This is why black fathers instilling pride in their sons is so important. Very cringe read.

[kaiOogway]

It's cool and all but I prefer working for my own shyt, I need my own satisfaction from my own hard work if you know what I mean

 

[tuckgod]

You found a real one

 

[Cereal_Bowl_Assassin]

She held him down..I dint see the issue with it and if it was vice versa I would expect the same as long as they are straight up with each other.

This is a part of legacy building instead of "oh girl he dont got a car or no degree why are you with him"

 

[Basil of Baker Street]

Did anyone see the recent info the OP dropped? This man is an aspiring rapper, and is trying to become a music producer.... She is helping with starting his music producing business right now. OP, what are their ages? Why was he in the situation he was in? I need more context before I say anything about their situation. All I'll offer now is that I'm glad that her investment in him is resulting in marriage. Congrats to them. If he succeeds, she's definitely a large part of his success.

More info. You need to get more info why you're 30 and unmarried you trifling trollop. Stay the hell out their relationship how bout that? Sherlock harlot.

 

[Spliff]

Aspiring rapper.

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

Let's keep it a buck. That nikka was clapping them cheeks and eating that ass like a jbo seasoned vet for that year.

Who wouldn't tho breh

Breakfast lunch and dinner....and a midnight snack...and dessert nikka

 

[tuckgod]

That right there sounds like a divine connection my breh

It really is breh.

It really is.

 

[Cereal_Bowl_Assassin]

More info. You need to get more info why you're 30 and unmarried you trifling trollop. Stay the hell out their relationship how bout that? Sherlock harlot.

jesus...such vitrol

 

[Matt504]

Seems like love is zero interest loans with the option to pay back for a lot of you. If she did all of this and he decided to leave her, nikkas would be in here talking about how she wasn't entitled to marriage just for being a nice person and I'd completely agree.

I just find it to be extremely telling how in one thread nikkas complain about women prioritizing their education, in another, nikkas complain about Black women not allowing their men to lead, in another telling women to choose better after they're "investments" don't bear fruit but in here calling a woman a real one for ignoring countless red flags and building a man up while from homelessness.

If this story came from the women's angle and she listed out the 10 things she's done for a man only for him to leave her, you nikkas would be shytting on her for doing all of these things for a homeless aspiring rapper. Whole thread would be "choose better"

The only reason this is a feel good story for you nikkas is because a Black man won off the labor of a Black woman.

 

[FLATOP]

Why'd he put all his business out there like that?

Real G's move in silence like lasagna. Man or woman no one should be a social media hoe

 

[ColdSlither]

So what exactly is the problem here? Isn't there a constant back and forth on here that black men don't support black women? That black women just want to shyt on black men? So here, we have a situation where a black woman is successful, and sounds like she has standards for herself. Found a good dude that is about shyt, but isn't quite on her level. So she used her resources to prop him up, supported him, so that they could both be on the same level and be a strong and successful black couple. Or was he supposed to not swallow his pride?

 

[invalid]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with this.

shyt, tbh, I share a similar story with my wife.

When we started dating the 1st time, I was an IT in the navy with my whole life in front of me.

I broke up with her because I wasn’t feeling the long distance shyt with me constantly being in and out on the boat.

I got kicked out the navy a couple years later for selling weed to the crew members, thought my good boy life was over, and started hustling cigarettes up in NY when their packs went to 9 dollars, then graduated to selling coke full time all because I thought no one would hire me for a legit gig.

After a couple years of that (with some legit work mixed in sparingly to make my money look legit), I knew I didn’t want to be a career dope boy, so I decided to look her up.

One day I was in my kitchen, and had just finished copping a couple ounces of fishscale.

I was bagging it up, regular shyt, and something hit me out the blue like “call shorty now, your time here is over.”

Long story short, I found her, we instantly reconnected, and I let her know exactly what type of time I was currently on.

She was up in Maryland by this time and I was in VA.

I would hustle all week, then left my partner to run the business on the weekends while I caught the Amtrak to see her.

