Deep_Black_Conscious
Superstar
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Being in your 30s with no kids and not being married puts you in a strange place.
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And no disrespect
But yall sound like women the way y'all paint marriage and kids as this blissful destination for every relationship with a woman.
Now, a man wanted to procreate is natural and I'm down for that, too.
But, i cant think that the majority of woman want to be in a traditional marriage institution and this new age feminism idealogy does not work in a marriage.
I hope y'all ain't really depressed over this.
Imagine getting married and it falling apart. Now, you failed at the thing you thought would bring so much happiness.
But yall sound like women the way y'all paint marriage and kids as this blissful destination for every relationship with a woman.
Now, a man wanted to procreate is natural and I'm down for that, too.
But, i cant think that the majority of woman want to be in a traditional marriage institution and this new age feminism idealogy does not work in a marriage.
I hope y'all ain't really depressed over this.
Imagine getting married and it falling apart. Now, you failed at the thing you thought would bring so much happiness.
Mr.Big Meat McGee
All Star
This is not made up at all and when they find out they basically start asking the same question you just did
Women get it the worse! During my 20s I was always told "Don't worry about marriage and kids, you have your whole life for that. Just enjoy yourself and have fun." Now that I'm over 30 everyone is applying pressure. Literally every time I go to the GYN they're asking "Have you started thinking about kids yet? You might need a little help (medication) after 35. I can deliver you a baby up until your around 43".
If you take all that BS into your spirit you'll end up depressed and making bad decisions (settling). That's why I block all that out and stay focused on my goals. WTF I look like letting someone else tell me what I should be doing or making me feel bad about MY life. I feel like in your 20s you should be learning yourself as a person and building your career then enjoying the benefits in your 30s.
Yea women generally have shorter expiration dates. I've seen men who don't have kids till their 40s. It's crazy.
southern.girl
Superstar
That’s why I used the term rare, instead of impossible.
I’ll just say this. The same GMB men complaining about women choosing the top 20% of men, will be the same ones complaining about the same dating hierarchy 10, 15, 20 years later. You either cultivate your positive qualities & realistically choose a complimentary partner or sit on the sidelines depressed about you lack of options.
Deep_Black_Conscious
Superstar
I don't know if I can live like that. I like to do what I want when I want without answering to anyone. A life that is too structured makes me uncomfortable and I like my sleep. I am extremely sensitive to sleep deprivation. Am I being selfish? I don't know and I don't care. Could you imagine living like that? "Honey can I do this?" "Honey can I do that?" like a little bytch.
If I ever get married and have kids I hope that my wife doesn't become some complete bytch after we get married and I'm going to raise my kids to be grateful and decent people and not become annoying whiny ungrateful a$$holes who don't appreciate their parents for shyt (like a lot of young people nowadays).
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Offthegrid
All Star
Offthegrid
All Star
That's my whole point ppl be fronting miserable in private
UpAndComing
Veteran
You don't have to reassure strangers on the internet that you didn't fukk your life up having kids early my dude
Breh
Only thing I've found it brings is jealousy toward me tbh yeah I'm in a "situation" but I dnt gotta do shyt but be black and die while my peers gotta spray cologne after smoking out so they wife aka p.o. don't whoop they head plus the hall passes and other female company....nikka I made it!
Fucc it ima go hard (pause)
Imagine getting some semi decent head early morning splitting ways goin to a job where plenty females need work done on they whip maybe take a 70 minute lunch and fucc around *allegedly* then come back home and either do something solo or take ya main to the upper too rooooom with no ring in sight and no kids knocking on door
What's there to complain about again???
Imagine getting some semi decent head early morning splitting ways goin to a job where plenty females need work done on they whip maybe take a 70 minute lunch and fucc around *allegedly* then come back home and either do something solo or take ya main to the upper too rooooom with no ring in sight and no kids knocking on door
What's there to complain about again???
My first marriage lasted 10 years. It ended due to an affair my wife had with one of her clients.
