Besides work and school how do us wack brehs build rapport with interested women?

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You're going to have to plan for the future. The key word is PLAN, to actually enact something , and not just sit there doing the same things and hoping it'll change on its own(it won't).


Start eating natural foods, smaller amounts, running more, body weight exercises here and there. Don't tell me you don't have time to knock off some push ups and sit ups here and there, then you''re just bullshytting yourself.

You probably don't have the creative talent to become a successful entrepreneur or artist or whatever, so you should really focus on your education. Get your bachelors degree in a lucrative field, don't get a degree in social work or some other bullshyt nikkas often get. Then try and go to a good business school or law school or if you can handle the science work, a dental or medical school.

In 8-10 years time you could be entering a high income field, in much better physical shape, and then women will seek you out. When women see you carry yourself confidently, see you're in shape, see you have good career or will have one sometime relatively soon, they go out of their way to put themselves in your sight.

Plan to become a better version of yourself one year from now. Then take a bigger step the next year, then the next.

It sounds easier that what it is, because most people don't have consistency. Most people talk a big game about what they're going to do, then a week later their mind is onto something else, some other bullshyt.

Practice being consistent, try to simplify your life wherever you can, and understand it's a marathon, not a race.

Good luck, but if you're like most people, your mind will be off this and onto some other bullshyt in no time. If that's the case, you'll have to learn to be happy with what you already have.

Might be the realist words I've read on here. Can definitely relate to this cuz I was just discussing this work my boy earlier tonight in a way. It all started when he was telling me how his niece and nephew got presented to God today and I told him I don't really pray. So he got a bit offended and was like so what are you good for. I told him that praying wasn't gonna do anything if you don't take action. Even having a plan don't mean anything either. Thoughts and prayers won't do anything unless you take action. So that's why I feel you on putting action to your plan and lack of consistency. My boy is finally stable with his job and not job hopping but he definitely was on that talking different bullshyt every so often and then not talking any action. That's why when he asked me what my plan was I said, "my plan is my plan". Cuz I'd rather talk results instead of talk bullshyt. So yeah it's definitely a marathon but instead of one long marathon I think it's more like a relay race actually. I say it's like a relay race because you gotta be able to pass the baton to your better self, or if not you can't get to the end of the race.
 
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maaan this ain't gonna work for everybody but I treat females like i treat anyone attractive women don't get no more than a non-attractive woman. i crack jokes and break the ice that way and soon after i'll know if she like the kid or not, if she give me some signals, touching or wanting to be close following me around i know what time it is
 

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Improvement is going to hurt worse than your day to day life right now. Let’s preface what I’m going to say with that.

Now, it seems like you don’t like where you are in life or who you are in life. That’s fine. I’ve been there. So what next?

Stop focusing on what you aren’t and put more focus on what you are. To extend it further, take some deep time to reflect and decide who you want to be. Once you have figured that out, write it down. Then once you have defined the person you want to be, start imagining you are this person—what would that person need to do and think EVERYDAY in order to be that person. Write that down as well. After you do that, you’re going to think about all of the barriers in your way to becoming that person. fukk that kind of thinking. That’s your mind trying to keep you where you’re at because where you’re at, even if you hate it, is always more comfortable than where you want to be. The mind and the body is programmed to make you as comfortable as possible so not changing is what it wants you to do. You have to fight that. So anyway, now that you know who you want to be and what that person does and thinks everyday the next part is simple. Just start doing the things that person you want to be does. In 6 months to 2 years you will wake up one day and realize you’re the person you want to be.

Like I said at the beginning, it’ll be uncomfortable and it’ll hurt and you’ll make mistakes and you’ll feel shame. Accept those feelings and keep going anyway. It’s part of the process. It sucks to not have gotten all this shyt naturally growing up but many of us don’t have that luck. So then we gotta do the hard work of becoming the men we want to be. Good luck!
This some real shyt here. Like u said, life for a lot of us has obstacles, trials and tribulations and u gotta go thru pain, shame, hurt, etc just to get better. We not always dealt with a great hand of cards but we gotta play with what we have and hope we can win.
 

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@Rose Gold

What are your very next steps to fix this shyt?

I mean like in a month type thing.

You gonna go to school?

Look for another job?

Try dating apps?

You gonna hit the gym?

Making beats is cool, but that shyt will take the longest to help u out with your situation.

I ask this because that's the only way you will fix your way of thinking and your situation.

You have to be putting in some type of work somehow and make improvements towards your life.

If you don't do anything you'll still be making threads on here about the shyt.

Imo you should work on what u wanna work on and still holla at chicks regardless to get your game better and to give yourself confidence that you can bag women even when you're in the position you're in now.

Doing that will give you hella confidence.
 

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@Rose Gold

What are your very next steps to fix this shyt?

I mean like in a month type thing.

You gonna go to school?

Look for another job?

Try dating apps?

You gonna hit the gym?

Making beats is cool, but that shyt will take the longest to help u out with your situation.