After about a year of that, she started asking me to move up there, but I didn’t want to because all my business was in my hometown and she was talking some rent a room from a stranger shyt, because she didn’t want to shack up without being married.

Of course I was like “fukk that” so she said “marry me then.”

I agreed that night.

I went back home, told my partner, kept like 10 racks for myself out my stash, gave my partner the rest of my paper and told him the couple ounces we had stashed for the drought was his.

(Edit point: going back to that premonition, my partner ended up getting robbed by this bytch nikka shortly after I left, who would’ve never tried that bullshyt if I was around (he told me so a couple months ago when I took my son to get a cut and saw this nikka was a barber now), then him (my partner) and another one of my close patnas both ended up doing 5 and 7 years in the pen)

I moved to Maryland, we got married at the courthouse in Laurel, and I found a job paying 10 bucks an hour working in the kitchen at this Nursing Home.

Meanwhile, my wife was making 60k as an accountant for Enterprise Rental Car.

After a couple months, I worked my way up to being a Recreational Therapist (basically the nikka that ran bingo and got the residents to their physical therapy appointments) and my pay jumped up to 14 an hour.

Meanwhile, she got a promotion and started making 65k a year.

She never made me feel like a lil nikka and treated me with the utmost respect at all times.

I went back to school for Psychology and around that same time she got pregnant with my twins.

We couldn’t afford DC anymore, with childcare being crazy expensive, so we moved to Raleigh, NC.

She got a gig with Credit Suisse and I got a job with United Airlines while still finishing up my degree at NC Central.

While finishing up my degree, I got offered a job in my hometown doing mental health counseling for an agency one of my childhood friends was running and she immediately was like “let’s go..”

Long story long, I worked in Mental Health for 10 years, and after I got burned out, was able to slide back into my original field of IT.

Everything came full circle.

She stuck by my side, with no complaints, through all the many ups and downs, and now we are living a life neither of us ever thought we’d have.... together.

There’s NOTHING like having a woman that’s truly down for you and if you don’t have one you need to find her ASAP.

shyt read like a movie.

 

[Orange cream shake]

tldr version?

Dude is marrying a simp this weekend.

 

[Matt504]

So what exactly is the problem here? Isn't there a constant back and forth on here that black men don't support black women? That black women just want to shyt on black men? So here, we have a situation where a black woman is successful, and sounds like she has standards for herself. Found a good dude that is about shyt, but isn't quite on her level. So she used her resources to prop him up, supported him, so that they could both be on the same level and be a strong and successful black couple. Or was he supposed to not swallow his pride?

"isn't quite on her level"

fam, they couldn't be further apart.

1. he was homeeless.
2. she helped him pay his rent for MONTHS.
3. she purchased him his very first car
4. she gave him a laptop so he could work
5. she covered most of the costs for a date for a year
she built TWO businesses and let him run them

if you can't see what's wrong here, it's very telling.

 

[Benefited]

The nikkas playing 2k in the hood are often able to do so because a Black women is going to work while they're laid up in her house all she asks is that he fills out a few applications and makes an effort to apply himself in life.

This idea that Black men have no help and that this story is somehow rare is flat out false. I suspect the real issue a lot of Black men have as it relates to Black women is that those women expect more than the bare minimum and have to fight to get that and the men in their lives take issue with the fact that those women aren't able to support them even more than they already do.

Thats not help that is enabling and coddling first of all. Plus many of the women you speak about have no real expectations and just want the man to pretend to be working or looking for work so that they don't feel like a fool and a trick. But they know damn well when they have a lazy son of a bytch on their hands. While others use there "support" as a means to keep an attractive poor excuse of man dependent on them. But I agree black men are majorly coddled by our women in different forms,the movie Baby Boy told no lies.Plus I think you already acknowledged many women in this arrangement are poor and on government assistance. So they are being supported by the white man,and in turn they are supporting the black man with the white mans money. So I wouldn't exactly make these women into martyrs or put them in the same boat as this woman in the OP who seems to have had her own.