This is why black fathers instilling pride in their sons is so important. Very cringe read.

[tater]

He was trying to be a rapper?

I'm sorry, that changes everything.

Good for them though.

(Cute publicity stunt)

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

Exactly. We all fall on bad times, some worse than others. But CHOOSING to be in a relationship is a CHOICE.

If I have....
1. No place to stay
2. No method of transportation
3. Absolutely 0 money

I'm not even entertaining a relationship. A woman who I think could be my future wife could come up to me and I would be like, "nah i'm not in the right space to date now, I need to get my shyt together, I hope you understand."


I just couldn't imagine myself asking her to cut the check on every date/meal
Asking her to pick me up by 8 and have me back on my frens couch by midnight
Buying her only a cheap "Happy Birthday" card when her bday rolls around


I'm not hating on breh at all. I'm just saying I could never in a million years fix my face to hit on a female in his position

I been in his position working to uplift myself, but not in a good position. I wasn't looking for a woman or a relationship but I one came to me and despite my objections insisted on sticking around.

Sometimes that's how it goes. You might not be looking but someone will find you and want to be there regardless of your circumstances

 

[Maude]

Exactly. We all fall on bad times, some worse than others. But CHOOSING to be in a relationship is a CHOICE.

If I have....
1. No place to stay
2. No method of transportation
3. Absolutely 0 money

I'm not even entertaining a relationship. A woman who I think could be my future wife could come up to me and I would be like, "nah i'm not in the right space to date now, I need to get my shyt together, I hope you understand."


I just couldn't imagine myself asking her to cut the check on every date/meal
Asking her to pick me up by 8 and have me back on my frens couch by midnight
Buying her only a cheap "Happy Birthday" card when her bday rolls around


I'm not hating on breh at all. I'm just saying I could never in a million years fix my face to hit on a female in his position

All fax but life about balance. In his situation you can't be in the studio all day & not have some sort of social life. I couldn't marry anyone I know I can't take care of financially. The responsibility is too great. That's why we GMB

 

[Originalman]

Did anyone see the recent info the OP dropped? This man is an aspiring rapper, and is trying to become a music producer.... She is helping with starting his music producing business right now. OP, what are their ages? Why was he in the situation he was in? I need more context before I say anything about their situation. All I'll offer now is that I'm glad that her investment in him is resulting in marriage. Congrats to them. If he succeeds, she's definitely a large part of his success.

Yep sista thats all we can say. Folks often forget (on purpose many times) that behind powerful men are wives who are the brains behind the business.

Take Bill Clinton for example. His political career Hillary was the brains behind the Clinton machine. During his time in Arkansas as a politician and during his time in the white house. Hillary was the one who called in experts for cleaning Bill's image for his multiple controversies in office. She also had a say in many of the policies he fought for.

Hillary was just smart enough to understand she could reach her ultimate goals with bill than without him. Due to Bill being a people person, folks gravitating to him, having charisma, good looks and being a man.

Edit - To take it further watch the frontline documentary on Hillary (choice 2016). There is no Bill the politician or Bill as governor or Bill as President without Hillary brains and take charge attitude. She saved Bill's ass countless times as a politician.

 

[Gold]

I been in his position working to uplift myself, but not in a good position. I wasn't looking for a woman or a relationship but I one came to me and despite my objections insisted on sticking around.

Sometimes that's how it goes. You might not be looking but someone will find you and want to be there regardless of your circumstances

I feel you 100%.

I'm just very very very stubborn and self-conscious about things like status and appearances.

It would hurt my heart to ask my gf (gf not wife) to pay my rent. It would just absolutely crush me

I'm positive i couldn't fix my mouth to do it. I just couldn't. And if she offered I would refuse

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Yep sista thats all we can say. Folks often forget (on purpose many times) that behind powerful men are wives who are the brains behind the business.

Take Bill Clinton for example. His political career Hillary was the brains behind the Clinton machine. During his time in Arkansas as a politician and during his time in the white house. Hillary was the one who called in experts for cleaning Bill's image for his multiple controversies in office.

