Cold approaching women: the right mindset and some advice

[1-8-7-Skillz]

Maybe I'm in my head too much ? If so let me know.

This.

Just dont be on no R. Kelly shyt

 

[Balla]

Lol never, but it's still weird to me to approach a girl who could be 18 and I'm in my mid 20s.

I'm going for bytches that look grown, but u never know.

This.

Just dont be on no R. Kelly shyt

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

I'm saying if u see a chic and u feeling her, talk to her man! And as long as she's over 18, u good. And if u see an older woman tslk to her! Talk to who u wanna talk to

This.

@1-8-7-Skillz

Breh I was out and about last night and got some thing to report from my cold approaching chronicles.

Is this the thread for that?

Indeed it is
The more people participating, the better

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

I'm telling my story here to let brehs know that u HAVE TO APPROACH. Be MEN. stop being betas. Sometimes u win, sometimes u lose. I get rejected sometimes and then sometimes I don't. but won't nothing happen if I don't make a move.

This is the essence of this whole thing and the more people in this thread getting it & actually doing it.

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

Getting back on this tomorrow and delivering something, finally back home & got more time now

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

Bout to type something afterwards, just finished my leg day

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

So before I give my thoughts for today, Ill say something regarding the future of this thread:

Im gonna post little thinkpieces about aspects regarding this topic that I come across/think of & of course also stuff y‘all think about regarding this whole thing. Im also gonna share „field reports“ (I dont wanna get put into the whole „pick-up“ thing too much but thats the most accurate name for it in my opinion) but those are the most time consuming parts to write down & im a lazy & flabby poster but ill give my best .
From time to time I think im gonna edit the opening post and structure my thoughts into different aspects (as soon as I figure out how to split it best).

But anyway....



The point to get started:

I‘ll start off the new year in this thread posting wise with the most obvious, simple but also the maybe most important step of this whole ordeal: Actually getting started. More specifically getting started & continuing to do it.

In my opinion when it comes to this topic, a man can only take so much. If you dont have the women you want/any women in your life and you cant actually get them to come into your life it takes a toll on your wellbeing. I know this from first hand experience. You can ignore it for a while. You can find little excuses here & there. You will tell yourself stuff like „Its such a busy time in my life right now, no wonder theres nothing going on with women. Well, after that time is over Im sure the problem is gonna handle itself.“ Or „Im just never seeing the „one“ or the „right women“, thats not my fault“. Or „Ill take care of all the other stuff in my lfe first, and afterwards women wont be a problem anymore and Ill really start being successful there as well“

This is Bullshyt. Its the same with people who complain about not going to the gym because they seemingly cant even spare as little as 30-60 minutes a day to do something for themselves but got PLENTY of time to sit on the couch, watch netflix & Watch life pass them by EVERY SINGLE DAY.

But in my experience when it comes to the part with women or more accurately the lack of said women in your life you will reach a boiling point. Some sooner, some later. Its the point where the thoughts of „I shouldve said something to this beautiful lady in the grocery store, why didnt I do anything ?!?!“
or „I wonder if the girl I seen on the bus stop wouldve maybe also been interested in me“ become unbearable. You feel powerless. Like a p*ssy. You look at yourself in disgust, wondering why the fukk something as seemingly simple as talking to a Woman you dont know yet makes you so scared. You question yourself, your character, your courage. You cant understand why you are seemingly stuck in your situation, standing in front of a giant wall you cant seem to overcome. Thats where your journey into a better self has to begin. You have to hate yourself and your current situation before you make that move and change it. Because you will realize that not doing it and continuing to hate yourself more & morr with each missed chance & opportunity is infinitely worse than anything that could ever happen if you tried & failed a couple times.




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[Solano707]

so last night... out and about. feeling fresh. Been on my purpose lately, ya dig. working out, all that jazz.

so I'm feeling pretty confident and good about things. Me and my bro pulled up to a gas station. So as Im' about to walk in, I look at the door and there's a sign that says "no hoodies, no hats, you will not be served"

I'm not wearing a hat or a hoodie but I found the sign kinda funny. so I go in, I see ole girl behind the counter out the side of my eye but I play like I don't see her, and beeline straight to the beverages. grab my powerade, come up to the counter and I got the feeling she was diggin me. I've always been perceptive enough to know (for the most part) when a chic is feeling me. There have been times when I've been completely oblivious but I can usually just instinctively pick it up in their body language. Kinda hard to explain but it's instinct at this point

so anyway, I walk up to the counter and ole girl looks like a 7 in gas station clothes. she could be higher than that if I saw her in some other clothes, I don't know. But anyway, when I walk up, I'm like "so if I had on a hoodie, you wouldnt serve me?" with a smile

she's like, "well... technically we're not supposed to but I would've served u, u look harmless." with a



now SIDENOTE: before the brehs come and clown... that was an obvious setup for more convo. she called me "harmless" meaning I look like a dude that she know wouldn't be a crazy criminal or stalker



back to the story. so I play along. Im like, "harmless?

