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[semicko82]

Ive stayed with a woman that cheated before...it didn't work out, no biggie...
Im happy and at peace...shes not, from what's been told to me....info i never asked for, mind you...

Oh well...

 

[MooseMouthMthafuga]

Exactly,

It's like in the initial stages of courting or a relationship, you come off extra smooth and overly confident like you got a million other chicks and she's replaceable, but then once, you drop that aura and facade of having other women at your disposal, to show that you're truly committed to her and not playa, things start to change.....

Because now you'll get labeled as a square or not exciting enough....
But then women will say they're tired of dealing with players.....

Yeah...Some women consciously and/or subconsciously place high value on a man's womanizing skills.

They just want it exclusively....or I should say the conquest is to possess it exclusively.

 

[queenblaq]

You could never be a part of the problem, right?

I'm not. I'm in a healthy relationship with a black man who respects me just as much as I respect him. We understand each other's past and future. We don't cheat, we're honest and it's like that. Are we perfect? No. But the stuff y'all be describing on here is highly dysfunctional. I know it's fairy tale land cause y'all fukk with the birds you fukk with but good women are out there just as much as good men instead of honing in on sexual escapades to (escape your insecurities) or (fulfill your needs) how bout learning to love yourself and becoming whole with oneself. Nobody should be in any type of relationship if they feel their incomplete. Trust me I know.

 

[queenblaq]

She was in and out of abusive relationship in another topic, so shes def not apart of the high quality club of women. Wouldnt take what she says seriously.

And you're a proud abuser so don't even try to put yourself on a high horse you're the lowest of the low

 

[MaxPain]

I'm not. I'm in a healthy relationship with a black man who respects me just as much as I respect him. We understand each other's past and future. We don't cheat, we're honest and it's like that. Are we perfect? No. But the stuff y'all be describing on here is highly dysfunctional. I know it's fairy tale land cause y'all fukk with the birds you fukk with but good women are out there just as much as good men instead of honing in on sexual escapades to (escape your insecurities) or (fulfill your needs) how bout learning to love yourself and becoming whole with oneself. Nobody should be in any type of relationship if they feel their incomplete. Trust me I know.

Take relationship advice from women who been in multiple abusive relationships brehs

 

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Maaaaan you still young as hell. Trust me the best years of your life are still ahead. These Ls whether self imposed or not are gonna help you grow as a person

this explains a lot. you'll be straight breh. just live your life with an open mind. always be open to life challenging your ideas/theories you have set in your mind. you should be all about the self-growth right now. I would not even take women seriously at 24

I hate to pull the “your outlook might change when you get older” cliche but it’s true. Your perception on relationships and women in general will likely change drastically as you get closer and closer to your 30s. I say that as someone who was on some “I’m gonna stay single forever” shyt when I was in my early 20s but have since settled down. Having said all that don’t fall into the “I’m almost 30 so I have to settle down” trap either even when you get that pressure from friends and family. That’s an easy way to get in a relationship with the wrong person if you start letting family and societal pressure play a role

This right here is truth.

And this was a good thread.

I would love a an update years from now and whatever situation he's in, I want to see the Breh happy.

Dead ass, fukk daps and at risk of sounding corny, I just want my black brothers to have happy lives

If this is the case then what I've been saying must now look like teenage angst, lol. However, I'll give the rundown on my story. Basically, was with a girl for about three years. Beautiful, kind, had a great energy. She was younger than me by a couple years, so she was a little naive, but I was her 3rd boyfriend but her first "real love." She was kind of my first real love as well, so I wasn't perfect. I'd be insecure at times, jealous, etc. But after seeing how down she was for me, I decided that I wouldn't mind going the next step with her which would be living with her sometime in the next year, when our situations would permit it.

That's when the shyt came. It was like as soon as she realized I'd be down for the long haul, she changed up. Suddenly started talking to me less. More shyt tests. Less sex. I didn't even have to do any dirty work to know that someone else was in the picture. This being my firsthand experience with getting played like that, I cut her loose. What sucks is that she never outright told me there was someone else. She made some BS excuse. There was never any real closure.

Then something happened. My aura changed. It became real negative and dark. Pushed women away. If I didn't, I only wanted them for the buns. Only kept a small circle. Fast forward a couple months... we're here.

I won't lose though. I refuse to lose to negativity.

 

[queenblaq]

Take relationship advice from women who been in multiple abusive relationships brehs

I've been in one dumbass don't even try to spread them manipulative ass lies
Literal trash you are and your ass just stays on this website thinking he's actually doing something

Support actual abusers brehs thecoli is really something else with these bottom of the barrel men

 

[BigMan]

I've been in one dumbass don't even try to spread them manipulative ass lies
Literal trash you are and your ass just stays on this website thinking he's actually doing something

Support actual abusers brehs thecoli is really something else with these bottom of the barrel men

Most of us are complete degenerate trash ma

Welcome to coli

 

[Hoodoo Child]

After internalizing the opposing opinions to my OP, I've come to a conclusion. I want to say thank you to TheColi.

It took a minute, but I realize now that the problem isn't with women, it is with me. I'm not good enough and need to work on perfecting myself. Women cannot and will not do any wrong to a man who is worth something. I am the issue. All I have been doing is pointing fingers as if women are the issue. The issue is with me and my mindset. True love where a woman will never do any wrong to a man exists and I need to work on myself so that I can become worthy of experiencing it. I am a jaded individual who needs to become less jaded. Thank you for all the men and women who have convinced me. This has been one of the most polarizing and insightful threads I've ever made and had the pleasure to be a part of.

I wish you much success,cuh. May the Most High give you strength. P.s I suggest you watch some videos from Rom Wills

------> Rom Wills

 

[Tupac in a Business Suit]

@BalmainReyes

I’ve noticed that you have the ability to express your thoughts in a concise manner. I suggest that you read The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi, twice if you must, to help you gain knowledge of self and purpose as a man. Once done with that, as the other poster mentioned, read The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida.

Thank me later.

Edit: Once those two have been completed, read As a Man Thinketh by James Allen.

 

[shagnificent belafonte]

I was doin my thing, fam....she got caught...I didn't....she did a lot of extras to get back in my good graces...then I bounced...

 

[MaxPain]

I've been in one dumbass don't even try to spread them manipulative ass lies
Literal trash you are and your ass just stays on this website thinking he's actually doing something

Support actual abusers brehs thecoli is really something else with these bottom of the barrel men

One too many

Admit to not being mentally sound enough to give relationship advice then call it lies all in one post brehs

 

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@BalmainReyes

I’ve noticed that you have the ability to express your thoughts in a concise manner. I suggest that you read The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi, twice if you must to help you gain knowledge of self and purpose as a man. Once done with that, as the other poster mentioned, read The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida.

Thank me later.

I have a confession to make. I once tried reading one of those books. I think it was Superior Man. The thing is, I was high as shyt and recall one of the chapters saying that "You are nothing more than a fly on a piece of shyt" or some other bizarro shyt that, when mixed with the paranoia off the THC, just got way too real.



Will read it again tonight though.

 

[MaxPain]

I have a confession to make. I once tried reading one of those books. I think it was Superior Man. The thing is, I was high as shyt and recall one of the chapters saying that "You are nothing more than a fly on a piece of shyt" or some other bizarro shyt that, when mixed with the paranoia off the THC, just got way too real.



Will read it again tonight though.

Its philosophical, so dont take it literal; but take it literal

If that makes any sense....

 

[Wild self]

y'all some sorry ass nikkas please don't reproduce

And I assume you're perfect?