35 year old Black woman wonders why she and her desirable friends are still single.

[MikelArteta]

I just talked about this a couple days ago in the quick gems thread. The dating pool after a certain age (let’s just say 28+) are full of avoidant attachment types. The women that are healed and normal (secure types) are locked down or can hold down a long term relationship and don’t run at the first sign of seriousness.

3 weeks ago my ex broke up with me after 8 months even though everything was going great in the relationship and she verbally told me multiple times I’m what she’s always wanted. Like @Ohene said you can’t fix these broken women. I’m almost willing to bet the 3 years on and off again relationship with the older guy was the way it was because she refused to commit. I guarantee she was the one that kept leaving and then when she couldn’t find anything else she came back. Repeat the cycle.

I know because as soon as I seriously committed to my ex she ran for the hills and said the SAME thing the chick you were seeing for a month said.

Not all women out there in the dating pool are like this but I bet 90% are. Good luck breh.

Thoze type of chicks will break up with the guy who will be good to them after a few months. But take fists to face, constant cheating , situationships from the wild nukka for years .

 

[Umoja]

Things will go a lot more smoothly when women like that are honest about what they actually want.

They're conflicted. When you see then obsessed with a glamorous life - and I don't mean liking to have nice things. I'm talking about the sort of women who are more concerned with the price tag than the experience - it typically comes with a characteristic that is highly competitive.

They don't actually want a man who is ass educated as they like to feel superior to their partner.

They still want someone who is rich so that they can subsidise their expensive way of winning, but they also want it to be in a profession that has clout.

This pretty much narrows their selection down to athletes, entertainers and trust fund brats.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Real problem with Black women is they really believe they are better than their men. That’s why their standards are astronomical. An average Black woman a totally disgusted by average Black man. Dating an Average normal Black men is accepting that themselves are average or normal and that's the worst thing in the world to an extraordinary phenomenonal independent Black woman. So the rather complain and die alone than to "settle" for a man on their own level.

I mean, for anyone who feels this reasoning is fallacious, the fact that statistically there are more childless black men than black women speaks volumes.

That’s why I understand why brehs date out. It’s not for me personally but when I see how the average black man is treated with such contempt for not being ‘extraordinary’ by his counterpart, I genuinely can’t blame him for exploring his options.

Either that or he’s completely invisible in this ‘community.’

 

[Ohene]

Had my first truly weird dating experience. I’m living in the DMV now after leaving the west coast. Met a girl on Hinge. 32, never married or engaged, no kids. But also admitted to never having been in a serious relationship outside of an off and on thing for three years with an older guy (first big red flag). Ended up seeing this girl for about a month. Things seemed to be progressing. Constantly talking about a future. Wanted me to attend her church with her. Was talking about us taking a trip this summer. All of a sudden I get a random text one evening saying she wasn’t “emotionally available” to give a “great guy” like me the time and attention I deserve . I just replied thanks for being honest () and told her to take care of herself. I say all that to say these women are lost out here. And I’ll keep it a buck, my last two relationships were with a German and a Persian girl. They didn’t play these kinds of games. I’m trying to be intentional with building a black family— but they don’t make it easy.

they not ready for that convo

but question. what happened to the german and persian? why did you break up

 

[Sniper]

Had my first truly weird dating experience. I’m living in the DMV now after leaving the west coast. Met a girl on Hinge. 32, never married or engaged, no kids. But also admitted to never having been in a serious relationship outside of an off and on thing for three years with an older guy (first big red flag). Ended up seeing this girl for about a month. Things seemed to be progressing. Constantly talking about a future. Wanted me to attend her church with her. Was talking about us taking a trip this summer. All of a sudden I get a random text one evening saying she wasn’t “emotionally available” to give a “great guy” like me the time and attention I deserve . I just replied thanks for being honest () and told her to take care of herself. I say all that to say these women are lost out here. And I’ll keep it a buck, my last two relationships were with a German and a Persian girl. They didn’t play these kinds of games. I’m trying to be intentional with building a black family— but they don’t make it easy.

Most likely she was getting dikked down and in love with another man didn’t think it was fair to string you along, consider yourself lucky that she was honest.

 

[number21]

She's going after cacs.

 

[Rasille]

Those cacs pumped and dumped her. She’s pretty much into white men, and the men that she gets attention from are mostly black.

 

[Jazzy B.]

