I would like to add the question "Do you have any mental disorders?" to this
35 year old Black woman wonders why she and her desirable friends are still single.
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Ozymandeas
Veteran
WW are getting close to BW with their delusions. They’re not as bad but a lot of them praying for a 6”3 finance bro that looks like Jamie Dornan.
Art Barr
INVADING SOHH CHAMPION
This sista fiyoine tho.
Imma sucker for women applying lip gloss in public.
To bad distance and having to use the internet.
to establish contact are deal breakers.
Art Barr
I don’t think so. Maybe on social media but not IRL. I personally don’t know any WW with 6ft+ height standards unless they’re tall themselves while I know several brehettes with that standard.
Dallas' 4 Eva
Superstar
I'm almost 100% positive after single mother homes, social media is the second biggest problem starter in modern society in general. In particular perpetually online losers and wierdos like this broad clearly is.
Social media has given women access to more men in a more hands off manner(which they feel is safer) than they have ever had in history and for a period of time the pendulum swung in their direction. As always with women though they have over played their hand while thry were up and now the pendulum is swinging back and they don't know how to handle it. Men aren't falling for the bullshyt anymore. Social media and online dating is physically safer, but it's very obvious mentally and emotionally it fukks you up which she even recognized saying she needs to meet someone in person because it's true, you don't really know if you have chemistry with someone until you are face to face with them. Problem is for some reason even though the overwhelming mass majority of men have never done anything bad to a woman, women fear men and treat all men like a threat, even though there has never been a better time in history for women to be around men because this is the safest it has ever been for women.
On top of the fact that social media has every woman 'knowing her worth' and thinking that they are above average when in reality once the make up, filters, and wigs come off they are just that... average. Nothing wrong with that, but people(women in particular) need to start being real with themselves about who they are and stop thinking they are a boss or a superstar. Going to the club or a bar is pitiful now. When I was growing up you could walk up on a chick and try to dance with her and she would either get down or turn you down and you walked away, but that was it. Now you try to even say hi to a woman she calling the cops or recording you and posting you on the web calling you a creep or a perv just for trying to strike up a conversation. Men have simply adjusted to this and literally given women what they want, they don't really bother them anymore.
All of this can be linked back to social media warping these women's minds. They take the bad experiences of one or two women and extrapolate it and suddenly it becomes it happened to all women. It is highly frustrating and I understand why there is such a pushback against social media right now and attempts to regulate it. This is a result of men seeing women say for 20+ years now that 'men aren't shyt, I don't need a man, anything you can do I can do better' type talk.
At the end of the day conversations need to be had, because in reality something is gonna have to give. I feel like women should be able to get educated and have jobs and careers and that's fine, but it doesn't change the reality that putting women into the workforce en mass, allowing them to have Abortions, automatically giving them custody of the children(it was not like this back in the day, kids went with the men and in most of the world they still do) has not done very much to advance society if anything we are going backwards. No family, no community, unruly children that are literally falling behind in every single metric you can think of when it comes to education and behavior, they lack the ability to critically think even if they are educated. Society doesn't need both genders in the mix building and fixing shyt, in the military, working at these jobs somebody needs to be tending too and raising the next generation. It's literally women's biggest biological imperative and they have been failing miserably at it since they were given the wheel and told to drive the car on this. Oh well people gonna just say I'm misogynist or whatever instead of actually being honest with themselves, but hey I don't give a fukk.
Social media has given women access to more men in a more hands off manner(which they feel is safer) than they have ever had in history and for a period of time the pendulum swung in their direction. As always with women though they have over played their hand while thry were up and now the pendulum is swinging back and they don't know how to handle it. Men aren't falling for the bullshyt anymore. Social media and online dating is physically safer, but it's very obvious mentally and emotionally it fukks you up which she even recognized saying she needs to meet someone in person because it's true, you don't really know if you have chemistry with someone until you are face to face with them. Problem is for some reason even though the overwhelming mass majority of men have never done anything bad to a woman, women fear men and treat all men like a threat, even though there has never been a better time in history for women to be around men because this is the safest it has ever been for women.
