another pet peeve over online dating: why some women online say "my kids are my number one priority?"

[PrnzHakeem]

Her priority should finding a solid man to come help her raised them kids.

Shouldn't the father of those kids help her?

 

[Ya' Cousin Cleon]

It's funny bc when a woman is on social media with a kid in the background they say she should be taking care of her kid instead of being on Instagram. Which one is it? Put the kid first or put herself/life first.

Some people let the internet cloud their minds before even experiencing things. They have this picture in their mind that the internet painted when real life doesn't work that way

A person looking for love ain't worth dealing with that kind of individual from the jump, male or female.

Why sweat a goofy

 

[Sex Luthor]

Her priority should finding a solid man to come help her raised them kids.

No bc in my opinion if she's looking for a man, the kids should be straight with or without a man. If her priority is finding a man to raise her kids she should be looking at babysitters

 

[Luke Cage]

Generally if she says "my family is my first priority" means she's loyal and values all her relationship with everyone, kids and you included if the relationship gets to that level.

When she says" My kid's are my first priority" generally means you will always be an outsider in the relationship, and she really just wants an accessory to fufill the duties her kids can't.

basically the difference between her encouraging her kids to treat you with respect as the man of the household and them treating you like a guest in their household.

 

[Matt504]

All I'm hearing is "How am I going to be your child when you already have children"

 

[Wildhundreds]

All I'm hearing is "How am I going to be your child when you already have children"

Basically..

 

[Wildhundreds]

How do people have "pet peeves" concerning instructions? Woman said her kids are a priority, or a man says his job is his priority, then what is the problem?

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Honestly, I be like when I see that too

I’m like no shyt… what that got to do with dating?

To me all that means is I don’t really got time for anything other than work and kids.. which is fine.

Go do that.. nobody trying to stop you from taking care of your kids

Or

You’re dating me and my kid

 

[Deltron]

OP sounds like a fukking retard

 

[M.O.N.E.Y.]

Y'all getting onto OP when he's trying to say its the female version of this:



shyt doesn't need to said lol

 

[StayOffMe]

Idk, but if her kids take precedence in her life, isn’t she telling potential suitors that I don’t really have time for you?

And if that is the case, you wouldn’t be online looking for a man because being a mom is what is most important in your life.

How can your kids and everything that entails be your priority as a single mom, but you have time or the option or the audacity to be looking for a man? Then telling him to not have high expectations because my kids come first. Then why are you even dating.

But perhaps there are men that want that I guess but I can see Op’s point.

 

[Oatmeal]

What if you saw a profile that said "My kids are my SECOND priority"....without any further explanation

 

[Sex Luthor]

Honestly, I be like when I see that too

I’m like no shyt… what that got to do with dating?

To me all that means is I don’t really got time for anything other than work and kids.. which is fine.

Go do that.. nobody trying to stop you from taking care of your kids

Or

You’re dating me and my kid

I mean both things you said is true. There's not really a "or" choice. It's saying "if you're the right person I can fit you into my schedule". Depending on what the man is looking for that might be a good fit.

If a man doesn't like clingy women and don't want kids it's a good fit bc majority of her time will be for her kids. She won't have time to be up under him all day. If he don't want kids he can choose not to intervene with her kids issues. If she can't handle that she shouldn't be dating right now. Every man won't want to be a step dad. Not saying he won't respect and be a positive influence for the kids. Just saying he's not gonna discipline them, babysit or fund their lives. That's a marriage situation. Not dating

 

[Stuntone]

You see all of this confusion, that's why it's best to not have kids out of wedlock.

 

[KBtheKey]

She basically saying she just want some pipe, but letting you know not to expect to hit as often as you would like and you bet not catch feelings. She prolly juggling 2-3 dudes with that intent.

Pretty much placing yourself in a long distance relationship, even if she only a block away