Brehs and Brehettes: How do you deal with rejection?

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Virgo??

Scorpio

 

[Princess Coco]

the hypocrite detective

 

[Diyhai]

The way people deal with rejection is based off the perception in their mind.
You like somebody(crush) and build up all these fantasy traits and ideals of said person(expectations) not truly knowing the person behind the facade which leads to the downward spiral(so to speak).
So next time just treat them as human and not some god/goddess.
True rejection is when you knew somebody on an intimate level and they rejected your whole being.
Some random or friendly crush ain't worth the tears or hurt

u not accepting the truth
the person saw you as not even worthy enough of you to get to the point of what u call "true rejection"
u tryna rationalize a lie to avoid that rejection

 

[badtguy]

Never really got rejected I usually only go after joints who give me a clear sign.... while I've been approached by some wilder beast. For the most part I've had pretty much had good experience with beautiful women who actually wanted me more than I did them

 

[EndDomination]

Get obsessively involved in something else constructive and time-consuming.
I got back into reading, playing chess, and learning how to code.
In the few weeks it took me to recover, I got the hang of HTML, and had played 14 or 15 full games of chess (usually a several hours long).
Trust me, forcing yourself into finding something to take you mind off will work out in the end.

But the "don't get too invested" line is important too, I'd avoid romantic moves with anyone you're close with, keep them at arms length so it hurts less.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Best way to win the game....is to stop playing.
If females don't approach me, I don't worry about them.
But I'm married so...

 

[VFib]

Don't take rejection personally. I know it's easier said than done. There's nothing wrong with you just because you aren't the right person for someone. This doesn't equate to you not being the right person for everyone. This person rejecting you may lead to you ending up with someone meant for you.

 

[Barnett114]

She's a bedwench, shes does not get rejected because she goes after white men with negro women fantasies. Those men would not turn down Gabby Sidibe.

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

u not accepting the truth
the person saw you as not even worthy enough of you to get to the point of what u call "true rejection"
u tryna rationalize a lie to avoid that rejection

Noble try but nah...
It's no such thing as worthy of affection or love.
If you have that mindset, you already loss and not even playing the game right.
Most(if not all) people only suffer from surface level rejection(wrong color, speech, dress,etc..
So that's child's play considering when you are beyond all the facades, honeymoons and antics.
When you are really into someone, spent time, secrets, effort into friendship/lovers and they just shyt on you, things have run its course or simply moved on, that's rejection I can understand..
But everybodies definition is different so

 

[Neuromancer]

I remember there are always more women than men in the world and that I should go find one that likes me.

 

[Anti-Anime]

Meditate meditate meditate meditate. Prescription drugs won't get you high as this

 

[ZEB WALTON]

"fukk that bytch"

 

[Rarebird77]

I was recently rejected by someone I really liked. I've been on downward spiral and felt like shyt since then. What do y'all do to stay happy after being rejected?

Train yourself to reciprocate energy and not send energy to anything not coming back to you in kind.

So every time you find yourself thinking of him, stop and think to yourself "is he thinking about me right now?".

Why would you want to be thinking of anyone who is busy living their life and doesn't think about you for even a millisecond?

He don't care so you shouldn't care either.

Refocus your energy on what is sending you the energy you want. Reject the attention you're not interested in but learn how to hone in on and identify what you want and what wants you.

Basically ... move on with your life and go out there and live your life.

 

[Diyhai]

Noble try but nah...
It's no such thing as worthy of affection or love.
If you have that mindset, you already loss and not even playing the game right.
Most(if not all) people only suffer from surface level rejection(wrong color, speech, dress,etc..
So that's child's play considering when you are beyond all the facades, honeymoons and antics.
When you are really into someone, spent time, secrets, effort into friendship/lovers and they just shyt on you, things have run its course or simply moved on, that's rejection I can understand..
But everybodies definition is different so

worth is in the eye of the person
hence "one mans trash is another........."
Its about self esteem
the person whose opinion of you who should matter the most should be your own
investment of time can be a factor but can also lead to sunk cost fallacy
attraction is not a choice imo
you just have to be aware of what you can control and cannot
serenity prayer type shyt

 

[H@LLOW]

Jerk off to porn for like 2 days and get over it.