On top of the fact that social media has every woman 'knowing her worth' and thinking that they are above average when in reality once the make up, filters, and wigs come off they are just that... average. Nothing wrong with that, but people(women in particular) need to start being real with themselves about who they are and stop thinking they are a boss or a superstar. Going to the club or a bar is pitiful now. When I was growing up you could walk up on a chick and try to dance with her and she would either get down or turn you down and you walked away, but that was it. Now you try to even say hi to a woman she calling the cops or recording you and posting you on the web calling you a creep or a perv just for trying to strike up a conversation. Men have simply adjusted to this and literally given women what they want, they don't really bother them anymore.
All of this can be linked back to social media warping these women's minds. They take the bad experiences of one or two women and extrapolate it and suddenly it becomes it happened to all women. It is highly frustrating and I understand why there is such a pushback against social media right now and attempts to regulate it. This is a result of men seeing women say for 20+ years now that 'men aren't shyt, I don't need a man, anything you can do I can do better' type talk.
At the end of the day conversations need to be had, because in reality something is gonna have to give. I feel like women should be able to get educated and have jobs and careers and that's fine, but it doesn't change the reality that putting women into the workforce en mass, allowing them to have Abortions, automatically giving them custody of the children(it was not like this back in the day, kids went with the men and in most of the world they still do) has not done very much to advance society if anything we are going backwards. No family, no community, unruly children that are literally falling behind in every single metric you can think of when it comes to education and behavior, they lack the ability to critically think even if they are educated. Society doesn't need both genders in the mix building and fixing shyt, in the military, working at these jobs somebody needs to be tending too and raising the next generation. It's literally women's biggest biological imperative and they have been failing miserably at it since they were given the wheel and told to drive the car on this. Oh well people gonna just say I'm misogynist or whatever instead of actually being honest with themselves, but hey I don't give a fukk.
Art Barr
INVADING SOHH CHAMPION
Goes to page.
Oh. I see.
She is a poverty maker.
That from one poverty maker to rhe next.
It ain't about you no mo sistah.
No top flight single nonpoverty maker guy can trust you. All because you sent another nikka up the river to the warden by proxy.
So no single childless black male suitor can risk commitment in general. Plus it is a conflict of interest.
Now granted.
I do not date women with children. Sinply because of what happened to my daughter and her mom.
I used to slay most bm's. I still will if a mother jumps in mek bed linen without me asking or making a move.
Yet i will not pursue said mother with a child. After my daughter's mom's bf stabbed her ninty times. Including nine fatal wounds. Making natiobal mid day news.
That my daughter's mom was found face down.
outside in the rain naked and dishelved. While my daughter was alone barricaded in their apartment[i just don't feel like reliving all rhe detail in print over again right now]
at that age where kids can not speak well. Yet are possibly cognitive.
Sohh since then. I just respect other men's boundaries. To not date.
any woman with a child or children.
As i lived being helpless in that situation. That i found from experience.
Is just not my place.
to be around another man's child. Even though that woman has say over her household.
independent from her child's father. I just grant that peace of mind. I never got. to both that woman and her child father.
Sohh after that happened..i do not date women who have children.
I respect the next man. Plus i bush any woman who does not disclose they had children. As i noticed that females withhold info to get with me. Till after i close the deal. Then after the deal is closed. Then they tell me they have a child. I have to sit through and relive trauma. Then disclose trauma to a new female stranger. From some new female stranger. Albeit i slept with. withholding vital information and i find it to be to heavy. Sohh i respectfully cease contact and close out interaction.
Art Barr
Oh. I see.
She is a poverty maker.
That from one poverty maker to rhe next.
It ain't about you no mo sistah.
No top flight single nonpoverty maker guy can trust you. All because you sent another nikka up the river to the warden by proxy.
So no single childless black male suitor can risk commitment in general. Plus it is a conflict of interest.
