Dealing with Depression...how do you do it?

[Unknown Poster]

Thanks for the responses. Today is just one of those days where my depression got the best me.
The worst thing about depression (to me atleast) is how much energy it takes away from you.
People would say I was very energetic back in the day, but sometimes it's a struggle just to get out of bed.
and people wouldn't even see me as someone who suffers from depression.
I work out regularly and am in shape...seem to always be smiles, but damn...behind that smile is a broken soul.

My depression gets so bad sometimes I just don't respond to emails or DMs or people that genuinely want to talk to me.
Sometimes I feel like if I had more success in life or some other things to preoccupy me (like a GF, Wife, family house, a career) I wouldn't be depressed
But I just get sick and tired of working my ass off trying to improve my situation and very little changes.
I get depressed looking for work...cause they see my pitiful resume, useless degree, and African AF name and immediately pass it over.
After a while, I would stop getting excited for interviews.
I expected life to be better at this point.
When society don't want to give you a chance...it's depressing.
I'm just thankful that there are some great souls on this site I could talk to. It's appreciated.

Just being able to tell people that depression doesn't have to be the end all to be all.
It's a fight I've fought for almost 16 years now.
It doesn't get better...it just gets easier to deal with...I guess.

 

[Complexion]

Buy some DLPA. Take around 500-750mg upon rising with an empty stomach. See what happens.


Also, log off The Coli.

 

[downtheline]

Motorcycle is great for clearing your head. It is something you have to pay 100% too, so it's great for clearing your mind. If you are stuck inside your head while riding, it can be really bad.

You are a DJ right? Buy an acoustic guitar or bass. It will help with the depression for sure. It's something new (assuming you have not already played) and will keep you occupied. If you don't know how, teach yourself how to read music.

Im over the top on that recommendation, but it really helped me with depression.

 

[Da King]

Buying sneakers and clothes to deal with depression doesn’t sound healthy

 

[Ghost Utmost]

Most of the people who are sad all the time aren't even truly suffering. They are bored. Lonely.

And bored and lonely is soul crushing over time. That's what solitary is all about. It's torture.

But if you are living a lifestyle that is not behind perpetually locked doors, you can fight back against these kinds of "problems" pretty easily.

Basic approach: Just figure out somewhere to go where people are at. Like. Take a dance class. Join a gym. Start frequenting a local bowling alley.

Next level approach: who told you that you were supposed to be having so much got damn fun in the first place? Okay. You're by yourself right now. What makes you think you shouldn't be by yourself right now? Same rules apply here. Maybe develop a hobby while you have some time to kill. But this approach doesn't require other people.

 

[ScoopNScore]

Theres black male therapist out there and they gonna tell you the exact same thing any other one would

N watch him find one n bush him cus he thinks his advice is "c00nish"

 

[ObsidianDev]

Prioritize your sleep. Make it imperative you hit the bed at a certain time and get 7-8 hours of UNINTERRUPTED sleep.

Man, just over the past week I've been prioritizing getting between 7-9 hours of sleep each night and forcing myself to peel away from my laptop and phone before midnight.

The mood difference is night and day, no pun intended

 

[Fillerguy]

I've been dealing with depression for over 15 years now. It started due to a triggering event in which I got jumped by 5 people on the way to a college party and the friend I went to this party with abandoned me and ran and I nearly was killed. Since then, I've dealt with medications that didn't do anything but make me fat and sluggish, I've heard some wishy washy fake ass advice from people who wanted me to stop talking to them and didn't actually want to help me, and until I come across a BLACK MALE THERAPIST...I refuse to go to therapy. I'm not talking to no black man hating black female therapist calling us "dusty bytches" on TikTok.

The main sources of my depression have come from
- Not having money/being broke and having it stopping me from doing what I want to do.
- Being Single/Lonely
- Feeling isolated/alienated in an overwhelmingly white city
- dealing with racism/anti-blackness

I deal with depression by:

- Making Music
- Skateboarding
- Collecting sneakers
- Buying clothes
- Talking online to people (cause I don't talk to many people in my real life)

With that said, I am so thankful for the coli, cause I can breathe on here and discuss the things I want to discuss to like minded people who can relate.

I feel a lot of Black Men are depressed...but we don't have outlets or support systems Black Women do...so we tend to dwell in very self-desrtuctive mindsets
And we're gaslit for talking about our feelings...made to feel weak...made to feel like failures for having emotions. But that's normal.

With that said, I wouldn't wish what I'm going through on anybody...but depression won't end your life. There are ways to overcome what you dealing with.

The lack of funds was the first thing you named as a source of depression yet you haven't said what you've done to remedy that. Why?

I'm only asking because I was in relatively similar only I couldn't afford therapy and kept my pain to myself. Once I focused on my paper, everything else followed. I'm in a far healthier place, mentally and physically after I sarted tunnel visioning on my career. The only thing worse than being alone and depressed is being alone, depressed and broke aka with options. At least for me.

 

[Doomsday]

White girls from Denver aren't feeling a black man who skates huh?

 

[Flexington]

Sometimes I feel like if I had more success in life or some other things to preoccupy me (like a GF, Wife, family house, a career) I wouldn't be depressed

Having distractions does help. However that is all those items you've listed are: distractions.

Just seeing how moving and certain changes in your life still haven't completely helped, as others said it sounds like the root of your problem may be more inward and therapy and an outlet to work through that conflict will be the biggest help long term.

You can move, get a house, get a million dollars tomorrow and still be just as if not more depressed. As a human it is our curse to forever "need", happiness isn't a particular item or event is it a state of mind that changes as we all do. It will take constant work, and love for yourself, to really feel happy.

 

[Blown Moon]

Well to combat darkness you can't focus on it you have to find light and let it envelope you so I use meditation




























And sometimes drugs.

 

[Jean Jacket]

I hate to see people put time and energy into helping people who don’t want to be helped

There are alot of insightful posts in this thread but OP probably won’t be back in here

Alot of us are familiar with OPs story and have offered advice before. @cheek100 said he reached out offline and op didn’t respond

This same guy said the coli was causing issues with his family and he’s still here!

Dude in here proudly saying he refuse to get the therapy he knows he needs

Why should we give a fukk?

U a real one. Tried to help a Breh going thru it. Same response. Refer them to help and leave it alone.

 

[ISO]

OP let’s be completely honest here. You make it clear that you don’t like white folks. Yet you lived in NYC which has a ton of black folks to go to Denver which doesn’t. Plus when you did live in NYC all your roommates were white

Nah that’s crazy

 

[Canada Goose]

I'm an depressed breh, doing my hobbies, going to the park, going to the gym, helped with my mental health.


I'm still very depressed but those things I mentioned provided temporary relief for me.


I take three different medications for my mental health, rather than make me it makes me feel at best.


I also have intrusive thoughts and is on the spectrum which makes things worse. Unlike others autism didn't work in my favor

 

[spacewraith]

Very surprised by the lack of 'chemical imbalance' posts in this thread thus far. A very mature and serious discussion