Do low budget dates imply low effort and lack of caring?

[Strapped]

Nah I don't think so. If I was a man I wouldn't be wining and dining out the gate.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I haven't been on a date in a minute but I never really cared where the guy took me. It's his money he can spend it how he likes. I have my own money to eat where I want and spend to go out when I want so doing his thing is no big deal.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Lol this reaction is confusing lol

 

[ZEupTWN]

If y’all can’t come to some sort of middle ground might as well keep it moving cause the genuine interest is not there....

 

[SATAN]

Hoe babble

 

[JQ Legend]

I always take a chick to mexican for a first date, i'm only out a few bucks if things aren't going good..

I'll only invest more money and time, if we hit it off on date 2.

WOAT username to post correlation

 

[JQ Legend]

U even trying to convey here?

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

The true to me is that it's situational.

For me, it takes awhile to ask women out.

I like to gauge where their head is at. Usually most women don't pass the initial barometer that I have as a precursor for a "date". So I usually have stopped contacting them by then...

But when I come across a rare gem of a quality woman, then I'm not taking them to somewhere nonchalant like coffee, because I'm trying set the tone.

Understand my motivation is different than a lot of peeps on here. Most peeps are content with just regularly getting their dikk wet and nothing else.

Which is nothing to someone like me. I can go out to bar / club / or use a dating app with minimal effort and of course get sex with out paying or putting in any real effort in....

But for truly quality woman, nah a coffee date won't suffice.

But like mentioned above, most women I come across, ain't quality nice restaurant material.....

A coffee date should be the barometer to find where a woman’s head is at..
A first date is an introduction..
The second date should set the tone of ones intent and involvement..
I’m not knocking what works for you..
But first dates should never be intimate..
Unless.
You and shorty have known each other for a good hot minute..
Even if you are sizing up this rare gem of a woman(your words)..
And your initial proposal of a date..
You still don’t fully know where her head is at until the both of you are in an atmosphere that is conducive for witty banter and conversation..
A coffee date..
As you put it..
Is not about just getting your dikk wet..
Nor..
Is it an interview..
It’s a chance to just relax and let your guard down without expectations from both parties..
Hell...
It doesn’t even have to be a bar or coffee shop..
With the fall coming up..
A nice walk in the park, an art museum, a poetry reading, live music(preferably jazz or something soft)..
Or..
As other posters have mention..
Playing pool or go cart racing..
Something that gets the blood going, nerves suppressed and witty banter flowing..
Is better than dropping racks on somebody that will likely put you in the provider nikka category..
Good, quality, rare gems..
Like to have fun too and don’t want to put on “airs”..
Like you said..
It’s situational but you kinda made a blanket statement breh..
Again..
Whatever works for you and if you agree with this perspective
But to any little nikkas reading this..
Or..
Don’t have a lot experience with women..
If you go out here..
Balling out on the first date..
You will be that provider nikka..
And as soon as you drop her off at home..
Some nikka that only took her out for “Chicken wings and Fries”..
Will have her bent over while Ty Dolla $ign plays in the back

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

In the grand scheme of things she sounds very elitist.


Personally speaking I love pizza. Every first date I go to Valentino’s where I’ll buy a pie, knots and whatever drink she wants. It has nothing to do with effort it’s more about comfort. It’s very unfortunate people look at that as being low effort.

 

[ThaRealness]

I dont do coffee dates

I dont do dinner dates either.

I do fake dates at trendy bars

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

Lol didn't we have a big thread not too long ago about ole dude buying some ungrateful bytch pizza and she clowned his ass on social media?

These hoes want a grand meal without even knowing if they even like the nikka enough to want daily conversation let alone see eventually fukking. Cause its all about leverage in dating. Win or lose they wanna be able to say they got something out of it.

They selfish like that

 

[NSSVO]

Dinner puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on first dates.

 

[VertigoKnight]

In the grand scheme of things she sounds very elitist.

A cursory glance at her twitter shows you she thinks her shyt don't stink.

I Like a confident woman but she comes across as smug and judgmental

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

Only thing I notice about these type of tweets...... Is the women posting them are always single

That should tell you everything you should know

 

[Balla]

The true to me is that it's situational.

For me, it takes awhile to ask women out.

I like to gauge where their head is at. Usually most women don't pass the initial barometer that I have as a precursor for a "date". So I usually have stopped contacting them by then...

But when I come across a rare gem of a quality woman, then I'm not taking them to somewhere nonchalant like coffee, because I'm trying set the tone.

Understand my motivation is different than a lot of peeps on here. Most peeps are content with just regularly getting their dikk wet and nothing else.

Which is nothing to someone like me. I can go out to bar / club / or use a dating app with minimal effort and of course get sex with out paying or putting in any real effort in....

But for truly quality woman, nah a coffee date won't suffice.

But like mentioned above, most women I come across, ain't quality nice restaurant material.....

You think a rare gem wouldn’t like coffee?

How do you tell if they’re really a rare gem?