Brehs and Brehettes: How do you deal with rejection?

[Ronnie Macho]

I smoke a j and make music...

www.kavinthe1.com

 

[Phoenix_Knightly23]

The way people deal with rejection is based off the perception in their mind.
You like somebody(crush) and build up all these fantasy traits and ideals of said person(expectations) not truly knowing the person behind the facade which leads to the downward spiral(so to speak).
So next time just treat them as human and not some god/goddess.
True rejection is when you knew somebody on an intimate level and they rejected your whole being.
Some random or friendly crush ain't worth the tears or hurt

This

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

another brehette here to brag about not getting rejected
Must be nice lol

I kid. It was just a joke hun bun. I deal with rejection by having a life and not putting too much energy into one person. My hurt feelings rarely last more than a few hours then I'm back to normal. People have accused me of being uncaring. I just process sadness/hurt feelings faster than most and don't wallow in sadness. I do it by logically talking myself through my feelings. Don't let the "feelings" control you. Feelings are just chemical responses. Part of making an ascension into a great state of being is learning that you are greater than your urges. Discipline is everything and that includes disciplining your feelings.

 

[CinnamonTequila]

MUSIC

I usually turn on VERY LOUD MUSIC and sing, dance, shake it off :::

It works for me...

 

[CinnamonTequila]

I kid. It was just a joke hun bun. I deal with rejection by having a life and not putting too much energy into one person. My hurt feelings rarely last more than a few hours then I'm back to normal. People have accused me of being uncaring. I just process sadness/hurt feelings faster than most and don't wallow in sadness. I do it by logically talking myself through my feelings. Don't let the "feelings" control you. Feelings are just chemical responses. Part of making an ascension into a great state of being is learning that you are greater than your urges. Discipline is everything and that includes disciplining your feelings.

Where can I learn to do this??

 

[The Mad Titan]

I kid. It was just a joke hun bun. I deal with rejection by having a life and not putting too much energy into one person. My hurt feelings rarely last more than a few hours then I'm back to normal. People have accused me of being uncaring. I just process sadness/hurt feelings faster than most and don't wallow in sadness. I do it by logically talking myself through my feelings. Don't let the "feelings" control you. Feelings are just chemical responses. Part of making an ascension into a great state of being is learning that you are greater than your urges. Discipline is everything and that includes disciplining your feelings.

So manish

lol



But seriously, you know you can pull men, its totally different if you feel your unattractive or lack confidence. This good advice for those that are some what confident tho

Once you know you can do something and how to handle it you can progress to this point.


but for those that feel like the might not have much going for them getting rejected is gonna hurt a whole hella of alot worse than for people like me and you.

 

[Prince Mongo]

So you agree, you should kill yourself for being so emotionally fragile?

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Where can I learn to do this??

You just have to keep in mind that your feelings and what is going on don't necessarily coincide. For example, yesterday I finally put out my shytty roommate. One part of me (my feelings) thought, I feel so bad putting this person out on the street. But then the logical part of me was like and went through all the horrible shyt this person has done and was like "fukk um". I went with logic and this morning I felt good as hell as I was changing the locks.

ALWAYS ALWAYS go with logic. Never go with your feelings. We're women. You know your feelings change in a heart beat. Don't ever rely on them. After a while it's second nature.

 

[SheWantTheD]

If I don't know the chick then it's "whateva" and I keep it moving.

Now if I put time, energy and money into the chick.. developed feelings and she throws me in the friend zone or curves me than ima get pissed.

Not gonna beg anyone to want me though so

 

[2manyFCKNrappers]

it wasn't meant to be. life has a natural filter.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

So manish

lol



But seriously, you know you can pull men, its totally different if you feel your unattractive or lack confidence. This good advice for those that are some what confident tho

Once you know you can do something and how to handle it you can progress to this point.


but for those that feel like the might not have much going for them getting rejected is gonna hurt a whole hella of alot worse than for people like me and you.

Well it didn't happen overnight. You have to fake it until you make it. My confidence about men didn't come until I felt better inside. I don't have confidence b/c I look good. I have confidence b/c I like the person that I am, appreciate myself and I enjoy time by myself. The looks help the perceptions others have of me and get me attention but my perception of myself determines how I interact/respond to those people.

 

[全能の神]

So you agree, you should kill yourself for being so emotionally fragile?

I've definitely seen therapists before because my life isn't ANYWHERE near perfect.

I'll continue to seek therapy

 

[The Mad Titan]

Well it didn't happen overnight. You have to fake it until you make it. My confidence about men didn't come until I felt better inside. I don't have confidence b/c I look good. I have confidence b/c I like the person that I am, appreciate myself and I enjoy time by myself. The looks help the perceptions others have of me and get me attention but my perception of myself determines how I interact/respond to those people.

Right, I understand. I guess what I'm getting at is that having the confidence just to say "I look good" and know that you can snag another guy or girl at any given point goes a long way in helping you deal with rejection as opposed to not having that kind confidence. I dont think OP is at that stage yet, you dropping advance tactics on em.


Being confidence in just the person you are and what you offer is a huge WIN that most people struggle with tho.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Right, I understand. I guess what I'm getting at is that having the confidence just to say "I look good" and know that you can snag another guy or girl at any given point goes a long way in helping you deal with rejection as opposed to not having that kind confidence. I dont think OP is at that stage yet, you dropping advance tactics on em.


Being confidence in just the person you are and what you offer is a huge WIN that most people struggle with tho.

I agree with that. You're right, there are levels and being attractive is definitely a big confidence booster. But being attractive is not the end all. There are a ton of attractive people with low confidence which often includes their looks.

You can't let what the outside world thinks of you affect whether achieve happiness. Ugly people get laid everyday so OP (I don't think she's ugly) either got to play at her level or tighten up.

I think the best place to start is within and once you get a logically grasp on yourself you can then go in to determine what should be adjusted.

 

[calixprynce]

I kid. It was just a joke hun bun. I deal with rejection by having a life and not putting too much energy into one person. My hurt feelings rarely last more than a few hours then I'm back to normal. People have accused me of being uncaring. I just process sadness/hurt feelings faster than most and don't wallow in sadness. I do it by logically talking myself through my feelings. Don't let the "feelings" control you. Feelings are just chemical responses. Part of making an ascension into a great state of being is learning that you are greater than your urges. Discipline is everything and that includes disciplining your feelings.

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