And that's dumb, because as long as two different people are parents of the same child there will always, ALWAYS
be arguments about what is done for the child. ALWAYS.
And that will be the case whether they have a strained relationship, or are happily married together.
An agreement is only as good as the parties involved.
So two parties can come to an agreement on anything if both (BOTH) are willing to be fair.
But you and I know that in these situations, that is not the impetus of both parties all the time.
I'll add this: getting "the man" involved is a good way to get the overall picture fucced up for both parties and the child.
I wonder if "average women" understand that's why men (especially black men) don't want to get put on child support.
Again - i'm not saying it's wrong. But i'm saying the system is not set up for the betterment of all parties involved.
That sounds well and good assuming that you're dealing with 2 reasonable people that can communicate.
Let's talk about what's "fair"
If the custodial parent thinks 2000 a month is fair
And the non custodial parent thinks 500 a month is fair.
That's where unfortunately a 3rd party has to become involved.
Both parents need to contribute based upon their individual financial ability.
There's women who would be happy to see the man broke and homeless and still run around talking about "he don't really do shyt for his kid"
But there's damn sure men that honestly think they can drop by pampers once or twice a month, a pair of shoes here and there and some dikk when they want to fukk and will run around screaming how they "do for their kid"
Who's fair is fair?
In the other thread we see several posters saying 200 a month tops. 300 a month tops. No matter what the father's income the mother's income the child's specific needs etc.
Numerous people pointed out "hey, I have a baby and just pampers milk wipes baby stuff costs more than that"
A poster would hop in with (and I've seen it in this thread too)
"Well the bytch shouldn't have the baby at all if she can't afford everything for the child"
For every story yall can tell about miserable bytches that just make the baby daddy miserable I can match it with a story of a worthless fukk who doesn't do shyt for their kids.
If I did though, since this is the coli
I would be met with a million excuses including
The bytch shouldn't have let him fukk
The bytch should have let him fukk but demanded he use a condom
The bytch should have had an abortion because he just wants to fukk freely not make babies
The bytch should stop fukking no good nikkas and only fukk good guys like the ones posting (who ironically cosign the above, but are "good guys")
The bytch shouldn't have any babies unless she can support them 400% by herself
The bytch has more birth control options than me so fukk her.
The bytch can legally get an abortion so I want a right to a legal abortion.
The bytch knew I wasn't shyt when I was fukking her.
On and on and on.
So unfortunately a 3rd party has to determine what's "fair"
