35 year old Black woman wonders why she and her desirable friends are still single.

[Jazzy B.]

Yeah, because telling women upfront you want on demand sex for free, with no commitment works so easily. Women want desirable men they find attractive. Most of those men have options, and are always sleeping with someone. I had a long term FWB I was considering wifing before I got with my wife. I mentioned this multiple times. She was a great woman, attractive, cool to hangout with, talk to, but something was missing. She had good qualities, but it just wasn’t there.

When I was 19, I dated a Puerto Rican girl who left me for a Puerto Rican guy. I treated her well, but I wasn’t her type, and she barely touched me. Sometimes, you give someone a chance, but if the chemistry isn’t there, it’s not happening. Since then she went on to have 2 kids, and is currently single.

Spoiler

Most men want companionship with a woman.

The average man is not a player nor only looking for sex.

 

[Jazzy B.]

But that means the child is the problem. We don’t even know who her bd is or what her standard was. If he was a bum…everyone you fukk isn’t who you would date, there are different standards for that. Just as I know every chick we fukk isn’t gf/wife material. She could have gotten pregnant by a bum or six cert nicca, we have no idea.

But the end result is that now that she’s in her mid 30s looking for a successful, serious man…none of them are interested. Because the child is the problem. Successful men in their 30s who are seriously looking to date are NOT interested in raising another man’s child. Overall. There are exceptions (for instance if he’s a single dad) but I’d say 70%+ of successful men won’t do that shyt.

You are just repeating what I’ve said which is that she is looking for a CLEAN UP MAN and LEADING with that. If she did the opposite she would have a man and just need to get pregnant. That’s why the child isn’t the problem because she CAN get a successful man despite having a child.

 

[Womb Raider]

She didn't want you like that breh.

Let the breh she's geeked over make that same offer, she's flying down the stairs in a rush of spanx and perfume.

Yeah that’s why I bushed her. I know the difference, that’s why I can laugh about it on here. I’ve been on so many first dates on V Day, idk who this lil bytch thought she was

 

[Tribal Outkast]

Why are you asking us? You’re a grown adult with the ability to talk. Go talk to dudes lol

 

[Still Benefited]

I hate when women post shyt like this. There are plenty of men outchea that would be in a committed relationship with her but I can already tell she wants a man that every women wants looks, height, money and status all rolled in one.

And standards scare you,we get it. But women have the right to speak them and voice them. The issue is men listening and getting upset who never stood a chance to begin with. Or listening to get upset when shes not your type in the first place.



Shes 100% right up my alley beauty wise and surface demeanor. But i dont get the sense she would cooperate with my budget. And i wouldnt be suprised if she was pretentious and wanted to do certain things for the look of it. Rather than actually finding those things fun.


Its much easier to find a man when your younger because we are more fun naturally. In your 30's more adult/serious things are likely to end things before they begin,from both sides.


Love will be lost until we as black men create a safe space where our women dont feel the need to overthink things

 

[SNG]

And standards scare you,we get it. But women have the right to speak them and voice them. The issue is men listening and getting upset who never stood a chance to begin with. Or listening to get upset when shes not your type in the first place.



Shes 100% right up my alley beauty wise and surface demeanor. But i dont get the sense she would cooperate with my budget. And i wouldnt be suprised if she was pretentious and wanted to do certain things for the look of it. Rather than actually finding those things fun.


Its much easier to find a man when your younger because we are more fun naturally. In your 30's more adult/serious things are likely to end things before they begin,from both sides.


Love will be lost until we as black men create a safe space where our women dont feel the need to overthink things

This is where being raised by a father helps in the home for both genders. It’s hard for some of these black men to create it because they see they momma create a space for them and it’s hard for women to feel it because a man wasn’t there to show it. A lot of black men ain’t prepared to be the daddy that a lot of black women seek because they were never raised by one they damn self. Once black folks take this parenting shyt seriously you will see how much this shyt improves. I’m not saying it can’t be done by single parents but it’s a lot harder.

 

[Still Benefited]

This is where being raised by a father helps in the home for both genders. It’s hard for some of these black men to create it because they see they momma create a space for them and it’s hard for women to feel it because a man wasn’t there to show it. A lot of black men ain’t prepared to be the daddy that a lot of black women seek because they were never raised by one they damn self. Once black folks take this parenting shyt seriously you will see how much this shyt improves. I’m not saying it can’t be done by single parents but it’s a lot harder.

