you dont ..... because you used the word "you" instead of "I" in the title ....
meaning you seem to feel that concerning women your personal experience is the same with many of us .... this simply isnt true ....
the problem with a lot of dudes is that they will find a million and one reasons to explain away their failures with women
they only want dudes with money, tupac in a business suit , only after white dudes, they are all hos,they all flying to Dubai..... etc.... etc...
not everyone has that reality fam, and from the outside looking in a lot of us can see why these dudes arent doing well with women