Hillary was just smart enough to understand she could reach her ultimate goals with bill than without him. Due to Bill being a people person, folks gravitating to him, having charisma, good looks and being a man.

My mom was a large part of my dads success. I didn't even realize it, until she died. My dad hasn't done as well as he was doing when he was married to her, the woman he's with now, isn't like my mom. What is that saying: behind every great man is a great woman.

 

[Guile]

I'll agree that you shouldn't be seeking relationships when in dire straits but he was going to need help from someone (family member, bank, etc.) to make it it seems.

 

[Neuromancer]

Can I get the cliffs?

 

[Matt504]

Nah,

Black men are disposable and don't deserve any compassion
The problem is the majority of y'all don't see him as being worthy of being saved and made a better man

Black community will always be in the position we're in because nobody is interested in giving a man with potential any help

Those people ain't even american and these posters shytting on him like he was some bum ass breh on the couch playing 2k all day in the hood

If any of these nikkas hit rough days. I bet not see them asking anybody for shyt. They better get it off the muscle since they think that what makes a man

The nikkas playing 2k in the hood are often able to do so because a Black women is going to work while they're laid up in her house all she asks is that he fills out a few applications and makes an effort to apply himself in life.

This idea that Black men have no help and that this story is somehow rare is flat out false. I suspect the real issue a lot of Black men have as it relates to Black women is that those women expect more than the bare minimum and have to fight to get that and the men in their lives take issue with the fact that those women aren't able to support them even more than they already do.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

No man should ever refer to another man as "fine/fine as hell" in any context.

Bruh just post the and keep it moving

 

[semicko82]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with this.

shyt, tbh, I share a similar story with my wife.

When we started dating the 1st time, I was an IT in the navy with my whole life in front of me.

I broke up with her because I wasn’t feeling the long distance shyt with me constantly being in and out on the boat.

I got kicked out the navy a couple years later for selling weed to the crew members, thought my good boy life was over, and started hustling cigarettes up in NY when their packs went to 9 dollars, then graduated to selling coke full time all because I thought no one would hire me for a legit gig.

After a couple years of that (with some legit work mixed in sparingly to make my money look legit), I knew I didn’t want to be a career dope boy, so I decided to look her up.

One day I was in my kitchen, and had just finished copping a couple ounces of fishscale.

I was bagging it up, regular shyt, and something hit me out the blue like “call shorty now, your time here is over.”

Long story short, I found her, we instantly reconnected, and I let her know exactly what type of time I was currently on.

She was up in Maryland by this time and I was in VA.

I would hustle all week, then left my partner to run the business on the weekends while I caught the Amtrak to see her.

After about a year of that, she started asking me to move up there, but I didn’t want to because all my business was in my hometown and she was talking some rent a room from a stranger shyt, because she didn’t want to shack up without being married.

Of course I was like “fukk that” so she said “marry me then.”

I agreed that night.

I went back home, told my partner, kept like 10 racks for myself out my stash, gave my partner the rest of my paper and told him the couple ounces we had stashed for the drought was his.

(Edit point: going back to that premonition, my partner ended up getting robbed by this bytch nikka shortly after I left, who would’ve never tried that bullshyt if I was around (he told me so a couple months ago when I took my son to get a cut and saw this nikka was a barber now), then him (my partner) and another one of my close patnas both ended up doing 5 and 7 years in the pen)

I moved to Maryland, we got married at the courthouse in Laurel, and I found a job paying 10 bucks an hour working in the kitchen at this Nursing Home.

Meanwhile, my wife was making 60k as an accountant for Enterprise Rental Car.

After a couple months, I worked my way up to being a Recreational Therapist (basically the nikka that ran bingo and got the residents to their physical therapy appointments) and my pay jumped up to 14 an hour.

Meanwhile, she got a promotion and started making 65k a year.

She never made me feel like a lil nikka and treated me with the utmost respect at all times.

I went back to school for Psychology and around that same time she got pregnant with my twins.

We couldn’t afford DC anymore, with childcare being crazy expensive, so we moved to Raleigh, NC.

She got a gig with Credit Suisse and I got a job with United Airlines while still finishing up my degree at NC Central.

