UCLA Study: Women want bad boys to knock them up, nice guys to raise the babies...

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False dichotomy associating thug like with alpha characteristics.

This... Criminals and thugs are not the brightest, strongest or healthiest. They're the dumbest, weakest and least healthy. A man who has no self control is a garbage azz man...

 

[PartyHeart]

Or do what the other poster said. Spend some money and take the paternity test behind her back. You will have your peace of mind and she won't know. If she does find out what you did, be prepared to take whatever consequences come with that. Whether that be you having caused damage to your relationship that you'll have to work on or her leaving. I'm just saying the testing shouldn't be mandatory. Its a slippery slope.

 

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Dudes get this confused alot. There's dudes who are the sh#t to other men(athletes,rappers, etc.) and then there's dudes who are the sh#t to women. In many cases, dudes are stronger in one area than the other, so they might have the adulation of men but be regular with women. And vice versa. A lot of athletes fall into this realm and many of their male fans think the world of them, but women are not moved by them very much. Do women pay attention to all the attention these guys get and work their way into their circle, yes. But that doesn't mean they actually LIKE these guys.

Many an "alpha" has been played by a dude who was low key regulating his chick. The term "alpha" is used out of context in many cases. Calling another man "alpha" on some "he's a bad ass" is to me.

The sweet spot is being able to be respected amongst men and desired by women equally, but very few men do this.

And this chick is right....paying for sex automatically places you in "LAME" status. Simply put. No matter how many TDs you throw, how high you can jump or how many KOs you turn out

Peace

Yep. In most cases, quality women don't want Mike Tyson or Floyd Mayweather. Whores/birds do. And I know one of Mikes wives is a physician, but birds can be educated too (not saying SHE is a bird). Occupation, education or intelligence DO NOT inform social skills or emotional intelligence...

When Mike was tricking off, every bird in NYC knew what time it was... And they were waiting.

Quality men and women have successful relationships and don't hate the other gender.

 

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Let these nikkas know But they won't hear you

Being laid back =/= mentally unstable.

There are quiet people who are BAT shyt crazy who commit murders or conspire to commit murders every single day. Jeffrey Dahmer, Eliott Rodger and lots of other killers were laid back.

Being capable of murdering your spouse is a sign of violence and psychopathy.

These are garbage ass people who really just need to kill themselves WITHOUT getting married or procreating. Killing your spouse is the ultimate sign of weakness and bytchmadeness... A strong and decent man is not going to do this weak ass pussified shyt.

 

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shyt I agree and that's why they claiming that stupid shyt they can't chicks any fukking way. nikkas sound bitter as fukk basically calling their dads fukking suckers for sticking with their moms for the cats that ain't b*stards but stupid nikkas gonna do stupid nikka things.

The Coli is a vast wasteland of dry/ashy dikk folks jerking to their tears and sobs...

I don't know any men like these-in real life-who hate women and are not capable of having healthy relationships...

It's actually pretty sad...

 

[wickedsm]

Again, its not going to be the same thing for men and women. For men its the uncertainty of paternity. For women, its wasting your child bearing years on an unfaithful man who had kids outside your relationship. Divorce does not get years back for women. A woman marries an unfaithful man who created children outside of their relationship, she stands to lose a lot. That's something that is more than beyond a mild annoyance. However, can you imagine legislation being made for that? Would you agree with such legislation, and what would it dictate? If you do agree, OK, at least you are equal in your using the law to legislate personal matters. I can't imagine the guys in here feel the same.





Its not a tit for tat thing. What I'm saying is about children and family too, its just from the side of women. But what you all don't understand is that I didn't post to try to stop you guys from being #HOH or whatever it is you're getting at. If you get with a woman who is comfortable being held under a microscope about her faithfulness after she gives birth, first understand that a large portion of women will have a problem with it. But otherwise, have at it. All I'm just saying is, is that its nonsensical to try to make it mandatory thru legislation.

I'm a woman and a mother. I can assure you I'm not HOH.
I'm not talking about women wasting years with cheaters or legislating away cheating where's one of those posters who would post the ridiculously high infidelity stats in any other thread if it fit their argument? . The state I am from does a mandatory cord blood collection and testing.
DNA testing could be done right at the hospital and there's no need for the cost to be prohibitive since there's even over the counter test kits that can be bought now as a woman when I go to the gyn for my yearly checkup they ask if I am sexually active and I tell them yes, only with my husband. They still do the full sad screen for my health protection and benefit. Should I tell them, nm, I don't want to put my husband under a microscope like that?

Please if you will address my more apples to apples scenario about if women were taking the wrong babies home from the hospital. .

 

[freetroit]

Dudes get this confused alot. There's dudes who are the sh#t to other men(athletes,rappers, etc.) and then there's dudes who are the sh#t to women. In many cases, dudes are stronger in one area than the other, so they might have the adulation of men but be regular with women. And vice versa. A lot of athletes fall into this realm and many of their male fans think the world of them, but women are not moved by them very much. Do women pay attention to all the attention these guys get and work their way into their circle, yes. But that doesn't mean they actually LIKE these guys.

