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[YouMadd?]

I find more pleasure having 2 to 3 mini relationships throughout the year vs. trying to get in a long 2-3 year relationship.

6 months is enough to enjoy someone then keep it moving. Some people just like to keep it going until the wheels fall off although there are signs early on that they are with the wrong person.

So OP, try doing mini relationships for a couple years, spending significant time with 4-6 women in these 2 years and tell me what you think.

That sounds like an interesting route. I just got out of a almost 3 year, it got stale, and the signs were there. Maybe I put moderate effort into 2 or 3 women for short term instead of full effort into 1 long term. See how it goes

 

[Wild self]

Most men arent ur friends, and most will do anything to supplicate a woman. Most men are pawns of women. From the simp to the male panderer to the crazy thug ex who wants to beat u for being with his girl. They all march to her drum.

Remember that.

Sig worthy post

Plus, a lot of dudes became degenerates and bums because they thought that women would be more attracted to that.

 

[Kenny West]

It really is. I mentioned a chick I been dealing with for two years. I’ve been moving things slow and at a logical pace on purpose. I could’ve jumped in head first with my emotions and she would’ve ended up a rebound. We’ve been having sex. We’ve been thru emotional ups and downs but we don’t have a label and she knows I see other people. So if we do end up in a relationship I knows she’s with me for me and I’m the type of person she wants to build with. Not because I make her feel a certain way

Not trying to be rude but this really aint groundbreaking stuff, shyt is what any hesitant or cautious person would do. I was no labels with my girl damn near a year before it was official.

It doesn't answer the whole love/lust expiring thing. And truthfully I didn't expect it to, I mean who can guess on a feeling in 5+ years.

Also holding a no label situation for years is not really advice the average man can pull off and most women would consider it logical to leave you if she was waiting that long.

You still haven't clued me into how you find women who don't date based on lust/butterflies and never fall out of love.

It's not like optimism isn't appreciated. however one thing some folks have to understand is that giving people canned/cliche ass advice or worse, shytting on them for asking the tough questions doesn't help in the ways you think it would. If anything it just adds to that sinking feeling that nobody knows what the fukk they're doing or talking about, not even the OGs.

 

[semicko82]

I have to add, the amount of red pill kool-aid some brehs are willing to sip because it appeals to their confirmation bias is unreal.

The red pill was invented by beta white males who were angry and horrified by the discovery that their women weren't as pure and guileless as centuries of propaganda lead them to believe. A thing most black men already knew, mind you. So to see black men parroting their same embittered talking points and applying them to ALL women across the board is not only sad but ridiculous.

You have to admit there is some truth in the red pill though

 

[the bossman]

It really is. I mentioned a chick I been dealing with for two years. I’ve been moving things slow and at a logical pace on purpose. I could’ve jumped in head first with my emotions and she would’ve ended up a rebound. We’ve been having sex. We’ve been thru emotional ups and downs but we don’t have a label and she knows I see other people. So if we do end up in a relationship I knows she’s with me for me and I’m the type of person she wants to build with. Not because I make her feel a certain way

I've experienced this is really the only way to have success and peace of mind - dealing with women on your own terms only. If she doesn't like the situation or circumstances you've laid out, she's always free to leave.

 

[Shorty K]

my dude, that was never my goal. i'm responding to someone who responds to me, that's it. don't know why you assume i think i'm in here providing life changing replies

Why are you continuing to post in this topic after this message then? What is your angle? Do you just want people to notice your opinion and give you attention?

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Why are you continuing to post in this topic after this message then? What is your angle? Do you just want people to notice your opinion?

breh, take your post policing elsewhere. if i'm quoted, i usually reply. i see something i want to respond to, i respond. it's pretty much the way a message board works

 

[Wild self]

This whole post is your problem. I can't imagine a woman wanting to be with a guy who thinks like this or vice versa.

"Getting quality information on how modern females behave"

You act like women are a different species. You can't be serious with this . You are starting to sound like some women who say "all men aren't s***."

