Cold approaching women: the right mindset and some advice

1-8-7-Skillz

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Yeah that was me I got two challenges I got the Novice/Baby Steps one where the brehs approach maximum 5 chicks, though bearing in mind each poster must successfully get 5 Numbers under 30 Minutes and then there is the Pro/Experienced challenge where each poster must approach 10 chicks within 45 minutes, though they must get 10 numbers to beat the challenge. The challenges can be done any day of the week till next Wednesday(17th Apr 2019) also all posters should take brief notes of how their approach went on the day sharing your exprience by posting them here. Lastly posters can share recjection exprences if they want to.

Skillz Add some ideas if you want to.


Yeah I think a cool thing about those challenges is that in this thread theres a certain dynamic if enough people participate, so it could be a good motivation ,and helpful to hear from more experienced people on the subject & how they do it, for people just starting out.

Should we change the challenges like every week ?
Special challenges ?
Multiple difficulty levels for all of them ? :patrice:

Sharing the experience is also always helpful, people just starting out often make little mistake that can negatively impact their outcome so its always good to hear what you did wrong from others with more experience on the subject.

Same goes for going on dates afterwards and the outcome of said dates.

Im down for whatever and doing my thing anyway so what the other brehs sayin ?
 

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Yeah I think a cool thing about those challenges is that in this thread theres a certain dynamic if enough people participate, so it could be a good motivation ,and helpful to hear from more experienced people on the subject & how they do it, for people just starting out.

Should we change the challenges like every week ?
Special challenges ?
Multiple difficulty levels for all of them ?
:patrice:

Sharing the experience is also always helpful, people just starting out often make little mistake that can negatively impact their outcome so its always good to hear what you did wrong from others with more experience on the subject.

Same goes for going on dates afterwards and the outcome of said dates.

Im down for whatever and doing my thing anyway so what the other brehs sayin ?

Hmmm.....:patrice:? Never thought about changing the challenges every week, special challenges or having multiple difficulty levels for them. LOL I never thought where else I could go with the challenges, it was more of a fun one-time thing. I literally had a random brown study and this challenge came to mind with the intentions of motivating and getting the brothers out of their comfort zone as I realised simply liking posts won't help, but actually challenging themselves will force them to find a way to approach a chick as there isn't an instruction manual for approaching.

By next Wednesday after the challenge, I'll see what other challenges can be made including a special one and I will see if I can include more than 2 difficulty levels. If you can I'd like you to chime in on different challenges, special ones and the difficulty levels.
 
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I don't know if I support the "challenge" aspect of it. Some brehs is just now getting the courage to talk to women and I think it will put them under a lot of pressure to make it a challenge so soon

I like the way the thread is now, where we just encourage brehs to do good and make things happen without any type of pressure, just stories and encouragement
The challenges aren't compulsory, there is no pressure, this is intended for those who are willing to challenge themselves and get out of their comfort zone.
 

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Hmmm.....:patrice:? Never thought about changing the challenges every week, special challenges or having multiple difficulty levels for them. LOL I never thought where else I could go with the challenges, it was more of a fun one-time thing. I literally had a random brown study and this challenge came to mind with the intentions of motivating and getting the brothers out of their comfort zone as I realised simply liking posts won't help, but actually challenging themselves will force them to find a way to approach a chick as there isn't an instruction manual for approaching.

By next Wednesday after the challenge, I'll see what other challenges can be made including a special one and I will see if I can include more than 2 difficulty levels. If you can I'd like you to chime in on different challenges, special ones and the difficulty levels.

Yeah we need to get this going properly
 

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But how can anyone be sure to get a number from any girl?? Isn’t that mostly up to the girl?

I think it should just be to approach a certain number of girls for novice, then step it up to ask 5 girls for their number in 30 min.

How many days do these challenges have to be done? Is it just once a week?

Does it matter where it needs to be done?

I’m down for this shyt!!



