Anybody on child support?

[DaChampIsHere]

It's crazy for me to talk to people about this who don't have kids. You can't be an expert on something you haven't been thru

After the "I'm in control cause the courts can take me to jail " post and now this.

Everyone has been a child at some point in their life and knows the effect of a parent/parents so therefore this is something that everyone can speak on. As a child you know when your parents are wrong/right, or at least you can feel the effects of such.

If you wanna have a jack off session about the ills of child support with only people that agree with you, PM them nikkas your number and start a group chat or some shyt.

 

[Numpsay]

OK let me tell u what the fukk I do. And why I feel the way I feel.

My expenses for MY child.

Haircuts every 2 weeks$20 bucks a month
Doctors visits every other month with copay$35 every 2 months?
School suppliesyou don't have to by school supplies every month, maybe twice a year, with some offset things here and there
Food(weekly)the majority your responsibility
Insurance payments(monthly)what type of insurance
In just 3 weeks my son went from a 12 to 13 in shoeswhich is why buying 3 pairs of Jordans at the same time is asinine for a growing kid
In a months he's grown out of ALL his clothesread above
He needs a new wardrobeas the seasons change so about 4 times a year?
Medications for when/if he gets sickhealthcare coverage
Extra curricular activitiesagreed on half
Camp this summeragreed on half, but summer is once a year
He has a saving accountthat you should be responsible for
He has a college fund that my parents openedyour parents responsibility

Someone plz tell me how a measly $400 in CS covers even half of that.

A child is a monthly bill. No way around it. There's no way you can NOT spend money on/for your child.
Yes my sons father is responsible for half of ALL that.

And he does it with no problems. Why? Cuz he's a father and that's his job.

Thanks for finally making a serious response to this thread. A lot of what you listed was redundant and I removed a few things because you had covered them already.

Look there are months where I spend over $1k on my child on top of my CS payment when she is with me. But on average it wouldn't cost me 1k a month to take care of her either.

 

[MikeBrownsJob]

All the expenses for my kids.

Spoiler

$0

 

[Silver Surfer]

damn this thread did #'s....

 

[SouthernBelle]

Got separated and was giving my ex $1,000 a month for my 2 sons under-the-table (but I was keeping records). After she lost her job the next year, she tried to get Govt assistance. Then the Govt got involved and said I had never paid her for 18 months. (Since we had split up)

*Lawyered up*

Provided my records, didn't have to pay the back child support the Govt wanted. She got denied assistance. Then we went to mediation, and got legally divorced, and I took the same offer Mac Pat got. I pay the boys health insurance ( Ive always had family insurance so nothing changed) and got my support reduced to $670 month, on paper legally.

So her fukkin up and tryna stay home, and live off me and the govt backfired on her ass. I pay ExpertPay, its something you can setup online. It comes right out of my account on my paydays.

I use the extra money that I had for my sons to keep em fresh. Haircuts, clothing etc... so she still doesn't spend the support on that shyt. BUT I have a regimen that she wont follow, and the boys gotta be maintained.
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Really don't mind paying, it's basically rent, utilities and food for my kids.




If you had your kids in marriage and not b*stards, when you divorce, the state does the child-support. You can't just do that bring pampers over and fukk your baby moms bullshyt.

I am happy you didn't get screwed over and was smart enough to keep records. You seem like a good guy.

 

[L. Deezy]

OK let me tell u what the fukk I do. And why I feel the way I feel.

My expenses for MY child.

Haircuts every 2 weeks
Doctors visits every other month with copay
School supplies
Food(weekly)
Insurance payments(monthly)
In just 3 weeks my son went from a 12 to 13 in shoes
In a months he's grown out of ALL his clothes
He needs a new wardrobe
He needs summer clothes
Fall clothes
Winter clothes
Medications for when/if he gets sick
Extra curricular activities
Camp this summer
Karate on the weekend
He has a saving account
He has a college fund that my parents opened

Someone plz tell me how a measly $400 in CS covers even half of that.

A child is a monthly bill. No way around it. There's no way you can NOT spend money on/for your child.
Yes my sons father is responsible for half of ALL that.

And he does it with no problems. Why? Cuz he's a father and that's his job.

yeah, I remember these days. but for 400 a month, he should be at or pretty close to the items you named in a MONTHS time.

You dont need all those seasons of clothes in a month do you?

 

[STAN JONES]

No one is asking about rent, gas or utilities. Yea , the adult is responsible.

Food and everything should be joint imo. Y'all both should make sure the child is well fed and clothed and everything else.

nikkas are trying to set a base number, when there is no base numbers. Kids a re a never ending bill and a spontaneous one at that. Which is why, everything should be split, so neither of your pockets should hurt. They should look equal.

i agree except with the food part

i look at it like this,you already have food in your house so youre basically asking me to give you money so our kid can eat your food shyt is just petty

plus alot of these chicks are already getting WIC and food stamps for the kid so food shouldnt be a part of CS IMO

 

[L. Deezy]

dudes usually go under on daycare/aftercare costs.

 

[Rawtid]

i agree except with the food part

i look at it like this,you already have food in your house so youre basically asking me to give you money so our kid can eat your food shyt is just petty

plus alot of these chicks are already getting WIC and food stamps for the kid so food shouldnt be a part of CS IMO

If a woman can qualify for WIC or Foodstamps, she is broke as fukk and that's another issues altogether. So in that case you shouldn't even be complaining about your money going to household expenses because she clearly doesn't have any money and that you procreated with a broke bytch.

Being financially able to qualify for foodstamps is NOT A GOOD THING. Bragging about getting foodstamps is not a good thing.

 

[Rockstar Mom]

Thanks for finally making a serious response to this thread. A lot of what you listed was redundant and I removed a few things because you had covered them already.

