Do Average Men Understand WHY Women Put Them On Child Support?

[wickedsm]

I'm gonna stop you here, madam.



In this matter, the 3rd party in question doesn't "step in",
that third party is PULLED IN by one of the two parties.


Follow me now...the question this thread title asks is essentially
"Why does that party PULL IN the third party?"

The threadstarter says it's for one particular reason. I don't think that is true.
Do you?

I stated in this very response that you shortened and quoted that I am sure different people file for different reasons.

Some because they have to.
Some because the relationship has soured in some way.
And yes
Some for structure.

Is your position that no one ever files so they can have some structure in regards to support and visitation?
(Yes I acknowledge that both parents can choose to violate the order)

 

[Taadow]

I stated in this very response that you shortened and quoted that I am sure different people file for different reasons.

Some because they have to.
Some because the relationship has soured in some way.
And yes
Some for structure.

Is your position that no one ever files so they can have some structure in regards to support and visitation?
(Yes I acknowledge that both parents can choose to violate the order)

No.

My position is that I disagree with the threadstarters' position.


I absolutely believe that people file on others so they can have structure is regards to support and visitation.
I absolutely DO NOT believe that people file on others so they "don't have to argue with them anymore".

I absolutely believe that people file on others using the system to their advantage.
I absolutely DO NOT believe that people fully understand all the ways they can shoot their advantage in the foot when they do.

 

[wickedsm]

No.

My position is that I disagree with the threadstarters' position.


I absolutely believe that people file on others so they can have structure is regards to support and visitation.
I absolutely DO NOT believe that people file on others so they "don't have to argue with them anymore".

I absolutely believe that people file on others using the system to their advantage.
I absolutely DO NOT believe that people fully understand all the ways they can shoot their advantage in the foot when they do.

We will have to agree to disagree. I have seen non custodial parents use the system to their advantage as well as custodial. And i'm not speaking about a friend of a friend. I am talking about my own personal experience.
I also believe as I detailed above the legal rights that a court order grants a non custodial parent ad opposed to some happy hand shake deal with an ex.

 

[Taadow]

We will have to agree to disagree. I have seen non custodial parents use the system to their advantage as well as custodial. And i'm not speaking about a friend of a friend. I am talking about my own personal experience.
I also believe as I detailed above the legal rights that a court order grants a non custodial parent ad opposed to some happy hand shake deal with an ex.

Well then I don't think we disagree.

 

[G-Zeus]

My nicca was paying 400-500 every two weeks to his bm..so he can see his daughter..

She was blocking him no matter cuz he was seeing another girl...


He had to take her to court...where he was ordered to pay 300 a month....

And get 2 week ends a months

 

[Reginald Noble]

I don't even know why these nikkas would be naive enough to believe this is for the good of the child at all.

The thing here is that the mother is selfish for bringing in a child into this world knowing the nikka ain't shyt, knowing her relationship with the nikka ain't strong and knowing damn well half the time the nikka ain't ready or DON'T WANT no baby.

I don't give a fukk - Ain't no reason an "Empowered" Strong "Independent" Black "Quean" should have to be putting a Black man on child support in 2016.

CHOOSE BETTER MEN, ONLY HAVE SEX WITH MEN WHO HAVE COMMITTED TO YOU AND ARE COMPATIBLE WITH YOU, AND WHOM YOU RESPECT - AND YOU WON'T HAVE TO DO THIS.

IF SINGLE BABY MOMMAS WERE ONLY 10% OF THE BLACK POPULATION I WOULDN'T BE SAYING THIS - BUT IT'S 75 fukkING PERCENT. WOMAN THE fukk UP.

 

[wickedsm]

My nicca was paying 400-500 every two weeks to his bm..so he can see his daughter..

She was blocking him no matter cuz he was seeing another girl...


He had to take her to court...where he was ordered to pay 300 a month....

And get 2 week ends a months

Please share this story far and wide.

 

[DarkHorse23]

You two should fukk. With the dikkriding that just happened here it should be fun and easy for you two.

Truth hurts

 

[Reginald Noble]

Crazy how people can hate the mother/father of their child

nikka half of these parents don't even know each other. So how are you acting surprised.

Half of these babies born in the 00's is by some nikka who met some bytch in the club and had drunk sex.

The fukk you think kinda land we living in dawg?

 

[Everythingg]

I will continue to use data that describes ALL of the situations surrounding people and their children.

How can you prove what "stat" is true and what "stat" is false? Or you just trust cac institutions to tell you about black family life?

 

[Reginald Noble]

How can you prove what "stat" is true and what "stat" is false? Or you just trust cac institutions to tell you about black family life?

A lot of times we don't even need stats.

I think hundreds of dudes on FB in like 25 major cities around the U.S. saying they can't seem to find a Black woman aged 18-25 without a kid is telling enough.

Instead of debating obvious problems we need to be focused on fixing the problem instead of debating whether it exists and whose fault is it.

Where there's smoke there's fire brehs

 

[Everythingg]

So unfortunately a 3rd party has to determine what's "fair"

What happens when that "3rd party"(the courts) does not want to see a successful black family/child?

 

[Mowgli]

What be killing me is these dudes on here actually pretend they give a fukk for daps.

Dudes ain't trying to actually understand the concepts and laws set in place as to why Child Support is even created in the first place.

They just post sensationalist headlines, call people c00ns, jack it to tranny porn while spouting homophobic slurs ad nauseam, sleep, repeat.

fukking ponderous. But I do enjoy the trolling.

If you knew brazillian jujitsu you'd never be on child support

 

[G-Zeus]

Please share this story far and wide.

He was with this girls that is a control freak..
Dudes mom is also a control freak so I figured this was a case of going with what he knows..
He lived with her and used to give her 700-800 off his pay check so she pays for whatever.. He made 1250 every two weeks..like me cuz then we worked the same job(I got him in)
But her crazy cuz them to have off and on relationships which ended in him having enough and moving out... To see his daughter, he still paid 400-500 a pay check. She was kind of shifty cuz I ended up one day at the hospital to check on dude daughter.. She "fell off the bed" and got injured..my dude was 500 miles away with his current girl..

When she noticed he wouldn't come back.. She would take the money and tell him he can't come in the house...

After being depressed.. We asked him what's eating him.. When he told us.. we said.. Take a lawyer and get ur week ends or shared custody... We told him he would probably only pay 30% of his pay.

The judge said she is in the wrong.. The father wants to pay and is over paying.. She can't stop him from seeing his father.. Reduced the amount he was paying by 66% and said if she pulls any stunt.. Come back and they would settle things..

Since he

Stopped her from moving to a different city..
Stopped her from changing countries (they forced her to bring her back)
Forced her to let him have hisbdauther weeks at a time during summers..


Breh.. We can win if we willing to do good..

 

[Reginald Noble]

If you knew brazillian jujitsu you'd never be on child support

Is there a hold that can cause a spontaneous abortion? Either way they sending your ass to jail for involuntary dawgie