she's like "no I didn't mean anything bad about it."

so we chat up a lil bit, I ask how long she's been working there, she tells me. I ask her does she like it so far. she's like it's okay. I ask why just ok? she says cause she's working at a gas station and it's not her dream job. then this opens the door for more convo. I ask what her dream job is, she tells me, we find out we got the same interests.

now one thing I will say is that at some point, I got out of my "masculine frame" as AMS calls it. A better way of saying is, I did lose my composure for a sec. I'm not gonna tell y'all what I did so y'all can clown me but I came back with a save. wound up asking for her # and she wrote it down on a piece of paper for me.



even though I almost messed that one all the way up, I still felt like wetting my feet a lil bit more. went to Wally world. now here's the thing about this next chic. She wasn't beautiful or fine. In fact, she was barely average.

HOWEVER.... Imma tell yall like I told my bro. I do this stuff for practice. all women are the same. some are skinny, some are fat, some are shaped like coke bottles, some are shaped like fridges but women are all the same.

sometimes I get an average chic's # just to practice improving my mouthpiece a lil bit more

so anyway, the next one was a Wally world cashier and we chatted up a lil bit about how she hates dealing with ppl. Im like, "how u a cashier but u hate dealing with folks?"

she goes "nooo I'm talking about the managers and ppl I work with. but this is a temporary job anyway while I'm in school"

so I basically use the same tactic I used on the other chic. asked what she would rather be doing, she tells me and I tell her I need to get her # so we can talk more about that. She gives it to me and wham bam, i'm out



now one thing I noticed and u will notice is that one of these chics looked better than the other. I almost messed up with the 1st one cause for some reason I got in my own head in the middle of the convo. But with the 2nd one that didn't look as good as the 1st, I was all the way on top of my game.

my point is... treat all of them the same. Even though I got the 1st chics #, that really could have went another way. I'm supposed to be on my game when dealing with ANY female, regardless of how she looks.

but even playas slip sometimes. we get back up tho






so the last story is... I headed over to the movies to see what was playing. as I'm about to go in, this chic with a 10/10 body, slim waist, phat @$$.... beautiful frame was walking in.

now here's the kicker. She was walking in with some cac that no lie, looked like Shaggy from Scooby Doo if he grew a beard. it was absolutely disgusting. and then the whole time they're walking in, I'm behind them, and this cac is walking with his hand palming that @$$ the whole time.



sidenote: While y'all brehs on here scared to approach women, there's cacs that's skimming the cream of the crop outchea y'all better get it togethr.


anyway back to the story. so keep in mind, I'm walking behind them. I got my eyes on that @$$ cause it was beautiful. I was a turned off by the fact that a cac had his hands all over it, but it was still beautiful

so as we're standing in line, one of the chics that works at the theater walks past. And she's walking past and she's STARING at this girl's ass like


so I'm watching her the whole time and then she finally looks up at me like cause she realizes that she was caught and that I saw what she was doing.

so I'm cool. I basically like, "I understand... it DO look good" and we both share a laugh as she walks past me

so after the interracial couple leaves, I walk up to the counter and u know I gotta clown the girl

so I'm like, "did you like what you saw?"


she starts laughing and says, "we was both looking at the same thing huh?"

I said, "yeah but did u like what u saw?"

she's like "yes, I did."



now SIDENOTE: The girl that worked at the theater was just average BUT I wanted to get her # just in case ya boi ever set up a 3some and need a chic on deck


so back to the story

so after she's like, "yes I did"

her coworkers start gathering around cause they see me and her talking and they hear what we're saying but they don't know what we're talking about

so after she realizes that our convo is getting some attention, she's like "I'm just playin"

(guess she thought I was gonna goof up and out her to her coworkers or something)

so I'm like, "U wasn't playin"

but at this time her coworkers were literally breathing down our necks so she changed the topic to something else




I wasn't able to get her # right then cause I could tell she was getting uncomfortable. But she's on my radar. Next time I go back, Imma try and pull her









so. I'm telling my story here to let brehs know that u HAVE TO APPROACH. Be MEN. stop being betas. Sometimes u win, sometimes u lose. I get rejected sometimes and then sometimes I don't. but won't nothing happen if I don't make a move.

Hold this rep breh

 

[Balla]

U got any tips to not be hard on yourself for not doing it for many years?

I get so mad I didn't do this years ago because I would have been a beast.