You said that perfectly#TheChildOfMan


And its a vicious cycle. Because girls are being raised seeing women handle everything,be the leader,be judge jury and executioner in the home. And boys are being raised to see that as perfectly normal. Women will continue to be unsatisfied by men like this. And men will think its normal to leave their childs mother to lead a household and children separately from him. Which will continue to create the single mother factory we have now.


Drives me crazy when im out and see women with their men. They need help or to get something resolved. But you see the woman being the one asking the questions,figuring out solutions,telling what needs to be done etc. The man standing there looking like a little boy with him mama.


Most people probably dont see anything wrong with that. And i probably am a bit of a misogynist. But it just disgust me to see women handling things i think men should be handling. If a man aint around fine,but how are you a man standing right there but dont feel uncomfortable. Dont get me started on the men watching they woman pump gas

 

[SNG]

You said that perfectly#TheChildOfMan


And its a vicious cycle. Because girls are being raised seeing women handle everything,be the leader,be judge jury and executioner in the home. And boys are being raised to see that as perfectly normal. Women will continue to be unsatisfied by men like this. And men will think its normal to leave their childs mother to lead a household and children separately from him. Which will continue to create the single mother factory we have now.


Drives me crazy when im out and see women with their men. They need help or to get something resolved. But you see the woman being the one asking the questions,figuring out solutions,telling what needs to be done etc. The man standing there looking like a little boy with him mama.


Most people probably dont see anything wrong with that. And i probably am a bit of a misogynist. But it just disgust me to see women handling things i think men should be handling. If a man aint around fine,but how are you a man standing right there but dont feel uncomfortable. Dont get me started on the men watching they woman pump gas

See I was raised by two parents. My wife’s car battery was dying in winter and me and her went to pick up the battery a d she watched me install and change the battery and terminals since one of the screws were stripped so I had to change them. My father was the one who taught me this shyt. A lot of single mothers don’t or can’t teach men this shyt. I remember one time I was at the club and some dudes car died so I helped him out there was a women parked right in front of him and she saw me trying to get his car working and I kid you not she said you fine and know how to get your hands dirty and asked for my number. They love that shyt.

Even when I way younger I would always pump my mothers gas and flash forward to now my wife won’t touch a gas pump if I’m in the car.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

 

[rico_85]

Shorty and her hoe ass friends had been fuccing and succing for the past 15 years. NO MAN WILL MARRY THEM

 

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

Attraction and chemistry aren't the same. As a man for the most part we will fukk just about anything, having actual chemistry and really fukking with a broad is completely different.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Honestly this should be a learning moment for Gen Z women. Ain't no way they should be making the same mistakes.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Take it as a blessing in disguise breh.

I ran around with a gorgeous(looks kinda like Janelle Monae) married woman who told me during pillowtalk one time "Jaded, I can't even get this nikka to cheat on me!"

I asked her why she even married dude, she came back with; she was a single mother of two young kids, her bd was in and out on some knucklehead ish with a whole bunch of other bms.

The women in her life told her this is a good guy who loves her and wants to take care of her and her kids, this is what she should want, etc.

Still she ended up gripped up underneath me.

A person can lie to themselves for only so long, before their truth outs them.

The truth is, you aren't what SHE wants.

Be the father that stepped up brehs.

 

[Cloutius Maximus]

And there we have it...was expectimg it would take until at least the 2nd page of the thread..... ... The "small" detail conveniently left out....

if she had big ass titties like elle the empress or a fat ass she'd have no problems finding a man

Problem is she's skinny, and dudes who really got it can get a skinny and pretty 25 or 28 y/o. Her personality isn't dope enough to stand out

 

[10bandz]

I don’t think so. Maybe on social media but not IRL. I personally don’t know any WW with 6ft+ height standards unless they’re tall themselves while I know several brehettes with that standard.

Nah low key I hear other races talk that shyt too. Maybe latinas the only ones who don’t care. I’ll be in the gym overhearing women say shyt like oh I met this guy and the other bytch first response will be oh is he taller than you