Many an "alpha" has been played by a dude who was low key regulating his chick. The term "alpha" is used out of context in many cases. Calling another man "alpha" on some "he's a bad ass" is to me.

The sweet spot is being able to be respected amongst men and desired by women equally, but very few men do this.

And this chick is right....paying for sex automatically places you in "LAME" status. Simply put. No matter how many TDs you throw, how high you can jump or how many KOs you turn out

Peace

True and also a dude could be considered a dusty bum amongst men but be seen as alpha amongst women,

I guess thats why a womans family vetted her potential suitors because women have historically been dumbasses in assessing a true alpha from a bum in alpha clothing


Hence this study was born an alpha to women by and large happens to be dudes who leave them single mothers most women i have dated all claimed that their ex boyfriend was a piece of shyt loser

Im sure most dudes can agree.

 

[iBrowse]

your husband sounds like a bytch. it sounds like you are the one running that relationship.

Damn @Juicy you gonna take that disrespect ?

 

[wickedsm]

Or do what the other poster said. Spend some money and take the paternity test behind her back. You will have your peace of mind and she won't know. If she does find out what you did, be prepared to take whatever consequences come with that. Whether that be you having caused damage to your relationship that you'll have to work on or her leaving. I'm just saying the testing shouldn't be mandatory. Its a slippery slope.

And there you acknowledge that that too would also be a problem if the mother "found out" that's why I advocate everyone being on the same page from jump,
Men should say from day 1 they are testing no matter what and women will know in advance and not feel hurt or blindsided.

 

[MalikReloaded]

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[PartyHeart]

I'm a woman and a mother. I can assure you I'm not HOH.
I'm not talking about women wasting years with cheaters or legislating away cheating where's one of those posters who would post the ridiculously high infidelity stats in any other thread if it fit their argument? . The state I am from does a mandatory cord blood collection and testing.
DNA testing could be done right at the hospital and there's no need for the cost to be prohibitive since there's even over the counter test kits that can be bought now as a woman when I go to the gyn for my yearly checkup they ask if I am sexually active and I tell them yes, only with my husband. They still do the full sad screen for my health protection and benefit. Should I tell them, nm, I don't want to put my husband under a microscope like that?

Please if you will address my more apples to apples scenario about if women were taking the wrong babies home from the hospital. .

Its not an apples to apples scenario because this is not a reigning issue that women face. Taking the wrong babies home from the hospital is a very rare scenario, especially for Black women. What is a reigning issue that women face is what I detailed above. That is why I brought up the comparison (I didn't say it was what you were talking about, its what I was). That is the opposite end of the spectrum of paternity uncertainty for women in reality, not mistakingly taking wrong babies from the hospital.

And people keep bringing up over the counter test kits...just as an FYI to everyone you don't just do some swabs, take some hair samples, and put it in a microwave and results are ready in 10 min. Those things must still be sent to a lab (an additional cost). DNA tests rarely cost less than $250 and on the higher side are around $600 maybe even more if being done in a hospital where they overcharge. Where is this money and resources coming from if legislated?

And there you acknowledge that that too would also be a problem if the mother "found out" that's why I advocate everyone being on the same page from jump,
Men should say from day 1 they are testing no matter what and women will know in advance and not feel hurt or blindsided.

The fact is many women would have a problem with it. Just like many husbands would have a problem having to undergo a lie detector test a few times a year, or having their wife comb through their court records to ensure they're not supporting outside children she doesn't not about. You're not going to get rid of that hurt that you're not trusted by your mate just by being upfront about not trusting them.

 

[yo moms]

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[wickedsm]

Its not an apples to apples scenario because this is not a reigning issue that women face. Taking the wrong babies home from the hospital is a very rare scenario, especially for Black women. What is a reigning issue that women face is what I detailed above. That is why I brought up the comparison (I didn't say it was what you were talking about, its what I was). That is the opposite end of the spectrum of paternity uncertainty for women in reality, not mistakingly taking wrong babies from the hospital.

And people keep bringing up over the counter test kits...just as an FYI to everyone you don't just do some swabs, take some hair samples, and put it in a microwave and results are ready in 10 min. Those things must still be sent to a lab (an additional cost). DNA tests rarely cost less than $250 and on the higher side are around $600 maybe even more if being done in a hospital where they overcharge. Where is this money and resources coming from if legislated?



The fact is many women would have a problem with it. Just like many husbands would have a problem having to undergo a lie detector test a few times a year, or having their wife comb through their court records to ensure they're not supporting outside children she doesn't not about. You're not going to get rid of that hurt that you're not trusted by your mate just by being upfront about not trusting them.

We can all, men women young old be victims of infidelity.
Only some of us can be tricked into loving nuturing and supporting a child that isn't biologically theirs though.

Agree to disagree.

 

[PartyHeart]

We can all, men women young old be victims of infidelity.
Only some of us can be tricked into loving nuturing and supporting a child that isn't biologically theirs though.

Agree to disagree.

And so legislation that would cost billions should be made for the benefit of only some of us? Agreed (on agreeing to disagree lol)

 

[BaggerofTea]

Legalize prostitution