Coli Breh that have had kid(s) with your girl and maintained the relationship..whats the secret??

[1thouwow]

Communicate, be supportive, but also stand your ground and put her in her place.

 

[Ineedmoney504]

A big chunk of your post is about sex and how freaky the sex needs to be . Sounds like you have underlying issues in your relationship and she is frustrated. Seems like you have some work to do dad.

I’m not the thread starter sis lol

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

I only read the OP so I can only imagine the responses

But as a happily married father who's been w/my wife for 12 years I think I can offer some actually useful advice instead of woman bashing dap fishing

For starters obviously having a kid is a huge commitment. You fukked up by being reckless with that birth control. We are talking about a human life here

Secondly you shouldn't have kids with someone you aren't sure you want to spend the rest of your life or at least deal with for the next 18 years. 2 years in is still puppy love IMO

Thirdly you shouldn't make any long term commitments with someone you haven't lived with. Everyone moves at their own speed I guess but that's a mistake people should never make.

Fourthly she might be going through postpartum depression and not know how to deal. That shyt is real and manifests itself in different ways. Def do that.

Fifly whats the arrangement? Are yall both working? How evenly do yall split baby duties? Are yall sharing the sleep torture? If she feels like you're not pulling your weight she might be growing resentful.

Ultimately you are where you are and the baby is here now. That baby has to be your top priority regardless of what happens with the relationship. You might want to talk to some custody lawyers breh. I'm not even kidding. This has all the hallmarks of a bad ending

Just my opinion

 

[Bawon Samedi]

No kids.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I’m not the thread starter sis lol

Oh you sound the same. My bad

 

[Bawon Samedi]

Exactly.

I’m good on that. I’ll never forget my dad saying at one point it was like he woke up and my mom was a different person. I love them both but that was some man to man shyt.

shyt is scary out there. All my brehs starting to get married and have kids and I’m like

Whats worse is that I'm seeing dudes YOUNGER than me having kids more often and them being pressured into having kids. My goofy ass aunt asked why don't I have kids. Ever since then I bushed her lol.

I do wanna have kids but DEFINITELY not while Im still in my 20s.

 

[the bossman]

She may feel like you need to commit and out a ring on her finger.

I overlooked this. This could be an underlying issue too. Ol girl might not feel like you're all the way in

 

[Ineedmoney504]

Oh you sound the same. My bad

I’m sure we probably do. Y’all attitudes and way y’all carry yourself like lil kids is disgusting tbh

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

Bet I could deal with marriage and having a kid

I'm used to being depressed and getting yelled at

 

[Ineedmoney504]

Bet I could deal with marriage and having a kid

I'm used to being depressed and getting yelled at

 

[Geode]

Women also need to be honest (and do some some research as well) on how pregnancy will impact them and then have an open and honest discussion with their partner about how these impacts will change the relationship before the baby gets here. There will definitely be rough patches and a lot of new experiences, but it shouldn't be 100% surprises for either partner.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I’m sure we probably do. Y’all attitudes and way y’all carry yourself like lil kids is disgusting tbh

I know right. God forbid we promote understanding after birth and not having children with people unless you're truly committed to that person and the situation. Oh how terrible we are. Lol

You sound like a child yourself and a whiny one at that.

Since you don't like talking to me feel free to move on from this dialogue. You began the interaction so now we can end it. Thanks and have a great day.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Women also need to be honest (and do some some research as well) on how pregnancy will impact them and then have an open and honest discussion with their partner about how these impacts will change the relationship before the baby gets here. There will definitely be rough patches and a lot of new experiences, but it shouldn't be 100% surprises for either partner.

I agree with this

 

[360dagod]

Indeed

I will continue to pull out until im married. Thats how it should be

Babies before marriage is too risky of a move

shyt..
Babies after marriage is riskier

 

[Hiphoplives4eva]

this is not about having sex for me(which we’ve probably about 5-6 times since my guy got here. I ain’t tripping, I’ll get my nut the old fashion way

this is about the moody, meanness, always attitude, nagging shyt. I’m not tripping on the sex right now, I don’t run the streets, I go to work and come home, we do a bunch of family stuff together and every day it’s still ugliness coming from her that I hate. shyt has you walking on egg shells in your own home cause you don’t which person you gonna get

Your woman might need to get manhandled and hate fukked. She'll come around