You’re not as much as an outlier as you think and those women you described are playing themselves/probably not women you want to be with if they’re college educated chasing bumsI didn't say for him to chase a woman...i said it's stupid to close yourself off from relationships because of the generic "i'd rather stack this paper". Being open to something and actively pursuing it are two very different things.
And yes, someone else would. You asked me specifically and I said no - this has a lot to do with what my expectations are for a mate at this point and the fact that really we're probably in two very different socio-economic classes at this point in life.
There are plenty of good women (cute, ain't tryig to be an IG celebrity, capable of being a faithful mate) who would date him, a 24-28 year old chick with a college degree with a stable $40-60k job who still has time/patience to build with a dude.
I'm over 30, with two degrees, well into my career and dont have that time to invest left in me.If I were single, anyone stepping to me would need to be at the point in their life where they're mentally/emotionally/financially ready to get married, have kids, and buy a home.
Edit: the TLDR version of this - I'm an outlier. Pose this to chicks 22-27 who represent the average (financially and education wise)
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SadimirPutin
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If you felt that way you would just do you instead of looking for validation of your opinion from a board full of strangers
Until people realize that there's negatives to everything and learn how to balance; there will be less long-term relationships.
You telling me, somebody with 50 bodies can fall in love? Lol
The more dates you go on the more nitpicky you'll be.
You telling me, somebody with 50 bodies can fall in love? Lol
The more dates you go on the more nitpicky you'll be.
It's an already bad situation that's getting worse.
You have to understand why women are the way they are. It's not so much an individual thing as much as it is a culture thing. Since birth she's been told she's a princess that DESERVES all her heart desires. And even as a crack fiend, she's still a Black Queen. You have millions of simps re-inforcing these untruths. You have guys like Steve Harvey and Derrick Jaxn calling all women Queens and deserve Kings. It takes an amazing woman to not drink this some of thes simp kool-aid.
I'm in a good relationship, going on 2 years now. My girl, cooks, cleans, rarely goes out, haven't really had any issues about another dude or some ex. But I still can't put all of my trust in her. Just can't. Woman for most part can be cohurst into a lot of things with the right timing and coaching.
We're jacked up to as men, difference is, we have to put our lives on the line for our women if it comes down to it. Your woman should be a better person morally than you. So the double standards are reasonable.
You have to understand why women are the way they are. It's not so much an individual thing as much as it is a culture thing. Since birth she's been told she's a princess that DESERVES all her heart desires. And even as a crack fiend, she's still a Black Queen. You have millions of simps re-inforcing these untruths. You have guys like Steve Harvey and Derrick Jaxn calling all women Queens and deserve Kings. It takes an amazing woman to not drink this some of thes simp kool-aid.
I'm in a good relationship, going on 2 years now. My girl, cooks, cleans, rarely goes out, haven't really had any issues about another dude or some ex. But I still can't put all of my trust in her. Just can't. Woman for most part can be cohurst into a lot of things with the right timing and coaching.
We're jacked up to as men, difference is, we have to put our lives on the line for our women if it comes down to it. Your woman should be a better person morally than you. So the double standards are reasonable.
Bobby Lashleys eyebrows
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I find myself gravitating towards relationships that financially benefit me and alleviates less stress out of the equation. I got tired of looking for compatible attraction that financially depleted me because those women were headaches and burdens. I look at relationships as business transactions. If she can't help with the bills, cook, clean and handle her own, no matter how good she looks, she's disposable. Some of these women in the past didn't get the point as to why they were sidechick status.
All my female co-workers wondering why I'm single. I told them there's literally no point in being in a relationship if your a man who's not settling down for a female and the relationship will end anyways... I focus on my economic situation and getting my money right... they think I'm crazy...
I spent my 20's fukking around and not having anything to show for it... You literally cannot have it all... So I'd rather have stacks of money and chilling out...
I've made peace with that choice and it drives them crazy...Don't know why???
Women cannot take rejection ... you denying another woman access to your time and resources is "bad for women"
Your feelings and thoughts aren't considered at all. They want to see you under the control of a woman
It's not that, men have huge egos and the biological imperative to protect women, once you add the propaganda/brainwashing of society itself
It's easy to see why men get emotional and get defensive.
MooseMouthMthafuga
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Nobody's entitled to happiness and you especially won't find happiness in another person.
"Love" is a system.It's business.The business of getting goals accomplished, producing, and raising strong children.
Men and women have to focus more on the systemic parts and less on each other.Life's a battle.Trouble comes naturally.
