35 year old Black woman wonders why she and her desirable friends are still single.

[Canon]

She cute but she using a lot of that weird terminally online lingo.

they gonna die alone

all these girls clones of each other without seeing any success.terminally online weirdos.

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

I met a girl a week before Valentine’s Day then asked to come out that weekend, got hit with “who goes on a first date on valentines weekend?” These hoes weird AF

You gave off Coli Profile name energy....

 

[Ozymandeas]

I don’t think so. Maybe on social media but not IRL. I personally don’t know any WW with 6ft+ height standards unless they’re tall themselves while I know several brehettes with that standard.

Can't agree with that. Them cats online talking about their dating issues aren't all black men.

 

[Bigen King]

She was lying the whole time breh.

Most women lie and omit key details when you first meet and where they really are.

She was probably on and off with her ex.

You gotta ask them certain questions and watch certain things to flush out the bullshyt.

You ask a woman “how long have you been single?” She responds with “two years”. Now most men will think two years ago was her last interaction with the ex and leave it there.

Now if you follow up with “so that was the last time you two interacted? You either get a no or a hesitant yes.

Men lie and omit details as well. But for honest brehs it can catch them off guard when they start to think that this women's last male interaction was 3 years ago and she was really with man a few weeks ago just in a non-committed relation. This is all information I learned as recently getting back in the field I just don't date one women without having some sort conversation bout exclusivity and I ask follow up questions so to avoid those type of situations.

 

[Stuntone]

I mean, for anyone who feels this reasoning is fallacious, the fact that statistically there are more childless black men than black women speaks volumes.

That’s why I understand why brehs date out. It’s not for me personally but when I see how the average black man is treated with such contempt for not being ‘extraordinary’ by his counterpart, I genuinely can’t blame him for exploring his options.

Either that or he’s completely invisible in this ‘community.’

Facts. So many good, hard working, genuine Black men are invisible in our community.

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

She cute but she using a lot of that weird terminally online lingo.

Every damn cliche in one post....

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

I thought this was a @HimmyHendrix thread at first.

Speaking of..... this type of post is his bread and butter..... he get bushed? ......... or worse (actually better) .... did he run into @DetroitEWarren ?......

 

[Jazzy B.]

Men lie and omit details as well. But for honest brehs it can catch them off guard when they start to think that this women's last male interaction was 3 years ago and she was really with man a few weeks ago just in a non-committed relation. This is all information I learned as recently getting back in the field I just don't date one women without having some sort conversation bout exclusivity and I ask follow up questions so to avoid those type of situations.

Most men in the dating game are honest and aren’t dangling a bunch of women nor do they have the ability to do so. That’s where all this confusion about what women do comes from like “ playing games”.

The problem is unless a man has dated a lot he won’t believe women are liars and omit critical info the way they do in regards to men they’ve interacted with until he experiences it.

Woman says “I’ve never been in a relationship” but she was calling the man she was messing around with “her man” in real time but because it hasn’t worked out or because he didn’t do certain specific things it now no longer counts as a “relationship”

That’s why you gotta ask them “what do you define as a relationship?” and find out what she was doing with earlier brehs. You’ll then more than likely find out she has been in one but just isn’t counting it for whatever reason.

 

[MikelArteta]

Facts. So many good, hard working, genuine Black men are invisible in our community.

I got one word for them and it starts with U and ends Ganda

 

[The ADD]

I got one word for them and it starts with U and ends Ganda

Did you have her sign a prenup?

 

[LDC]

I would like to add the question "Do you have any mental disorders?" to this

This should be #1 question because the shyt's rampant out here.

Topic is tired and just another excuse to the usual shots off, but the problem like somebody else said is everybody (and it IS everybody, but mainly women) thinks they're a good person who deserves xyz. How do you know you're a good person and why do you deserve anything? And guaranteed none will ever really have a good answer. All it means is they'll just always blame it on there not being any good men out there instead of being honest about where they need to work on.

There's probably a good reason tho and it's usually..


Mental illness.

 

[Eternally Jaded]

Yep. My ex was like that. According to her I’m the first man that treated her great and how does she reward me, by leaving a good healthy relationship.

And the fukked up part is family and friends sit back and watch them do it. You’d think family and friends would be like “you finally won and found a good guy don’t fukk this up”

It’s funny cause in all these brehs stories and mine the chicks suddenly wanna be alone and aren’t emotionally available to work on themselves when they finally get in a good situation but won’t do that and leave in abusive bad relationships. It’s very strange man.

Take it as a blessing in disguise breh.

I ran around with a gorgeous(looks kinda like Janelle Monae) married woman who told me during pillowtalk one time "Jaded, I can't even get this nikka to cheat on me!"

I asked her why she even married dude, she came back with; she was a single mother of two young kids, her bd was in and out on some knucklehead ish with a whole bunch of other bms.

The women in her life told her this is a good guy who loves her and wants to take care of her and her kids, this is what she should want, etc.

Still she ended up gripped up underneath me.

A person can lie to themselves for only so long, before their truth outs them.

The truth is, you aren't what SHE wants.

 

[Eternally Jaded]

I met a girl a week before Valentine’s Day then asked to come out that weekend, got hit with “who goes on a first date on valentines weekend?” These hoes weird AF

She didn't want you like that breh.

Let the breh she's geeked over make that same offer, she's flying down the stairs in a rush of spanx and perfume.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

Most men in the dating game are honest and aren’t dangling a bunch of women nor do they have the ability to do so. That’s where all this confusion about what women do comes from like “ playing games”.

Yeah, because telling women upfront you want on demand sex for free, with no commitment works so easily. Women want desirable men they find attractive. Most of those men have options, and are always sleeping with someone. I had a long term FWB I was considering wifing before I got with my wife. I mentioned this multiple times. She was a great woman, attractive, cool to hangout with, talk to, but something was missing. She had good qualities, but it just wasn’t there.

When I was 19, I dated a Puerto Rican girl who left me for a Puerto Rican guy. I treated her well, but I wasn’t her type, and she barely touched me. Sometimes, you give someone a chance, but if the chemistry isn’t there, it’s not happening. Since then she went on to have 2 kids, and is currently single.

Spoiler

 

[Piff Perkins]

Her child isn’t the problem.

The problem is her standards for the man she now wants are way higher than the standards she had for her BD.

You can tell she makes it clear that she is looking for a CLEAN UP man which is the wrong approach.

That’s why hood chicks don’t have these issues. They don’t lead with “im looking for a CLEAN UP man” energy which is how they get SQUARE brehs to IMPREGNATE them.

But that means the child is the problem. We don’t even know who her bd is or what her standard was. If he was a bum…everyone you fukk isn’t who you would date, there are different standards for that. Just as I know every chick we fukk isn’t gf/wife material. She could have gotten pregnant by a bum or six cert nicca, we have no idea.

But the end result is that now that she’s in her mid 30s looking for a successful, serious man…none of them are interested. Because the child is the problem. Successful men in their 30s who are seriously looking to date are NOT interested in raising another man’s child. Overall. There are exceptions (for instance if he’s a single dad) but I’d say 70%+ of successful men won’t do that shyt.