All this talk about you being a "chubby tomboy" back when you were younger is irrelevant as to whether he would have sex/a relationship with you if he could (i.e., if you said "yes").

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

...so if you could "careless" about those things, how are y'all friends?

Real friends care how much/badly other friends drink. Real friends care how irresponsible their friends are.

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Sounds more like he's fun for you to be around.

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But that doesn't mean y'all are friends in the genuine sense.

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And WHAT THE F*CK is your stripper a** doing befriending a married man?

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He is a grown man with a wife who take care of all that. It is not my job to police him. I already explained earlier that I met him through his wife prior to their marriage and that she, he, his ex-roomie and I are all very good friends. You're starting to reach.

 

[FTBS]

I don't think you even understand what is happening on the other end of this dialogue. You are arguing an absolute, and I am arguing a variation. Your statement does not even apply to what I'm saying. You guys are admitting that you are not friends to women and never will be. How can I argue your experience? I am just saying that my experience is different. You are the ones saying that my experience is not accurate and that no one will ever have an experience unlike your own. You argument is silly. How you deal with women is not the end all be all.

Your experience is not the end all be all either though. People show you what they want you to see. Unless you are capable of mind reading you cannot absolutely say that none of your guy friends are waiting for a chance to pounce. Just because guys are not overt with it and never make a move or even a comment doesn't mean that they aren't harboring feelings.

 

[Colicat]

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All you can do is doubt. You don't know for certain.

Between a straight male and a straight female, any "plutonic" bond can be broken in an instance one y'all are drunk/horny enough.

If a supposedly "plutonic" friend is willing to have sex with you, then y'all are not friends. It's a relationship based on dude's patience. He's biding his time for your panties to come off.

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All this talk about you being a "chubby tomboy" back when you were younger is irrelevant as to whether he would have sex/a relationship with you if he could (i.e., if you said "yes").

LOL... Plutonic = iphone .typing

Relationship based on dude's patience? ....he's not lurking around waiting 20+ years to have sex with me... I already explained that I was entertaining you premise...

He is a great friend... there are no ulterior motives... sorry you can't experience that...

 

[Aphrodite]

I disagree.

 

[USSInsiders]

I disagree...

I have a male friend I've known for over 20yrs.... he knew me when I was snot nosed....
Nothing more than friends.... ever..... I call or text when I need advice or need to vent about dudes...
I love him like my brother....

your brother wants to fukk you

 

[William F. Russell]

Relationship based on dude's patience? ....he's not lurking around waiting 20+ years to have sex with me... I already explained that I was entertaining you premise...

He is a great friend... there are no ulterior motives... sorry you can't experience that...

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Woman, do you not understand the lengths that dudes will go through to give themselves a chance to smash?

Men have admitted to putting up with being a female's "friend" in hopes of dating her/having sex with her.

Why can't females understand that straight guys (that are not related to them) have thought about/are thinking about their straight female in a romantic/sexual light?

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Are y'all dumb or stubborn?

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Your experience is not the end all be all either though. People show you what they want you to see. Unless you are capable of mind reading you cannot absolutely say that none of your guy friends are waiting for a chance to pounce. Just because guys are not overt with it and never make a move or even a comment doesn't mean that they aren't harboring feelings.

You don't get it. I never said it was. That's the point. It's not. I'm saying people are different. Just like I can't be absolute neither can you. However being I know my friends better than you. I am fairly certain that I can make a better judgement about their character than you.

If someone has feeling that they never show yet treat me as a friend then they are a friend. We will never be privy to the inner most thoughts of all our friends. I go by how they act and how they treat me which is the only thing you can even go by. Trying to analyze thoughts we will never know is pointless.

 

[Colicat]

just texted him... .... my nikka

Edit: shyt just got real.... I guess the coli ain't the only non believers...