35 year old Black woman wonders why she and her desirable friends are still single.

[cyndaquil]

I noticed women have made this much harder now as well. it use to be grab drinks after a few messages.

now they want to send one message a day/have five telephone calls/ and if you are lucky you get to meet them.

I aint doing all of that. these women are creating there own problems.

They go on a few dates with brehs who lying in the profile whether pics or what they do/got and weirdos that they don't wanna go on dates quick because they view it as a waste of time. But in actuality all this extra vetting and cautiousness isn't doing a thing but
A. Letting the vibe die there's only so much interest you can keep without being face to face
B. Allowing their matches to fill up and swiping still so they can talk to the next man and get novel stimuli and do the same with them

There is a lot of luck involved in online dating. Anybody can put anything on s profile and say anything in a message. Sometimes your first date is your match and sometimes your 20th is your match. But if you dont go on any or not many dates at all you are guaranteed to end up alone and unsatisfied that's all there is to it

 

[AAKing23]

Have you ever taken the time to wonder why more education makes men less desirable to women?

I just think it's funny how ya'll casually over look that and go straight into condoning the human rights of women being taken away.

But it never dawns on you that maybe... just maybe the fact that you want women's right reduced lays at the core of the undesirablity.

And just remember, while you're fantasizing about recreating the Handmaid's Tale, the same justification will be made on why it's okay to reduce your human rights.

It's crazy how you all forget the state of relatity and history when you see an opportunity where you think you might be able to use the oppression of others to your advantage.

As a childless women, I'd die before I'd allow myself to be trapped into a life of misery sharing a child with a person who wants me to be treated like a baby making sex slave.

You just said a bunch of shyt I never said or condoned, I just told you what it is

 

[cyndaquil]

This is gonna sound sexist but women making more money does nothing to progress or advance a society. That’s because they don’t share their money and since they’re hypergamous by nature the pool of men they will entertain becomes super thin.

All it does is create an army of older single women who won’t want to settle who will complain that men ain’t on their level.

Ok but even if this is true, these are the women you don't want. They sound selfish and judgemental. Most men with their shyt together can find somebody eventually. If these women were all ugly you wouldn't care.

 

[AAKing23]

Ok but even if this is true, these are the women you don't want. They sound selfish and judgemental. Most men with their shyt together can find somebody eventually. If these women were all ugly you wouldn't care.

I agree, I’m just stating what it is

 

[Canon]

a nikka like me don't even care anymore

I just take a flight over to Colombia when I'm bored

 

[cyndaquil]

a nikka like me don't even care anymore

I just take a flight over to Colombia when I'm bored

I had a chick unmatch me on the app after I asked her to tell me about herself
Had another that unmatched after she said she was outgoing because she was a libra and I asked her if she really thinks someone's birth month influences their personality

you cant care or take it seriously or you'll lose your mind it's almost like thecoli in a way

 

[KillerB88]

Had my first truly weird dating experience. I’m living in the DMV now after leaving the west coast. Met a girl on Hinge. 32, never married or engaged, no kids. But also admitted to never having been in a serious relationship outside of an off and on thing for three years with an older guy (first big red flag). Ended up seeing this girl for about a month. Things seemed to be progressing. Constantly talking about a future. Wanted me to attend her church with her. Was talking about us taking a trip this summer. All of a sudden I get a random text one evening saying she wasn’t “emotionally available” to give a “great guy” like me the time and attention I deserve . I just replied thanks for being honest () and told her to take care of herself. I say all that to say these women are lost out here. And I’ll keep it a buck, my last two relationships were with a German and a Persian girl. They didn’t play these kinds of games. I’m trying to be intentional with building a black family— but they don’t make it easy.

 

[Canon]

I had a chick unmatch me on the app after I asked her to tell me about herself
Had another that unmatched after she said she was outgoing because she was a libra and I asked her if she really thinks someone's birth month influences their personality

you cant care or take it seriously or you'll lose your mind it's almost like thecoli in a way

them hinge hoes will never see me again.

bytches on hinge wanna act up while Maria telling me she's crazy about me every day.

wait till I get my little property down there.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Too picky

 

[Sterling Archer]

she'd rather complain on tiktok vs meet people.

Exactly. First problem is she posts on social media. Next problem is she sounds like she likes cacs. Third, she said it was “pop the balloon night” so she consumes bullshyt while on social media. Fourth, she’s a single mom so she already showcases that she lacks the ability to keep a household in order or a man happy.

It really doesn’t need to be anything more than that. It’s enough.

 

[BruhManFromTheFifthFlo]

a little humility would do so many posters some good

if she were really carrying her weight, she'd hang out on dying forums with closed registration pretending to be ahem six figures, six certs?

i see these threads over and over and its like.. who the fukk are yall to judge anybody lmao

god forbid a woman was being annoying on the internet, 30 page platinum thread (with a heaping side of some of the worst misogyny this side of 4çhån) incoming. im sure this will be a constructive thread!

Happy pride month to you, bro!

 

[cyndaquil]

a little humility would do so many posters some good

if she were really carrying her weight, she'd hang out on dying forums with closed registration pretending to be ahem six figures, six certs?

i see these threads over and over and its like.. who the fukk are yall to judge anybody lmao

god forbid a woman was being annoying on the internet, 30 page platinum thread (with a heaping side of some of the worst misogyny this side of 4çhån) incoming. im sure this will be a constructive thread!

My breh really who cares? There's 30 page threads elsewhere talking shyt about a breh posting some shyt on social media bout women. Yall take this shyt too seriously. At the end of the day people get on here and vent and talk shyt with people who understand them. Do you walk in the barbershop and tell brehs the same thing? Cuz this same talk be in there too

 

[DJSmooth]

Desireable single mom

she got kids? And you wondering why you single?

 

[Belize King]

No one is owed a relationship in life.

This. Relationships are really contracts of compromise. How many people really want to compromise to be “happy”.

If you don’t want to compromise, don’t procreate and have fun with whatever partners you catch. Until then, enjoy being single. Maybe people don’t enjoy themselves which is an issue within itself.

Love what you believe in, love yourself, and be open to compromise. Those three things will get you started and finding a partner. Until then, enjoy being single. Relationships are hard work that obviously people aren’t about anyway.

 

[cyndaquil]

This. Relationships are really contracts of compromise. How many people really want to compromise to be “happy”.

If you don’t want to compromise, don’t procreate and have fun with whatever partners you catch. Until then, enjoy being single. Maybe people don’t enjoy themselves which is an issue within itself.

Love what you believe in, love yourself, and be open to compromise. Those three things will get you started and finding a partner. Until then, enjoy being single. Relationships are hard work that obviously people aren’t about anyway.

No this makes too much sense. Let's make more broken people by promising relationships and then being selfish and fukking with them emotionally until they close themselves off and drop a kid on em too for just desserts to make sure they have an even harder time after