You'll have your moments of happiness, but the real key is peace & harmony inside your household.
If you can convey this concept over to a woman and get her to see your vision, you might be ok.
Problem then, people get caught up in the world.There's a lot of temptation out there.Doing the
right thing takes discipline.Society's more built on convenience & instant gratification these days.
Chicks can just post a simple pic on Facebook and get worshiped by men.Have a whole harem of
niccaz in her comment section/DM's ready to burn through their resources just to get a sniff of the poontang.
Times are wayyyyy more superficial.To the point where people try to fill their lack of depth with tattoos.It's that generic.
It's a showy, "on the surface" place.You might have to leave this country if you wanna find gravity
"Love" is a system.It's business.The business of getting goals accomplished, producing, and raising strong children.
Men and women have to focus more on the systemic parts and less on each other.Life's a battle.Trouble comes naturally.
You'll have your moments of happiness, but the real key is peace & harmony inside your household.
If you can convey this concept over to a woman and get her to see your vision, you might be ok.
Problem then, people get caught up in the world.There's a lot of temptation out there.Doing the
right thing takes discipline.Society's more built on convenience & instant gratification these days.
Chicks can just post a simple pic on Facebook and get worshiped by men.Have a whole harem of
niccaz in her comment section/DM's ready to burn through their resources just to get a sniff of the poontang.
Times are wayyyyy more superficial.To the point where people try to fill their lack of depth with tattoos.It's that generic.
It's a showy, "on the surface" place.You might have to leave this country if you wanna find gravity
Yeah i do. It aint ur ego its fear. Lose it
A lot of women unfortunately, are more like groupies instead real actual companions that have your best interest at heart. There are some great women out here but the pickings are slim.
Treat most women as groupies who are only around for quick ride and you will be better off.
Treat most women as groupies who are only around for quick ride and you will be better off.
There are but the problem is there's nothing you can do to guarantee that you'll ever have one. In our social media interconnected society there's always another man in your woman's ear trying to get at her. The presence of that constant is dangerous. My parents they didn't have to go through this at that level. The people they met they had to physically encounter. Now your woman can have friends on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram that you don't even know about. Unless you have all her passwords you never will.
Some of these guys are head over hills about some chick they swear was a good girl and she's sending naked pics to some other guy. It happened to me. I was with my last chick and she fell asleep and I said fukked it and picked up her phone. It wasn't locked and I know it was wrong but I found what I was looking for. What I didn't wanna believe was there.
Kenny West
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I'm in a relationship right now and I feel the same way OP does.
I see the padagrim of society and female sexuality. How women are turned on by committing a taboo (and if you're her man, anyone else becomes that taboo). The way both genders lie and sneak around. How accepted it is and the way friends or 3rd parties assist deception. My own experiences was a lot but the internet dropped the entire curtain and now people are not able to keep the lie going anymore. the more you look at it, the more being a good dude/loving boyfriend/being in relationships is an L.
It's like, if I'm living in a world where a boyfriends #1 and 2 are common...why would I ever want to be boyfriend #1 if I had the choice? And I do have the choice.
Why would I wanna be the one spending up my money of a chick when I could just as easily be the one meeting her up in a parking lot twice a week to just fukk?
Why would I want to let a woman get close enough to the point where regular little things may cause her to resent me when you can pipe chicks and retain an everlasting new car smell as a serial dater?
A padagrim like this completely destroys the game. To be fair I feel like us men as a whole poisoned this well a long time ago.
I expressed all these sentiments to my girl early on. I've never been cheated on to my knowledge but I never wanted to be some nikka playing detective. Stalking my girl phone and social media. It wasn't just lame to me, it's a shytty way to live. And I won't wait till I'm sure it happens or until it's blatant. If I'm not feeling right in this relationship I'll drop it.
I'm surprised at how understanding she is about it. When we met I was already in the mindset that I was gonna be single forever and I planned to enjoy my time with women until the sun sets on that chapter of my life. I was accustomed to dating/sexing women and doing nothing whatsoever to keep them. I was good at it too but I was getting worried I might end up being too jaded to start a family. That's how I ended up warming up to the idea of a relationship now. Chicks still wanted to be my girl the entire time. I just wasn't hearing it
My girl does a lot and makes an effort to make me happy. I try to keep that into perspective and not take her for granted, I think that's the most important thing for relationships these days. People don't appreciate who they have once they got em.
Well the first step is, to stop dating women with social media.
Which is like 5% of women or less.
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