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lol

It's true.

 

[Vaulkner]

Please be Poe's law.....

You know what? @K Bishop ......

Nah, im dead ass.

I used to think like this when I made the thread, but I've learned that all women are not the same.

Then I was wrong, you are not enlightened yet.

 

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Then I was wrong, you are not enlightened yet.

Haven't you read the thread? We can't base all women off our experiences, because that would mean we only deal with women that cannot be brought home to our mothers, therefore denying our plausibility. We just haven't dealt with high-quality women and haven't truly been in love.

 

[Mugenight]

Nah, im dead ass.



Then I was wrong, you are not enlightened yet.

 

[Chapter_BLK]

...and you don't care either way, because you just "skimmed" it.

I guess?

Not sure what you're trying to get at.

 

[Shorty K]

Don't know about you but when I talk to women the last thing I'm thinking about is my mother...not trying to be an a$$hole it is what it is but then again neither Her nor my Father where apart of my life like that so maybe that has something to do with it.

It speaks volumes about how you really feel about your mom and who she is that you simply can't say "If I met a woman with the same character as my mom I'd wife her up". We just gonna leave it at that, I don't need you to Juelz why you'd view it as a mistake to wife up a woman who's of the same character as your mother. I empathize my dude, if your own momma ain't shyt, how can you possibly think any woman could be anything other than an ain't shyt herself

 

[tuckgod]

Breh, the right woman will come when you're ready for her.

You can't base your decision on settling down off the past relationships you've had, or the things you've experienced with other married women.

What you can do is learn from your own mistakes in your past relationships, stop blaming the women for their mistakes, and try not to make them again in future relationships.

Also learn from the mistakes of the husbands of the wives you've been with.

Listen to what they told you he wasn't doing, and when/if you do end up married, make sure you don't do the same things that could encourage your woman to cheat on you.

In my experiences, women are usually good as long as you're attentive to their needs (not their wants), compliment them daily, listen to them when they talk (without interrupting, belittling them, or immediately offering solutions), make them feel comfortable and secure (stay true to your word, stay gainfully employed/financially stable, take care of your health, and be present), and have something going on in your own life that doesn't make you appear needy or clingy.

Check out a book called The Way of the Superior Man.

I haven't read it yet myself, but I heard it helps dudes going through the same thoughts on relationships that you're currently experiencing.

http://www.sunnyray.ca/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/The-Way-of-the-Superior-Man.pdf

 

[Mr. Glass]

This issue is, you can't invest more than these hoes. Point. Blank. Period. I don't care who you are. You could be Kobe, Puffy, Barack, anyone, never put more into the relationship with the female. Always be willing to walk away. Understand that most females belong to the game. Stop believing in fairytales. If you become the rawest version of yourself, you'll be able to take down tons of females, and they'll want you waaaaaay more than you want them. That's how you win at life.

You have to think of relationships the same way you think of everything else. It's disposable. That doesn't mean you can't have long lasting romance, but it means you need to be thinking logically, nikka.

 

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Breh, the right woman will come when you're ready for her.

You can't base your decision on settling down off the past relationships you've had, or the things you've experienced with other married women.

What you can do is learn from your own mistakes in your past relationships, stop blaming the women for their mistakes, and try not to make them again in future relationships.

Also learn from the mistakes of the husbands of the wives you've been with.

Listen to what they told you he wasn't doing, and when/if you do end up married, make sure you don't do the same things that could encourage your woman to cheat on you.

In my experiences women are usually good as long as you're attentive to their needs (not their wants), compliment them daily, listen to them when they talk, make them feel comfortable and secure, and have something going on in your own life that doesn't make you appear needy or clingy.

Check out a book called The Way of the Superior Man.

I haven't read it yet myself, but it helps dudes going through the same thoughts on relationships that you're currently experiencing.

http://www.sunnyray.ca/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/The-Way-of-the-Superior-Man.pdf

Yep. She will come when I am ready for her. Women will never do any wrong, as she is a reflection of the man she is with. Women are perfect until I mess up, so that's on me. I have to work on perfecting myself. Thank you for the read.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Both men and women are flawed creatures mostly. You can look at society and see that.