Yeah that was me I got two challenges I got the Novice/Baby Steps one where the brehs approach maximum 5 chicks, though bearing in mind each poster must successfully get 5 Numbers under 30 Minutes and then there is the Pro/Experienced challenge where each poster must approach 10 chicks within 45 minutes, though they must get 10 numbers to beat the challenge. The challenges can be done any day of the week till next Wednesday(17th Apr 2019) also all posters should take brief notes of how their approach went on the day sharing your exprience by posting them here. Lastly posters can share recjection exprences if they want to.

Skillz Add some ideas if you want to.


You guys up for a challenge?
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But how can anyone be sure to get a number from any girl?? Isn’t that mostly up to the girl?

I think it should just be to approach a certain number of girls for novice, then step it up to ask 5 girls for their number in 30 min.

How many days do these challenges have to be done? Is it just once a week?

Does it matter where it needs to be done?

I’m down for this shyt!!

1. I don't quite understand what you mean? Indeed it's up to the girl, If you don't get the number from the girl simply move on to another.

2. OK

3. The challenge runs for 7 days.. I'm still figuring whether there should be challenges every week.

4. The aim is to approach women that you don't know from Adam. Pretty much it can be done anywhere, from Parks, Malls, Downtown/City Centre, College's, Bar, events and etc. Note: If you are downtown, at the mall or a college campus you should rotate and walk around different spots avoiding staying the in the same area.
 

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1. I don't quite understand what you mean? Indeed it's up to the girl, If you don't get the number from the girl simply move on to another.

2. OK

3. The challenge runs for 7 days.. I'm still figuring whether there should be challenges every week.

4. The aim is to approach women that you don't know from Adam. Pretty much it can be done anywhere, from Parks, Malls, Downtown/City Centre, College's, Bar, events and etc. Note: If you are downtown, at the mall or a college campus you should rotate and walk around different spots avoiding staying the in the same area.

I was saying that is it fair to say you have to get 5 numbers in 30 minutes to complete the challenge??

What if you don’t get any numbers at all?

Unless I read it wrong?

shyt I gotta get a girls everyday ?? Lol I’m tryna figure out if I can.
 

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I was saying that is it fair to say you have to get 5 numbers in 30 minutes to complete the challenge??

What if you don’t get any numbers at all?

Unless I read it wrong?

shyt I gotta get a girls everyday ?? Lol I’m tryna figure out if I can.


Id say the first step for everyone who isnt already „in the game“ should be to gain momentum. From my experience it gets so much easier after you got the first few approaches in, get the first dates etc etc. If you let too much time pass between the approaches it will get harder again. Once you‘re in you just gotta keep doing it. So just approaching x amount of women is already a challenge & also the first step for pretty much any beginner. The great thing is how much easier it gets as time goes by. Its really just the start thats really challenging, after that you will also enjoy it
 

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Id say the first step for everyone who isnt already „in the game“ should be to gain momentum. From my experience it gets so much easier after you got the first few approaches in, get the first dates etc etc. If you let too much time pass between the approaches it will get harder again. Once you‘re in you just gotta keep doing it. So just approaching x amount of women is already a challenge & also the first step for pretty much any beginner. The great thing is how much easier it gets as time goes by. Its really just the start thats really challenging, after that you will also enjoy it
Great advice
 

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I was saying that is it fair to say you have to get 5 numbers in 30 minutes to complete the challenge??

What if you don’t get any numbers at all?

Unless I read it wrong?

shyt I gotta get a girls everyday ?? Lol I’m tryna figure out if I can.

If the 30 mins pass and you don't get 5 numbers then, you fail, though you can try again soon after the time passes or the next day, bearing in mind the numbers from the previous unfulfilled challenge does not count or carry over on the re try, you must still get 5 numbers.
 

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Thats also what Im thinking about right now :patrice:

There also has to be a clear progression for beginners to get them going step by step

Interesting I'll bear that in mind, possibly on the next challenge the focus will be solely on beginners/novices, on this current challenge I included the experienced/pro guys on the challenge not to be left out.
 

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So who is all down for the challenge ?
Ill write up all the names and drop a tagged post daily where everyone reports his success/rejection/experience
 
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