I ask this because that's the only way you will fix your way of thinking and your situation.

You have to be putting in some type of work somehow and make improvements towards your life.

If you don't do anything you'll still be making threads on here about the shyt.

Imo you should work on what u wanna work on and still holla at chicks regardless to get your game better and to give yourself confidence that you can bag women even when you're in the position you're in now.

Doing that will give you hella confidence.
I'm going to study for the A+ cert.
Start doing basic bodyweight exercises.
I'm not really in position to look for a new job unfortunately because I need to take my dad to physical therapy and etc like every other day. I don't see any factory job that is second shift. Everything is 1st or 3rd.

I do want to go back to school and use the free tutoring/help. Not because the work is hard but to help me make a habit of doing it on time. I'm a damn procrastinator.

shyt is easy but my discipline is trash.
 

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OP I'm in the same boat. Shid I ain't even working around young women. It's a small office with 6 people and everybody besides me is over 40. No friends either

These hoes ain’t special listen to some Chief Keef

Incel School shooter / #Metoo 35 years late shyt:camby:
 

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-I'm not getting semi rich anytime soon.
(Not to trick but nice clothes and car would def help my confidence with hotter women)
-Its going to take long time for me to look lean, so don't just say gym. Plus I'm too busy with some family shyt.
-I have "friends" but not a social circle

My shytty job working with mainly teens is driving me crazy. I'm cool with the girls but I have to constantly remind myself their teens.
I look like a teen myself so I have had a few flirt with me.

When I say I'm wack is because I live at home, drive a bucket, don't have a social circle, and despite having fukked a few girls my age (early 20s).
I still don't have the level of confidence I'd like with women.

Due to being introverted, not nurturing well the social circle I could have had in highschool, not going straight to university due to not so good grades and skipping SATs. I was too worried I'd get no ladies in college.

In highschool I was a class clown virgin with no car, no smartphone. I rode with my a$$hole cousins who had more bread to school. A breh had to use Facebook chat to satisfy my hunger by flirting with bytches.

I ain't trying to show the shytty flip phone burner I had to girls. I did do self sabotage cause it would be better than being crushed by getting drop when I can't get to them. I got my first smartphone and piece of p*ssy after highschool.


I need a gimmick that will give me social media presence. I'm thinking of making beats.

I know I have kind of rehashed this thread with new information about me. Since doing no fap and porn for quite some time. I need a lady.
Try CBT breh
Get a workbook on amazon, it's like $10 bucks
Itll help you change your thought patterns into more positive ones conducive to reaching your goals

A lot of times women are already choosing you but you get in your own way. For example if I pass a girl on the street and she stares at me a negative person would think there's something on my face or I can't talk to her because that's too scary. A person with more positive inner thoughts would think she is looking at me because she is interested, I should strike up a conversation and see if she wants to go out with me.

The world is how you view things.
 
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OP I'm in the same boat. Shid I ain't even working around young women. It's a small office with 6 people and everybody besides me is over 40. No friends either



Incel School shooter / #Metoo 35 years late shyt:camby:
Damn breh. I didn't even respond to that stupid post. Reckless millionaire from chiraq isn't influencing nor motivating me in any way lol.
 

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THIS..

I was once there @Rose Gold

You want easy answers but all the answers you seek will involve putting in work.
Yeah, you're right. I need to figure out what exactly what I want to do as a career for my life. @Balla I think I may have ADHD. Since highschool I have struggled not to act a fool in class. @6:29-6:54 is why I think I made this thread.
 

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Try CBT breh
Get a workbook on amazon, it's like $10 bucks
Itll help you change your thought patterns into more positive ones conducive to reaching your goals

A lot of times women are already choosing you but you get in your own way. For example if I pass a girl on the street and she stares at me a negative person would think there's something on my face or I can't talk to her because that's too scary. A person with more positive inner thoughts would think she is looking at me because she is interested, I should strike up a conversation and see if she wants to go out with me.

The world is how you view things.
Can you link it breh
 

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:stopitslime: why are you trying to meet women outside work and school?

If you're in college you will NEVER and I repeat NEVER meet as many relaxed go with the flow thots or wifey material. College :ohlawd:

So that should be your number 1 place to scope out girls. Work you can hit them too.

but when you're getting outside of your social circle looking to date, best believe if you don't turn into a savage you will get ate by these heartless hoes. Cause they don't have anything to lose, you don't have mutual friends and they don't need to invest shut in you.

Women who don't date within their social circles tend to be women who have crazy pasts and accept anyone to date for the purpose of dating. 9/10 these types of women are not the ones you want to get serious with.

It really depends on what your looking for.:yeshrug:

If I'm looking for wifey my social circle is definitely it be it church, mutual friends with, work or whatever.

If I'm looking to smash dating appa, random club joints, ig snapchat, randoms on the streets etc. When you start using dating apps a lot of these women have been with MULTIPLE men or dates, so it's nothing for them to ghost you.
 
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