Am I dealing with a Bisexual? I need some advice

[kdub83]

I’m a bisexual woman. Based on your posts yes there is a chance she is involved with this friend. On the other hand there is a chance that they’re just really close friends. The best way for you to find out is to just ask. But considering that you say this is not your gf, you may not be a priority to her the way friend is. If you want that to change, then pursue a relationship.

It sounds like you like this girl but for whatever reason your saying it isn’t like that, but if it wasn’t I suspect you wouldn’t have made this thread.

Actually I was coming to say something similar, but you got my main points on this.

OP I’ve dated bisexual women in my past and currently, and what you describing doesn’t necessarily mean she’s bi. If you feeling a way and/or this is the thing that’s stopping a relationship between the two of you, just be direct as fukk and ask her. Just be ready for whatever answer and/or reaction you get once you do.

 

[King Karim]

I’m a bisexual woman. Based on your posts yes there is a chance she is involved with this friend. On the other hand there is a chance that they’re just really close friends. The best way for you to find out is to just ask. But considering that you say this is not your gf, you may not be a priority to her the way friend is. If you want that to change, then pursue a relationship.

It sounds like you like this girl but for whatever reason your saying it isn’t like that, but if it wasn’t I suspect you wouldn’t have made this thread.

Coming out and asking her is kinda awkward for me. And we both like each other, we just haven't taken it to the next level yet and made it a commitment

 

[King Karim]

its an old show called moonighting with bruce willis him and the woman playing games going round and round with the same will they/wont they bulshyt

You old AF.

I had forgotten all about that show

 

[Boogie]

What grown ass straight man go around saying chemistry

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Coming out and asking her is kinda awkward for me. And we both like each other, we just haven't taken it to the next level yet and made it a commitment

Look if you can do something as intimate and as personal as put your peen in her on the regular, then you should be able to communicate it with her about this matter.

You can open it up in a more generalized way to warm her up and just ask her has she ever messed with a girl before or ask her what she thinks about it. Or you can just be direct and ask her about how close she is with her friend (I.e. “you and xyz seem like y’all are really close. Have you always been close like that…blah blah blah?)

But look there’s no way for you to know unless you ask. We can’t tell you if she is or if she isn’t, only she can.

 

[King Karim]

What grown ass straight man go around saying chemistry

Chemistry is very important in any relationship. You gotta be fresh off of titty milk

 

[King Karim]

Look if you can do something as intimate and as personal as put your peen in her on the regular, then you should be able to communicate it with her about this matter.

You can open it up in a more generalized way to warm her up and just ask her has she ever messed with a girl before or ask her what she thinks about it. Or you can just be direct and ask her about how close she is with her friend (I.e. “you and xyz seem like y’all are really close. Have you always been close like that…blah blah blah?)

But look there’s no way for you to know unless you ask. We can’t tell you if she is or if she isn’t, only she can.

We have never ever had sex before. If I would have smashed already, then it makes that conversation easier. That's what makes our relationship so dope, it's not sex driven

 

[King Karim]

Actually I was coming to say something similar, but you got my main points on this.

OP I’ve dated bisexual women in my past and currently, and what you describing doesn’t necessarily mean she’s bi. If you feeling a way and/or this is the thing that’s stopping a relationship between the two of you, just be direct as fukk and ask her. Just be ready for whatever answer and/or reaction you get once you do.

I'm eventually gonna have to ask her that question.

And then there is another part of me that's skeptical to enter a relationship with her bc of how much time and energy she puts into her best friend. It makes me wonder if that would become an issue down the line with us

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

 

[CarmelBarbie]

We have never ever had sex before. If I would have smashed already, then it makes that conversation easier. That's what makes our relationship so dope, it's not sex driven

That actually makes it just as easy IMO. Whenever your getting to know someone and vetting them for dating/relationship it’s normal to ask questions about her past, her friendships, sexuality, etc. you can just bring up the topic in a general way and then ask her if she’s bisexual.
I mean i don’t know what else to tell you, you can’t avoid it… you just have to ask her and be prepared to deal with whatever she says in return. If you can’t communicate with her about this, you are not ready to get into a relationship with her.

edited to add: in regards to her friendship with her girl. If it’s a deal breaker for you then maybe she’s not the one. I mean that’s her girl, you may become more of a priority if y’all date exclusively but considering that her friendship was like this before you and her met… that’s tough. She may or may not change if she got serious with you.

idk you seem to have major doubts/uneasiness and you don’t feel comfortable expressing them to her. I honestly think you may need to keep things friendly and not pursue anything further.

 

[King Karim]

You could have told her that when you and her spend time together you want it to be you and her.

Her friend kinda took the piss by still driving down knowing your chick would drag you along to go hang with her. Now nothing wrong with hanging with your chicks friend but she should have said she was hanging with you that evening and she'd see her tomorrow.

Bruhhhh. That's exactly where I was at with it.

And when I talked to her about the incident. She apologized, and cash apped me $20 for gas money. She said she knew she should have told her friend she was hanging with me and that they'd have to get up tomorrow or whatever but she said it's hard for her to tell people no...a huge red flag for me was the friend driving up there knowing we was already hanging out. That's really what was problematic in my mind bc she knew we were basically out already, headed in a total different direction

 

[King Karim]

That actually makes it just as easy IMO. Whenever your getting to know someone and vetting them for dating/relationship it’s normal to ask questions about her past, her friendships, sexuality, etc. you can just bring up the topic in a general way and then ask her if she’s bisexual.
I mean i don’t know what else to tell you, you can’t avoid it… you just have to ask her and be prepared to deal with whatever she says in return. If you can’t communicate with her about this, you are not ready to get into a relationship with her.

You're absolutely right. I just gotta find the correct setting for it but we can talk about anything and we do. We got a dope ass vibe.

 

[NeilCartwright]

Real shyt (assuming you not trolling)

Just ask her. We grown as hell. Climate change is happening and white folks are going to Mars. The least we can do is be transparent in our relationships

 

[King Karim]

Real shyt (assuming you not trolling)

Just ask her. We grown as hell. Climate change is happening and white folks are going to Mars. The least we can do is be transparent in our relationships

That's real and I'm certainly not trolling at all.

 

[Prince.Skeletor]

OP if she a flight attendant don't take her seriously