Stopped reading halfway through. But from what I read, nobody should marry this woman Anybody having a certain image of what a partner should be like, instead of accepting the other person for who he/she is, is setting themselves up die failure and making the other persons life a living hell. And while she realizes that her expectations have been the problem, instead of questioning them, she is projecting them on another culture. But relationships with people from other cultures still come with their own difficulties, many of them having to do with expectations and socialization. She might feel happy now, but from what she writes, Im pretty sure that happyness will turn into resentment sooner or later.
If you don't get ALL the way out of here with that shyt. You should most certainly have expectations for your spouse, male and female! You can love a person unconditionally but doesn't mean they would make a good partner. That's setting people up for failure and regret!