I'm only talking about approaching in the day time, that's the only thing I could never do.

To me it feels like I'm giving up all my power because she can say no to a nikka tryna holla. Plus to me it feels like more effort too because she's most likely doing something.

Anyway, I've come to realize I need to do this so is there any way to not feel bad for waiting so long?

So before I give my thoughts for today, Ill say something regarding the future of this thread:

Im gonna post little thinkpieces about aspects regarding this topic that I come across/think of & of course also stuff y‘all think about regarding this whole thing. Im also gonna share „field reports“ (I dont wanna get put into the whole „pick-up“ thing too much but thats the most accurate name for it in my opinion) but those are the most time consuming parts to write down & im a lazy & flabby poster but ill give my best .
From time to time I think im gonna edit the opening post and structure my thoughts into different aspects (as soon as I figure out how to split it best).

But anyway....



The point to get started:

I‘ll start off the new year in this thread posting wise with the most obvious, simple but also the maybe most important step of this whole ordeal: Actually getting started. More specifically getting started & continuing to do it.

In my opinion when it comes to this topic, a man can only take so much. If you dont have the women you want/any women in your life and you cant actually get them to come into your life it takes a toll on your wellbeing. I know this from first hand experience. You can ignore it for a while. You can find little excuses here & there. You will tell yourself stuff like „Its such a busy time in my life right now, no wonder theres nothing going on with women. Well, after that time is over Im sure the problem is gonna handle itself.“ Or „Im just never seeing the „one“ or the „right women“, thats not my fault“. Or „Ill take care of all the other stuff in my lfe first, and afterwards women wont be a problem anymore and Ill really start being successful there as well“

This is Bullshyt. Its the same with people who complain about not going to the gym because they seemingly cant even spare as little as 30-60 minutes a day to do something for themselves but got PLENTY of time to sit on the couch, watch netflix & Watch life pass them by EVERY SINGLE DAY.

But in my experience when it comes to the part with women or more accurately the lack of said women in your life you will reach a boiling point. Some sooner, some later. Its the point where the thoughts of „I shouldve said something to this beautiful lady in the grocery store, why didnt I do anything ?!?!“
or „I wonder if the girl I seen on the bus stop wouldve maybe also been interested in me“ become unbearable. You feel powerless. Like a p*ssy. You look at yourself in disgust, wondering why the fukk something as seemingly simple as talking to a Woman you dont know yet makes you so scared. You question yourself, your character, your courage. You cant understand why you are seemingly stuck in your situation, standing in front of a giant wall you cant seem to overcome. Thats where your journey into a better self has to begin. You have to hate yourself and your current situation before you make that move and change it. Because you will realize that not doing it and continuing to hate yourself more & morr with each missed chance & opportunity is infinitely worse than anything that could ever happen if you tried & failed a couple times.




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[1-8-7-Skillz]

U got any tips to not be hard on yourself for not doing it for many years?

I get so mad I didn't do this years ago because I would have been a beast.

I'm only talking about approaching in the day time, that's the only thing I could never do.

To me it feels like I'm giving up all my power because she can say no to a nikka tryna holla. Plus to me it feels like more effort too because she's most likely doing something.

Anyway, I've come to realize I need to do this so is there any way to not feel bad for waiting so long?

Theres no reason to live in the past and mourn over missed chances, its not productive and will get you nowhere. Just remember that every time thoughts like this pop up in your head.

As for the part with the giving up power thing:

You have to increase your self confidence, if you are afraid of giving her the power over you it means you try to generate your confidence & „worth“ over a strangers reaction. It has to come from within, thats also why the people who are really successfully approaching women on the regular do it so easily. They just know it doesnt matter if you miss one shot and aren’t afraid of a potentially negative reaction and dont let that influence their self confidence.

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

So my plan on posting is now to do those field reports on monday, Wednesday and friday since thats probably the most helpful stuff to read up on, because it gives input, exact examples and if more people chime in it also creates a certain dynamic here.

I also got sonething planned where Ill give my opinion about the perception of women/mens attitude towards them. Think thats gonna drop thursday.

What y‘all think ?


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@Dreamzeedream
@GrindMode
@LiveFromLondon
@Rose Gold
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[Rozay Oro]

So my plan on posting is now to do those field reports on monday, Wednesday and friday since thats probably the most helpful stuff to read up on, because it gives input, exact examples and if more people chime in it also creates a certain dynamic here.

I also got sonething planned where Ill give my opinion about the perception of women/mens attitude towards them. Think thats gonna drop thursday.

What y‘all think ?


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@Dreamzeedream
@GrindMode
@LiveFromLondon
@Rose Gold
@G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman

Do it breh