Had my first truly weird dating experience. I’m living in the DMV now after leaving the west coast. Met a girl on Hinge. 32, never married or engaged, no kids. But also admitted to never having been in a serious relationship outside of an off and on thing for three years with an older guy (first big red flag). Ended up seeing this girl for about a month. Things seemed to be progressing. Constantly talking about a future. Wanted me to attend her church with her. Was talking about us taking a trip this summer. All of a sudden I get a random text one evening saying she wasn’t “emotionally available” to give a “great guy” like me the time and attention I deserve . I just replied thanks for being honest () and told her to take care of herself. I say all that to say these women are lost out here. And I’ll keep it a buck, my last two relationships were with a German and a Persian girl. They didn’t play these kinds of games. I’m trying to be intentional with building a black family— but they don’t make it easy.

She was lying the whole time breh.

Most women lie and omit key details when you first meet and where they really are.

She was probably on and off with her ex.

You gotta ask them certain questions and watch certain things to flush out the bullshyt.

You ask a woman “how long have you been single?” She responds with “two years”. Now most men will think two years ago was her last interaction with the ex and leave it there.

Now if you follow up with “so that was the last time you two interacted? You either get a no or a hesitant yes.

 

[Bigen King]

Had my first truly weird dating experience. I’m living in the DMV now after leaving the west coast. Met a girl on Hinge. 32, never married or engaged, no kids. But also admitted to never having been in a serious relationship outside of an off and on thing for three years with an older guy (first big red flag). Ended up seeing this girl for about a month. Things seemed to be progressing. Constantly talking about a future. Wanted me to attend her church with her. Was talking about us taking a trip this summer. All of a sudden I get a random text one evening saying she wasn’t “emotionally available” to give a “great guy” like me the time and attention I deserve . I just replied thanks for being honest () and told her to take care of herself. I say all that to say these women are lost out here. And I’ll keep it a buck, my last two relationships were with a German and a Persian girl. They didn’t play these kinds of games. I’m trying to be intentional with building a black family— but they don’t make it easy.

Unfortunately we know that means. She wasn't fully single as most women aren't on these dating apps. Their either just getting out of a relationship within that month, got an ex trying to get back with them or in a non-committed situationship. Very rarely are women going to be "celibate" when you're meeting them they getting clapped up you just so happen to be next up.

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

Thoze type of chicks will break up with the guy who will be good to them after a few months. But take fists to face, constant cheating , situationships from the wild nukka for years .

Yep. My ex was like that. According to her I’m the first man that treated her great and how does she reward me, by leaving a good healthy relationship.

And the fukked up part is family and friends sit back and watch them do it. You’d think family and friends would be like “you finally won and found a good guy don’t fukk this up”

It’s funny cause in all these brehs stories and mine the chicks suddenly wanna be alone and aren’t emotionally available to work on themselves when they finally get in a good situation but won’t do that and leave in abusive bad relationships. It’s very strange man.

 

[jadillac]

Everybody thinks they're better than everybody

If a single no kids chick meets a regular dude with no kids, she thinks she's better than him. Mainly bc online comments gas her up.

If a single mom who is still attractive meets that same regular dude with no kids, she still thinks she's better than him. Because of the same online social media comments gassing them.

So therefore they're not really interested in being in a relationship bc the inbox/dms have her thinking 1990's Shemar Moore and Tyson Beckrord are waiting for her AND that's who she really deserves

 

[The ADD]

Everybody thinks they're better than everybody

If a single no kids chick meets a regular dude with no kids, she thinks she's better than him. Mainly bc online comments gas her up.

If a single mom who is still attractive meets that same regular dude with no kids, she still thinks she's better than him. Because of the same online social media comments gassing them.

So therefore they're not really interested in being in a relationship bc the inbox/dms have her thinking 1990's Shemar Moore and Tyson Beckrord are waiting for her AND that's who she really deserves

 

[AStrangeName]

I watched. She complained about hinge saying she cant get off to some tidbits about a person and connect with surface level stuff and needs to meet in person to figure out someone's vibe...no shyt thats exactly why on hinge you're supposed to move off the app quickly and go on a date and talk to only a few people at a time. A lot of people dont know how to use dating apps effectively. Imagine talking to somebody on app for weeks at a time

They trying to treat Hinge like it's Tinder when they ain't structure the same way

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

Nothing. You clicked on the tiktok and helped her get motion. She'll use her view and follower counts to email brands so she can get paid as an influencer. This kind of thread is made daily if not every other day. A nobody speaking at a camera hoping enough people will click so they can quit their job and become full time socialites.

Every day on the internet is like standing in line at a gas station where most people there are trying to get a lottery ticket.

....... Cookin'








But for the sake of getting my Coli jokes off:




"Pop the Balloon Night"......

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

Desireable single mom

And there we have it...was expectimg it would take until at least the 2nd page of the thread..... ... The "small" detail conveniently left out....