You misunderstood my original post then...not once did I say "people change only when they are forced"
I asked what other things are catalysts to change...
There is judgement behind your statement when you juxtapose wild college girls: one changes after graduation and the other changes further down the line (one can argue that both are forced changes). You are insinuating that one change is better than the other...
The whole thread is judgmental

you are asking if a former hoe deserves to have a nonhoe as their partner...
If the nonhoe (who can me female or male) is aware of the situation and is fine with it, what difference does it make if we think their relationship is right or wrong?
Especially if you don't care?
This thread is here for a reason