Yeah most chics that fall into that lane have a very narrow and romanticized version of dating. They have watched and consumed too much media and not actually processing it as just media. So they're waiting on their dream guy to just appear and sweep them off their feet and they'll live happily ever after. They also usually forget the part about them participating in the actual relationship or what that type of man will require outta them lol
35 year old Black woman wonders why she and her desirable friends are still single.
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Had my first truly weird dating experience. I’m living in the DMV now after leaving the west coast. Met a girl on Hinge. 32, never married or engaged, no kids. But also admitted to never having been in a serious relationship outside of an off and on thing for three years with an older guy (first big red flag). Ended up seeing this girl for about a month. Things seemed to be progressing. Constantly talking about a future. Wanted me to attend her church with her. Was talking about us taking a trip this summer. All of a sudden I get a random text one evening saying she wasn’t “emotionally available” to give a “great guy” like me the time and attention I deserve. I just replied thanks for being honest (
) and told her to take care of herself. I say all that to say these women are lost out here. And I’ll keep it a buck, my last two relationships were with a German and a Persian girl. They didn’t play these kinds of games. I’m trying to be intentional with building a black family— but they don’t make it easy.
had this happen the other month these women are crazy.That's what makes it hilarious. You're in these big metro areas and you can't find a single dude that aligns with you. But it shows that a lot of them are chasing the look/aesthetic of the relationship than actually being in one. I've talked to chics like that and I don't stay long because I'm not trying to be "relationship goals" and have our life constantly posted. I'm trying to actually get to know you as a person. The influencer types aren't authentic people they're wave chasers so who they are shifts by the algorithm swings lol.It's always odd to me how millennial content creators who claim to be intentional about dating and marriage, live in some of the largest metros in the country can't find a single person they're on the same page with. The men are using it as an excuse to catch and release, play the field. The women are using it as excuse to find the perfect 1% match.
You go to her page and its the same bland content creator aestetic every other woman trying to cosplay as a soft girl uses. Same Tiktoks about boundaries, self-love, cutoff culture, "I don't chase I attract"Men 35-45 doing well in NJ/NYC have alot of options, especially as this economy is getting worse, and she does not stand out. As a matter of fact, everything she does/says blends in, and can quickly be replaced as a 35 year old single mother.
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Thats another thingIt's always odd to me how millennial content creators who claim to be intentional about dating and marriage, live in some of the largest metros in the country can't find a single person they're on the same page with. The men are using it as an excuse to catch and release, play the field. The women are using it as excuse to find the perfect 1% match.
You go to her page and its the same bland content creator aestetic every other woman trying to cosplay as a soft girl uses. Same Tiktoks about boundaries, self-love, cutoff culture, "I don't chase I attract"
These females stuck on so much social media that they are basically clones of each other.
The makeup, the outfits, the tats, the events, the “activities”… all the same shyt.
Their entire lives seem to be shopping, lounging around, eating, etc. straight useless.
They all seem to be TRYING to look like these chicks and want a man that LOOKS the part. They don’t actually want a HVM, just one that looks like what they imagine one to be.
Imo, she should just try to be a high end prostitute like the celebs they look up to, and trap a dumb one
They real deal be having texting buddies on there. If I don't have a face to face set up in 3-4 days I'm unmatching and putting you back on the shelf. It shouldn't take that long to know if this is someone you want to meet lolI watched. She complained about hinge saying she cant get off to some tidbits about a person and connect with surface level stuff and needs to meet in person to figure out someone's vibe...no shyt thats exactly why on hinge you're supposed to move off the app quickly and go on a date and talk to only a few people at a time. A lot of people dont know how to use dating apps effectively. Imagine talking to somebody on app for weeks at a time
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Dont forget travel and taking thirst trap pics all over their profile while their profile says they want a life partnerThats another thing
These females stuck on so much social media that they are basically clones of each other.
The makeup, the outfits, the tats, the events, the “activities”… all the same shyt.
Their entire lives seem to be shopping, lounging around, eating, etc. straight useless.
They all seem to be TRYING to look like these chicks and want a man that LOOKS the part. They don’t actually want a HVM, just one that looks like what they imagine one to be.
Imo, she should just try to be a high end prostitute like the celebs they look up to, and trap a dumb one
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Her lips ,teeth and face 
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They don’t even realize that they are the ones that are kinda boring
No intelligence on anything, no passion for anything, no higher level thinking, no self-reflection, no hobbies other than money, social media, “fashion”,or makeup.
Or other people/nikkas.
OP chick doesn’t seem like the “ratchet” type but idk if that even mean anything these days if the mindsets are still fukked up.
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These broads don’t think they have to do anything besides just show up and exist, and even then they still feel like they’re doing you a favor, this next decade is about come with massive rude awakenings for them.I just remembered another one, i asked a woman if she wanted to go to the auto show with me because she mentioned that she was going to go at some point but she was adamant that she wasn't going to pay for anything, food, ticket, etc. I asked her since she was going anyway why not just meet me up there and she said she'd have to get someone to pay for it because she wasn't going to.....she ended up not going at all and I ended up actually buying a car
it doesn't.
They want to "settle down", but don't want to "settle"..
The modern woman in one sentence
She and her friends will grow old in homes full of cats if they don't snap out of this new age childish mindset.
The modern woman in one sentence
She and her friends will grow old in homes full of cats if they don't snap out of this new age childish mindset.
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these heauxs is fried oysters out here. The sooner you realize it and put it to memory the better. The thing is they don’t want to be saved, they don’t want rehab or therapy, they just want to have it their way or die trying. so at that point it’s like.. don’t let them rope you in with that sob story song and dance, I’m confused type shyt. they don’t care to get any real answers. it’s shoganai for them
I feel zero sympathy for women they all have options.
You'll never find anyone who checks all your boxes but keep on hoping for that 6'4 Tyrese Haliburton nukka
Chick on tiktok having her belly out in every video acting like she's some guru.
Chicks still thinking they a catch bdcause they look ok, and have a career.
You'll never find anyone who checks all your boxes but keep on hoping for that 6'4 Tyrese Haliburton nukka
Chick on tiktok having her belly out in every video acting like she's some guru.
Chicks still thinking they a catch bdcause they look ok, and have a career.
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These chicks will proudly complain they don't need any man, that they are happy and content with their girl trips, solo outings, that they have no kids, or doing just fine with their little princess. But deep down inside they all long for it that's why they still on the app's, that's why they still making videos day after day. Men are so horrible girl they need to grow up yet you can't stop caring etc.
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