While finishing up my degree, I got offered a job in my hometown doing mental health counseling for an agency one of my childhood friends was running and she immediately was like “let’s go..”

Long story long, I worked in Mental Health for 10 years, and after I got burned out, was able to slide back into my original field of IT.

Everything came full circle.

She stuck by my side, with no complaints, through all the many ups and downs, and now we are living a life neither of us ever thought we’d have.... together.

There’s NOTHING like having a woman that’s truly down for you and if you don’t have one you need to find her ASAP.

You found a real one

 

[Kyle C. Barker]

I didn’t want to say this earlier because I wanted to see the reactions first. But her paying the bills will be a continuous pattern because he’s trying to make it as a rapper ( I’ll held this information back purposely). He’s a starting music producer right now but The businesses are still hers.

:Mjdontlaf:

 

[semicko82]

I had a chick do this for me but she was married it’s levels to this game

 

[number21]

Dude is putting his woman on a pedestal but you're trying too hard op

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with this.

shyt, tbh, I share a similar story with my wife.

When we started dating the 1st time, I was an IT in the navy with my whole life in front of me.

I broke up with her because I wasn’t feeling the long distance shyt with me constantly being in and out on the boat.

I got kicked out the navy a couple years later for selling weed to the crew members, thought my good boy life was over, and started hustling cigarettes up in NY when their packs went to 9 dollars, then graduated to selling coke full time all because I thought no one would hire me for a legit gig.

After a couple years of that (with some legit work mixed in sparingly to make my money look legit), I knew I didn’t want to be a career dope boy, so I decided to look her up.

One day I was in my kitchen, and had just finished copping a couple ounces of fishscale.

I was bagging it up, regular shyt, and something hit me out the blue like “call shorty now, your time here is over.”

Long story short, I found her, we instantly reconnected, and I let her know exactly what type of time I was currently on.

She was up in Maryland by this time and I was in VA.

I would hustle all week, then left my partner to run the business on the weekends while I caught the Amtrak to see her.

After about a year of that, she started asking me to move up there, but I didn’t want to because all my business was in my hometown and she was talking some rent a room from a stranger shyt, because she didn’t want to shack up without being married.

Of course I was like “fukk that” so she said “marry me then.”

I agreed that night.

I went back home, told my partner, kept like 10 racks for myself out my stash, gave my partner the rest of my paper and told him the couple ounces we had stashed for the drought was his.

(Edit point: going back to that premonition, my partner ended up getting robbed by this bytch nikka shortly after I left, who would’ve never tried that bullshyt if I was around (he told me so a couple months ago when I took my son to get a cut and saw this nikka was a barber now), then him (my partner) and another one of my close patnas both ended up doing 5 and 7 years in the pen)

I moved to Maryland, we got married at the courthouse in Laurel, and I found a job paying 10 bucks an hour working in the kitchen at this Nursing Home.

Meanwhile, my wife was making 60k as an accountant for Enterprise Rental Car.

After a couple months, I worked my way up to being a Recreational Therapist (basically the nikka that ran bingo and got the residents to their physical therapy appointments) and my pay jumped up to 14 an hour.

Meanwhile, she got a promotion and started making 65k a year.

She never made me feel like a lil nikka and treated me with the utmost respect at all times.

I went back to school for Psychology and around that same time she got pregnant with my twins.

We couldn’t afford DC anymore, with childcare being crazy expensive, so we moved to Raleigh, NC.

She got a gig with Credit Suisse and I got a job with United Airlines while still finishing up my degree at NC Central.

While finishing up my degree, I got offered a job in my hometown doing mental health counseling for an agency one of my childhood friends was running and she immediately was like “let’s go..”

Long story long, I worked in Mental Health for 10 years, and after I got burned out, was able to slide back into my original field of IT.

Everything came full circle.

She stuck by my side, with no complaints, through all the many ups and downs, and now we are living a life neither of us ever thought we’d have.... together.

There’s NOTHING like having a woman that’s truly down for you and if you don’t have one you need to find her ASAP.

That right there sounds like a divine connection my breh