Now granted.
I do not date women with children. Sinply because of what happened to my daughter and her mom.
I used to slay most bm's. I still will if a mother jumps in mek bed linen without me asking or making a move.
Yet i will not pursue said mother with a child. After my daughter's mom's bf stabbed her ninty times. Including nine fatal wounds. Making natiobal mid day news.
That my daughter's mom was found face down.
outside in the rain naked and dishelved. While my daughter was alone barricaded in their apartment[i just don't feel like reliving all rhe detail in print over again right now]
at that age where kids can not speak well. Yet are possibly cognitive.
Sohh since then. I just respect other men's boundaries. To not date.
any woman with a child or children.
As i lived being helpless in that situation. That i found from experience.
Is just not my place.
to be around another man's child. Even though that woman has say over her household.
independent from her child's father. I just grant that peace of mind. I never got. to both that woman and her child father.
Sohh after that happened..i do not date women who have children.
I respect the next man. Plus i bush any woman who does not disclose they had children. As i noticed that females withhold info to get with me. Till after i close the deal. Then after the deal is closed. Then they tell me they have a child. I have to sit through and relive trauma. Then disclose trauma to a new female stranger. From some new female stranger. Albeit i slept with. withholding vital information and i find it to be to heavy. Sohh i respectfully cease contact and close out interaction.
Art Barr
Rell84shots
Veteran
All that "I don't need a man" bullshyt rotted their brains. 
Ezekiel 25:17
Veteran
I can understand why women get degrees. Back then they were stuck with abusers or bums. Also the cost of living is high, you don't want a woman making $35k.
I don't think it's all college educated women though. Somewhere along the line, the message got warped for some women. You can find a Filipino dentist making 6 figures and she's as friendly as ever.
richaveli83
Veteran
I thought this was a @HimmyHendrix thread at first. 
DJ Paul's Arm
Veteran
She’s a single mom.
Single moms are only for fun.
Single moms are only for fun.
Definitely has
I mean she is 35 breh. The likelihood of meeting any women above 27 without kids is slim.
Amazing how they always neglect to mention these ‘tiny’ details.
Brolic
High Value Poster
You aren’t the only one. That topic was literally what made Kevin Samuels go viral.
“Average at best”Average and even below average black women believe they’re too good for average men.
This nikka spittin
Lieutenant Daniels
I’m up for Major
Had my first truly weird dating experience. I’m living in the DMV now after leaving the west coast. Met a girl on Hinge. 32, never married or engaged, no kids. But also admitted to never having been in a serious relationship outside of an off and on thing for three years with an older guy (first big red flag). Ended up seeing this girl for about a month. Things seemed to be progressing. Constantly talking about a future. Wanted me to attend her church with her. Was talking about us taking a trip this summer. All of a sudden I get a random text one evening saying she wasn’t “emotionally available” to give a “great guy” like me the time and attention I deserve) and told her to take care of herself. I say all that to say these women are lost out here. And I’ll keep it a buck, my last two relationships were with a German and a Persian girl. They didn’t play these kinds of games. I’m trying to be intentional with building a black family— but they don’t make it easy.
I just talked about this a couple days ago in the quick gems thread. The dating pool after a certain age (let’s just say 28+) are full of avoidant attachment types. The women that are healed and normal (secure types) are locked down or can hold down a long term relationship and don’t run at the first sign of seriousness.
3 weeks ago my ex broke up with me after 8 months even though everything was going great in the relationship and she verbally told me multiple times I’m what she’s always wanted. Like @Ohene said you can’t fix these broken women. I’m almost willing to bet the 3 years on and off again relationship with the older guy was the way it was because she refused to commit. I guarantee she was the one that kept leaving and then when she couldn’t find anything else she came back. Repeat the cycle.
I know because as soon as I seriously committed to my ex she ran for the hills and said the SAME thing the chick you were seeing for a month said.
Not all women out there in the dating pool are like this but I bet 90% are. Good luck breh.