We eventually settled on joint custody of our children, ages 12 and 8. This arrangement worked great except for ongoing control issues my ex-wife would continually raise.
I remained single for eight years.
My present wife was 15 years younger then me (44 and 29), but she was very mature for her age. Our relationship was electrifying!
She seemed to care for my children, our sex life was amazing, we enjoyed the same music, gardening, etc. We mostly socialized with my friends.
I asked her to move in with my children and me. After several months, she didn’t offer to contribute any money towards the monthly bills or the weekly groceries.
I eventually tried to talk to her about this issue, but she refused to discuss it.
She finally told me it was my issue and she wasn’t changing. If I wasn’t so in love with her, I would’ve ended our relationship, but it was otherwise awesome.
I tried to get her to attend counselling to discuss and understand this issue, but she refused.
In 2004, our first child came and we were very happy. That same year we eloped.
After two more children and 15 years together, nothing has changed.
We both work and my money goes toward all of the monthly bills and any new house purchases for the house.
She pocketed her money. I have no idea how much she has or doesn’t have.
I’ve discovered over the years that she’s kept secrets from me (creditors to whom she owes money).
I feel she should have told me before we were married, but she doesn’t think so.
Over the last five years, she’s started taking out her anger on my adult children (age 32 and 34).
They rarely visit any more but continue to say there’s nothing wrong.
When she and I argue, she claims that those children aren’t biologically mine and I must be blind if I don’t see this!
She’ll say anything to hurt me. Sex is withheld for long periods due to these arguments.
I’ve said I want a divorce but this always ends up with her wanting to make up.
I love her and probably will never love anyone this much again, but I need peace and love in my life now.
This isn’t a healthy home environment for our children, now 10, 12, and 14.
I’d rather be a single father than remain in this toxic relationship, which has been created by me asking her to contribute financially towards the monthly bills.
We eventually settled on joint custody of our children, ages 12 and 8. This arrangement worked great except for ongoing control issues my ex-wife would continually raise.
I remained single for eight years.
My present wife was 15 years younger then me (44 and 29), but she was very mature for her age. Our relationship was electrifying!
She seemed to care for my children, our sex life was amazing, we enjoyed the same music, gardening, etc. We mostly socialized with my friends.
I asked her to move in with my children and me. After several months, she didn’t offer to contribute any money towards the monthly bills or the weekly groceries.
I eventually tried to talk to her about this issue, but she refused to discuss it.
She finally told me it was my issue and she wasn’t changing. If I wasn’t so in love with her, I would’ve ended our relationship, but it was otherwise awesome.
I tried to get her to attend counselling to discuss and understand this issue, but she refused.
In 2004, our first child came and we were very happy. That same year we eloped.
After two more children and 15 years together, nothing has changed.
We both work and my money goes toward all of the monthly bills and any new house purchases for the house.
She pocketed her money. I have no idea how much she has or doesn’t have.
I’ve discovered over the years that she’s kept secrets from me (creditors to whom she owes money).
I feel she should have told me before we were married, but she doesn’t think so.
Over the last five years, she’s started taking out her anger on my adult children (age 32 and 34).
They rarely visit any more but continue to say there’s nothing wrong.
When she and I argue, she claims that those children aren’t biologically mine and I must be blind if I don’t see this!
She’ll say anything to hurt me. Sex is withheld for long periods due to these arguments.
I’ve said I want a divorce but this always ends up with her wanting to make up.
I love her and probably will never love anyone this much again, but I need peace and love in my life now.
This isn’t a healthy home environment for our children, now 10, 12, and 14.
I’d rather be a single father than remain in this toxic relationship, which has been created by me asking her to contribute financially towards the monthly bills.
humminbird
Veteran
International Playa
Playa with a Passport
Thats why I love internet forums, men can come and chop up reality that men in real life wouldnt have the balls to do.
TransJenner
Banned
Woman aren't hell at all
If you wife up a thot maybe
plus nobody puts GOD in there foundation
What happens to a house with a weak foundation