All relationships especially romantic ones have major value to this thing called life. Knowing that, nothing has changed my views or how I go about finding a significant other. I’ve always known it will take an exceptional woman to keep my interest and lock me down. I embrace the challenge of finding that connection rather than get discouraged by it. You gotta make life fun.

so that's why i could never pull you

 

[DPresidential]

After internalizing the opposing opinions to my OP, I've come to a conclusion. I want to say thank you to TheColi.

It took a minute, but I realize now that the problem isn't with women, it is with me.[Nah, it's with you AND the pool of women you seem to currently attract.] I'm not good enough and need to work on perfecting myself.[You are good enough. You might be aiming at the wrong women, the wrong setting, etc] Women cannot and will not do any wrong to a man who is worth something.[Oh, I see, you're trolling. Keep cooking because no one, including the women posters insinuated this] I am the issue. All I have been doing is pointing fingers as if women are the issue. The issue is with me and my mindset. True love where a woman will never do any wrong to a man exists[So you go from one extreme thought to the other extreme? Breh, you aren't witty enough to make this post work.] and I need to work on myself so that I can become worthy of experiencing it. I am a jaded individual who needs to become less jaded.[True]Thank you for all the men and women who have convinced me. This has been one of the most polarizing and insightful threads I've ever made and had the pleasure to be a part of.

This Breh took the back and forth dialogue in this thread and deduced that people giving the counter point we're saying women are perfect angels.

Ignoring the fact that most opponents to his premise were saying women just have the same flaws as men.

The Coli, ladies and gentlemen. Give it up for tonight's performer.

 

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This issue is, you can't invest more than these hoes. Point. Blank. Period. I don't care who you are. You could be Kobe, Puffy, Barack, anyone, never put more into the relationship with the female. Always be willing to walk away. Understand that most females belong to the game. Stop believing in fairytales. If you become the rawest version of yourself, you'll be able to take down tons of females, and they'll want you waaaaaay more than you want them. That's how you win at life.

You have to think of relationships the same way you think of everything else. It's disposable. That doesn't mean you can't have long lasting romance, but it means you need to be thinking logically, nikka.

Yeah, you're right. I have to love her without really loving her. I have to become perfectly emotionally unavailable while being available enough, somehow. I'll figure it out.

 

[Vaulkner]

Haven't you read the thread? We can't base all women off our experiences, because that would mean we only deal with women that cannot be brought home to our mothers, therefore denying our plausibility. We just haven't dealt with high-quality women and haven't truly been in love.

This way of thinking will doom you to a life of simphood, a real nikka has spoken. Carry on.

 

[T'krm]

While I do agree with karma, I also think you're ignoring the biological differences between the sexes. In order for a woman to be attracted to a man, that man has to be attractive to many women. A man with many options won't put his manhood on the line for one girl who can now feel "victorious" because she's got him, and then change her feelings once she got the "winner." He's going to maintain his status as "the winner" by interacting and possibly sleeping with many women, because he knows that once he changes up, she won't feel the same way about him.

I've been there. Many others have been there.

This is somewhat convulted.
It has less do with 'biology', though evolution would have been more apt, than stage in life(maturity level) The same argument can be made that biologically women overwhelming will choose a provider to settle with, and build over a 'roving seed spreader'!
A better argument should be made again: WHO is being sought after, and what stage of life they're at? It's not necessarily an age thing, level of intellect, or even class... Or it could be a combination of all 3!
With that being said, recognize that being human means nothing is infallible, nonetheless, much heartache, frustration, and disappointment can be avoided by connecting with ppl(man, or woman) who share the same mentality, goals and vision as you. Like - minded ppl who share the same vision, as in end goal, rarely, or are less likely to go astray..

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

This Breh took the back and forth dialogue in this thread and deduced that people giving the counter point we're saying women are perfect angels.

Ignoring the fact that most opponents to his premise were saying women just have the same flaws as men.

The Coli, ladies and gentlemen. Give it up for tonight's performer.

the coli is all or nothing, even when it creates hypocrisy and contradicts other staple coli beliefs