As a collective, the hive mentality forces a lot of men to take alternative plan of action, outside of the man's main profession and life mission. Interactions in the age of technology and social media changed communication, and a lot of men either fell behind or don't understand it at all.

 

[mortuus est]

I love the white-knighting and shaming I'm seeing here coming from men. It gives me hope that relationships will always be there, because a lot of y'all are clearly willing to put up with the nonsense. No wonder women can get away with all their red-flags; y'all are enabling it.

and what about men with their red flags?

 

[reserved_one]

Im not gonna lie..just about every relationship i was in? I felt miserable lol. Things we're good at the start but then its like I'll check out after awhile. Its crazy because I never was the type to stray like that but more dealing with insecure women that constantly pick at u and complain it take a toll on you after while

I never been in a relationship that lasted longer than 1.5 years


I finally meet the woman that had everything I could dream of, put all my chips on the table against my gut feeling that im making a mistake and go all in.

Relationship ends less than 4 months

I put my Heart all into her and she ended up leaving me because I was a nobody with no job or money and she thought she could find better mayne. Even though she said money and material shyt dont matter

Her mind. "Why deal with this broke nikka and baggage that's good in bed if I can go out and find a Ballin ass nikka that Women are chasing that could potentially be better in bed and have a bigger dikk?


Honestly that experience is the best thing that happened to me.

One day you wake up next to her and then the next day you wake and see that the other side of the bed is empty.

 

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The fact that this has reached 21 pages means that even those who disagree find some angle of truth to what I'm saying.

 

[Shorty K]

breh, take you post policing elsewhere. if i'm quoted, i usually reply. it's pretty much the way a message board works

But you weren't quoted and still felt the need to quote someone else and highlight that you specifically agree with them. The question is why are you doing these things since it seems like having a constructive conversation is not your aim. Almost seems like you're just tryna troll really, which is fair, but there's a level of awareness to a troll that I'm not picking up in your posts

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

But you weren't quoted and still felt the need to quote someone else and highlight that you specifically agree with them. The question is why are you doing these things since it seems like having a constructive conversation is not your aim

as i also stated - if i see something i want to respond to, i respond. and where did i say i don't want to have constructive conversation? you're literally wasting my time, so i will do you your favor and stop replying to you.

 

[Taadow]

I've experienced this is really the only way to have success and peace of mind - dealing with women on your own terms only. If she doesn't like the situation or circumstances you've laid out, she's always free to leave.

The cold part is I agree with this 100%...

Now I think this is how most men feel about this topic when they figure women out.

So why all this back and forth in this thread?

 

[BmoreGorilla]

Not trying to be rude but this really aint groundbreaking stuff, shyt is what any hesitant or cautious person would do. I was no labels with my girl damn near a year before it was official.

It doesn't answer the whole love/lust expiring thing. And truthfully I didn't expect it to, I mean who can guess on a feeling in 5+ years.

Also holding a no label situation for years is not really advice the average man can pull off and most women would consider it logical to leave you if she was waiting that long.

You still haven't clued me into how you find women who don't date based on lust/butterflies and never fall out of love.

It's not like optimism isn't appreciated. however one thing some folks have to understand is that giving people canned/cliche ass advice or worse, shytting on them for asking the tough questions doesn't help in the ways you think it would. If anything it just adds to that sinking feeling that nobody knows what the fukk they're doing or talking about, not even the OGs.

Of course it isn't groundbreaking and it wasnt meant to be. The thing is most people arent cautious and hesitant when it comes to dating. If a woman can't put up with someone who is than she isn't the person for you. Most people get so caught up in emotions that they force the relationship issue. The chick im dealing with wouldn't have been dealing with me for as long as she has if it was a love/lust thing because she would've tried to force that issue at some point. Emotions have expiration dates. She's dealing with me because she knows my worth. There's no magical place to find women who don't date based on emotions because to a degree we all date based on emotions. But its to tell early on what kind of woman your dealing with based on conversations.