Look there are months where I spend over $1k on my child on top of my CS payment when she is with me. But on average it wouldn't cost me 1k a month to take care of her either.

And u made my point. U should only do the minimum

U shouldnt contribute to his college account? So he shouldn't get up an thank u for shyt when he walks across the stage and gets his diploma right?
His savings?
His health and life insurance?:what
Yes I get supllies every month. They required him to have paper towels, baby wipes, hand Sanitizer, soap, lotion, pencils, notebooks, etc at all times.
Wardrobe? U think a whole wardrobe is $100?
You're not responsible for feeding him?
Transportation cost? Cost money to get him back and forth to school

 

[Atlrocafella]

OK let me tell u what the fukk I do. And why I feel the way I feel.

My expenses for MY child.

Haircuts every 2 weeks
Doctors visits every other month with copay
School supplies
Food(weekly)
Insurance payments(monthly)
In just 3 weeks my son went from a 12 to 13 in shoes
In a months he's grown out of ALL his clothes
He needs a new wardrobe
He needs summer clothes
Fall clothes
Winter clothes
Medications for when/if he gets sick
Extra curricular activities
Camp this summer
Karate on the weekend
He has a saving account
He has a college fund that my parents opened

Someone plz tell me how a measly $400 in CS covers even half of that.

A child is a monthly bill. No way around it. There's no way you can NOT spend money on/for your child.
Yes my sons father is responsible for half of ALL that.

And he does it with no problems. Why? Cuz he's a father and that's his job.

So your kid needs a full new wardrobe every season? Is this little nikka ripping the runway or some shyt?

 

[Numpsay]

And u made my point. U should only do the minimum

U shouldnt contribute to his college account? So he shouldn't get up an thank u for shyt when he walks across the stage and gets his diploma right?
His savings?
His health and life insurance?:what
Yes I get supllies every month. They required him to have paper towels, baby wipes, hand Sanitizer, soap, lotion, pencils, notebooks, etc at all times.
Wardrobe? U think a whole wardrobe is $100?
You're not responsible for feeding him?
Transportation cost? Cost money to get him back and forth to school

And then you fall back on these exaggerations...

I never said he shouldn't contribute to his college account, however he shouldn't be mandated to half to pay half his college account to you.

His saving is what you should work out with the money provided to you.

I assume most men are responsible for all healthcare cost through their job. Are you saying y'all pay aflac or some shyt like that?

Maybe things are different here in Texas but we supply all school supplies at the beginning of the school year.

No, you are responsible for feeding him. When you pull up to Mcdonalds do you make two separate orders. One for yourself using your own money and another order for your kid using money from his dad? Do you cook two separate meals at home? You are the custodial you are responsible for feeding him. You shouldn't need half from his dad for that.

No wardrobe isn't $100 but if you are spending $500 a month on clothes and shoes then maybe you just have a spending problem.

Transportation as well, you are the custodial, your responsiblity.


If your situation was switched I doubt very seriously you would reciprocate what he gives to you and I doubt you would think half of your arguments held any merit.

 

[Rockstar Mom]

So your kid needs a full new wardrobe every season? Is this little nikka ripping the runway or some shyt?

My sons father is 6'5. Unfortuately he's been blessed with his father height.

People don't believe he's only about to be 5. Every time u blink, this nikka grows

Non stop. Just in December, he was wearing a 10. Its February and my mans feet done jumped to a 13.

 

[Rockstar Mom]

And then you fall back on these exaggerations...

I never said he shouldn't contribute to his college account, however he shouldn't be mandated to half to pay half his college account to you.

His saving is what you should work out with the money provided to you.

I assume most men are responsible for all healthcare cost through their job. Are you saying y'all pay aflac or some shyt like that?

Maybe things are different here in Texas but we supply all school supplies at the beginning of the school year.

No, you are responsible for feeding him. When you pull up to Mcdonalds do you make two separate orders. One for yourself using your own money and another order for your kid using money from his dad? Do you cook two separate meals at home? You are the custodial you are responsible for feeding him. You shouldn't need half from his dad for that.

No wardrobe isn't $100 but if you are spending $500 a month on clothes and shoes then maybe you just have a spending problem.

Transportation as well, you are the custodial, your responsiblity.


If your situation was switched I doubt very seriously you would reciprocate what he gives to you and I doubt you would think half of your arguments held any merit.

OK yea you're in Texas boo.

In in NYC. Cost of living and cost period are on another level from u, off top.

And there's a difference between me and u. I would give my son everything and more, no questions asked. If roles were reversed, it will be the same. I wouldn't be on CS, because I would willingly do for my child.

 

[SouthernBelle]

And then you fall back on these exaggerations...

I never said he shouldn't contribute to his college account, however he shouldn't be mandated to half to pay half his college account to you.

His saving is what you should work out with the money provided to you.

I assume most men are responsible for all healthcare cost through their job. Are you saying y'all pay aflac or some shyt like that?

Maybe things are different here in Texas but we supply all school supplies at the beginning of the school year.

No, you are responsible for feeding him. When you pull up to Mcdonalds do you make two separate orders. One for yourself using your own money and another order for your kid using money from his dad? Do you cook two separate meals at home? You are the custodial you are responsible for feeding him. You shouldn't need half from his dad for that.

No wardrobe isn't $100 but if you are spending $500 a month on clothes and shoes then maybe you just have a spending problem.

Transportation as well, you are the custodial, your responsiblity.


If your situation was switched I doubt very seriously you would reciprocate what he gives to you and I doubt you would think half of your arguments held any merit.

I'm not a baby moma and my dad was there, and what you just posted is a bunch of bs. Both parents are equally responsible for food, clothing, and transportation. The mother or father shouldn't have to pay more just because of living arrangements. Wear condoms if you don't want to be responsible.